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. A marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman and God.
. An open marriage is a type of marital agreement where both partners agree to explore romantic, emotional or sexual connections with others outside their primary relationship.
This practise of an open marriage defeats the point of an actual marriage. It repels the spiritual, emotional, physical and relational unity that ought to take place when a man and a woman marries. Mark 10:8 says "And the two shall become one flesh, so they are no longer two but one flesh." So I wonder how that is meant to happen when both partners include other people.
I do not however, pretend to not understand why some of these things happen in the first place. There is the case of infidelity. But in some cases, it is the misleading cause of "I fell out of love". In my personal opinion, in the case of infidelity, it is advised to simply withdraw yourself as much as you can from the situation, seek support and not condescend to your erring partner's level.
In the case of "falling out of love", it is simply excitement drowned out and the inevitable comfortable. This is when love has blossomed to it's fullness. But a lot of people cannot grasp this, and believe open marriage is the solution. I have heard people say "one person is not enough." That is a personal opinion and not a fact. And so is mine. Monogamy or polygamy is a lifestyle. As a certain person cannot grasp being with just one person, so also another person cannot grasp being with more than one person. It is a function of the way you live.
I believe open marriages is one of the many shortcuts in this world to disaster. Satisfaction at the end of it all, is never accomplished. We ought to start redefining our principles and looking at wholeness, love and marriage, the way we were supposed to.