Marriage is not founded on love.
My bad, I should have elaborated further. The 'marriage' I was referring to is the most common (traditional) Christian marriage—it's where we got the idea of marriage; the rest just followed along.
I believe what you're referring to is the 'unconventional' marriage where people marry for certain reasons other than love. And I agree, this type of arrangement is quite prevalent. I, for one, finds it hard seeing myself marrying for love, not with the prices of goods and services constantly skyrocketing.
Next to that new generations have huge wishlist of the perfect partner.
Best of luck to them. Perfect partner only exists in books and movies.
Come on Christian marriage, or any religion marriage, is rarely based on love. Family wants you to get married with the same religion and nothing else. Not to mention the high rate of incest and sexual abuse. Traditional is what we like it to be. Marriage was never sealed by church or the government.
I agree the perfect partner doesn't exist and there's no need to since we are far from perfect.
People always get married for a reason. Being with the love of your life is one, not being single/bullied is one, for the children one, to please parents, make families closer, to get a visa, you name it.
What is love? Only hardships can tell if people grew close, are loyal, show respect and still have fun together and can say I love you.
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Okay. I hear you. Seemed like you don't believe in a romantic relationship anymore. Did something happen?
I knew a lot of religous people though that did marry for love and even amidst difficult situations.
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Well said @henryclive.
I was going through the topic and reading these entries . Ah after long time I am back in game. What I understood is @xiao-aine doesn't believe in marriage or just don't want to get married. Whatever it is.
But I want to let @xiao-aine know that not in every religion and especially not in religion Islam it was for purpose. As I included not in every religion I meant to say origin of Christianity and Judaism etc. but slowly the marriages are becoming like you are saying, I admit nearly in all religions it is happening even in Islam.
But there are good ones too, to give as examples.
The question why to marriage is having two answers from now;
First is, because to not die alone, to have someone who give us Respect after the death, who remember us after our death. Who can tell life of ours to the rest of generation and the process will go on.
Secondly this is the purpose of life, the man and woman are made for each other, if we are going in the other way to use this, like going to bars, pub, clubs etc we know what's happening out there, for the time we are for sure, getting us out of tensions, questions, too much care, etc. but after we spend our these ten or twenty years, we will feel that we are alone, this all was the young blood's curse we faced. But the life will not changed then, and what spent was past. Maybe I made some points. Sorry my English is not well to understand but.....
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I appreciate you for joining the conversation.
I respect Xiao-Aine's view that marriage is not based on love, as you mentioned that this reflects what has been happening both today and in ancient times. However, this should not invalidate the fact that people did marry for love; otherwise, we would not have known it.
I agree with you that man and woman were made for each other for that has been the design since the very beginning. We do have freewill, so those who don't like the design are free to do whatever they fancy. But of course, love doesn't come to those who refuse to love. That's the truth of it.
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