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Often I often wonder what I do not like about my life since, it is possible that there are elements of my interior, exterior, work, academic or family environment that I am not liking for one reason or another and in the first instance I believe that I do not have the faculty to process the change.
After questioning what I am not liking, I begin a process of closing my eyes to imagine an unpleasant attitude that someone has when I am interacting with him and despite the friendship that unites us, he has a despot attitude. In this imaginary moment, I have the faculty to perceive the discontent generated by the behavior of that person and I notice that his personality is not compatible with mine.
At the end of this exercise of imagination I have clearer the scenario since, regardless of how that person is, the reality in this situation is that I do not like to have contact with someone like that as well as, I can not change it because he is like that and if it is to modify something, that I can only do with myself.
It should be noted that, since the aforementioned attitude is not correct, in reality who has it is someone else and it is impossible to do it to my mold for it, the right and healthy thing for both parties is to leave because in this way you can avoid problems by clashes of personalities and respect should never be lost despite not being equal.
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Several years ago it was common to find myself in situations similar to that taught in the technique of imagination and, more than once I asked and questioned myself about what is the appropriate way to face a situation where we are in a scenario that we do not like something; doubt that I finally ended up understanding with the passage of time because, the best way to protect our emotional stability is to get away from everything we do not like being this one of the transcendental steps to protect ourselves.
Indeed, we will never be able to impose a change on someone because we can all change when we decide and because we really consider it essential to do so. Now, it is normal that during the process of a change we can feel fear since, by nature, everything unknown scares but, if we know how to handle fear, we will be able to extract all the learning that is hidden behind that feeling.
On some occasions we have been sold the premise that it is preferable to stay in our comfort zone, accept bad attitudes of other people or circumstances, be conformists or failing that, make suffering part of us. I consider that these situations are only tricks that use fear and denial to change what we do not like for it, we must eliminate them from our lives because they are negative criteria.
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We live in a society where we are inadequately taught how to change the things we do not like, since, we receive a kind of camouflaged doctrine imparting that, the right thing is to deal with each circumstance and if we can not make them aside, we have to anchor them to us passing over the displeasure that generates us.
When making the decision to change something we don't like, we have the opportunity to free ourselves from the weight that was anchoring us and preventing us from moving smoothly towards the path we long for. Keep in mind that, in some cases, we usually bring things that we do not like since childhood; it does not matter how long it has passed but, if we do not like them, we are in time to change them.
Finally, the right path we need to follow is where we feel comfortable with ourselves. That is, if in an environment or circumstance we reach equilibrium, that is the place where we must be and the safest thing is that to finally stay on that path, it is necessary to change many things that we do not like. Happiness only depends on us and change always brings us closer to it.
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