The Earliest Lesson I Remember Learning From My Parents

Children grow up to learn from their parents. Practically, they learn from their parent's actions than words. When I was a child, I was not exempted from this, I learned so many practical lessons from my parents. In this post, I will tell you the practical lessons I learned from my parents.

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HUMANITARIAN SERVICES

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My parents have six children, but I grew up to see many people in our house; some were related to us, and some were not. Most of the people who stayed with us were the needy; some were orphans, and some were from families who needed help. My Dad trained most of them in school; he gave them at least a basic education. As a professional carpenter, he trained the male carpentry, and they ended up becoming responsible men and women who had means of a living.

I learned I should never close my eyes to someone who is in need. As I grew, I learned the value of helping to the best of my ability. My Dad never said to me; IDONGESIT you have to help someone who is in need, but I learned from his actions as I grew up.

I have come to realize the reason my Dad exhibited that attribute. As I try my best to extend a helping hand to those who need help, I have come to realize the happiness that accompanies such a recommended attribute, and I always want to have that innermost Joy.

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A RESPONSIBLE FATHER AND HUSBAND AND FATHER

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I never saw my parents quarrel as I grew up. As a boy, I never knew if my parents had disagreements and misunderstandings before, and I thought this was a perfect couple.

When I was about to get married, I approached my Dad as my buddy and said to him; hey, Dad, I never saw you quarrel with Mom before; your marriage with Mom is so perfect; I want to have such a marriage. My Dad said to me; "hey buddy, there is no perfect marriage because marriage is between two imperfect people, your mom and I used to have disagreements and misunderstandings, but we never allowed anyone else to know about our problems, and we tried to always settle our misunderstanding as quick as possible by talking about it and apologizing to each other, and you see son, never allow sunsets while you are still angry with your wife".

This has helped me a lot in my marriage, I always take the initiative to settle misunderstandings.

My Father did all he could to provide for his family though he is a technician, we never lacked the necessities. He pummeled himself and sacrificed a lot to train us in the university. As a father and husband, I naturally emulate my father because, to me, it's the normal thing to do because I grew up in an environment such as that.

My parents were not violent to each other, and my Dad never laid his hands on my Mom. I could remember one of the advice he gave me; he said; Idong, women are fun to be with; they will talk a lot and put meaning to things a lot, and when your wife nags, take it for fun; women are beautiful souls.

I see my wife as my joy giver when she nags; I laugh it off; it's just normal. I am not violent with my wife because I never saw Dad do such, what a beautiful lesson!

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NEVER PAY EVIL FOR EVIL

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Some of the people my Dad helped, turned against him, and they spread malicious lies about him. They try to tarnish his reputation and make him look like a bad person. My Dad never changed his personality for this, and he never stopped helping those who were in need because some of those he helped had turned against him. He once said to me that when you do good to others and extend a helping hand, do not expect them to repay you or even appreciate you; just do it because you have to do it, and God almighty will repay and reward you.

My Dad's brothers, whom he trained, turned against him, they even attacked him physically, but my Dad always tried to settle the matter amicably and sought help from the authorities. He said to me, "IDONGESIT, you can't use fire to quench the fire. Always use diplomacy to settle issues".

I have learned greatly from this as I always try to peaceably or settle conflicts amicably. I don't change my attributes because someone whom I helped has turned against me.

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Finally, I would like to say; extend a helping hand, be peaceable with all men, be nice to members of your household and not violent, and never pay evil for evil and experience the innermost Joy. Till you read from me next time, remain blessed.

Best Regards
@iddy