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All the wives in our society You will notice how to deal with her husband's wife 'in ten books about this, ten advice will be available in this book; In contrast, you will have to get ten books or advice about what her husband will behave with her husband. Thousands of books do not get such a book, where her husband has been advised to conduct his behavior with the wife. In our country society, most of the spouses of spouse's isolation, but emerging from her husband's behavior. But to treat a woman who is trying to behave in a world, it is more important to behave more than a more emergency husband. A wife can not break a family. In contrast, a husband can break a family, although the wife is innocent. Observing the events of divorced or divorce of our society, it shows its main responsibility to eighty percent of men. And as much as Waj Nasihat is the wife. Our faith religion has given importance to this issue. Husband has been warned in a rigid language. It has been warned to his wife and its rituals. There are a group of people in our society who want to use the wife like a house's buoya. There are other class people who think that he will raise his wife in the house. Islam has given equal rights to the husband and wife.
It is declared in Al-Qur'an- هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَهُنَّ Translation: Women are your garments, and you are the garments of women' (Surah Baqarah, verse 187) It is clear from this verse that women have equal rights with men.
Therefore, Islam has told the husband with great importance and caution how to treat his wife. Islam does not say to the husband, O husband, you shall do this with your wife, you shall not do that, you shall do this, you shall not do that. He did not give this type of order, he gave it in a different form, in other words. What is that?
The Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace, said:
Aisha said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “Kheirkem, Kheirkem Lakhleh, I am Kheirkem, Kheerkem Lakhleh, and I am Kheerkem Kheerkem, and I am Kheerkem Kheerkem, and I am your Kheerkem, and if your friend dies, then pray for him.”
Tarzma: On the authority of Ammajan Hazrat Ayesha Siddiqa, may Allah be pleased with her, she said, 'The best man among you is the one who is the best to his family. I am the best man to my family. (Tirmidhi 3695)
A man's burden of good and bad is his family. He who is good with family is a good man. There will be many people in the society who will treat their wives well in the sense that they advise others. And he misbehaves with his wife when he returns home.
Why did Islam determine the superiority of men? He is a good warrior, not a good or a good man, who has passed the battle. And good behavior with the family is a good man? What is the reason? When a woman becomes a wife and comes to her father-in-law's house; Her husband is the only one here. Everyone can hurt in a weak moment, but no one stands by even in that moment. If you husband can behave well in those weak moments then you are the best man.
What to do with husband and wife in the light of the Holy Qur'an Hadith-
(1) Conduct: Islam is very careful about the conduct of the husband. In Jahili era, husbands treated their wives like slaves. He used to divorce his wife on whim without any reason. Not only this, during separation husbands also wanted to return the ornaments or other wearables given by the husband. And for that they used to torture a lot. In order to remove that superstition from the society forever, Allah Ta'ala ordered-
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ
Tarjama: Be kind to them (wives) (Surah Nisa verse 19).
In the explanation of this part, Ibn Kasir (RA) said - واعشروهن بالمعرف) اي : تيبوا أقوالكم لهن, وحسنوا عقوالكم وحياتكم بوصير قدرتكم, كما تحب تولون منها, فافعل انت بها مثله The meaning of good behavior with women is that you talk well with women and have good manners. Keep your behavior and dress as good as possible. As beautiful as you expect them to be.
In explaining this verse, Tafsir Ma'refur Qur'an has been discussed in a little more detail. In Tafsir, I am citing from the Qur'an - during Jahiliyyah, women were oppressed by their husbands and also by their heirs. When a woman's husband died, the heirs used to deal with her. If he wanted to, he would marry himself or get married to someone else. If he didn't want to, he wouldn't marry anyone, he wouldn't even let them get married. What kept them imprisoned. In such a situation that the way to earn money is widened, the wife may not have been freed by the wealth given by her husband or they would have died in that situation.
In order to remove the plight of women, Allah says وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ. From this long discussion we learned that the husband should treat his wife well as he expects from his wife. Imam Ghazai (RA) wrote in Yahyaw Ulumuddin that it is necessary for everyone to know that among the various rights of wives, this is also one of the rights that the husband should treat her well and show good character. Behaving well with one's wife does not mean merely refraining from hurting her. Rather, if you suffer from your wife, bear that suffering. The interpretation of this verse in Tafsir Qurtubi says that in this verse, not only the husband, but also the husband, the guardian of the husband, the elder brother, the in-laws and the mother-in-law are ordered to behave well with the wives.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was very careful about good behavior. এক হাদিসে রাসূলে আকরাম সাল্লাল্লাহু আলাইহি ওয়াসাল্লাম বলেন- عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَتْ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : " إِنَّ مِنْ أَكْمَلِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِيمَانًا أَحْسَنُهُمْ خُلُقًا وَأَلْطَفُهُمْ بِأَهْلِهِ
On the authority of Hazrat Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with her, she said that the Messenger of Allah said, “The most complete believer is the one who is the best in conduct and is kind to his family and humble and friendly” (Tirmidhi, Hadith No. 2615).
In the last speech of the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and the farewell Hajj speech, he advised good behavior with his wife. He declared استوصوا بالنساء خيراً You take the advice of be kind to women. The good behavior of the husband with the wife or the good behavior of the wife with the husband is not only for the happiness of the family, every husband must be accountable for how he behaved with his wife on the Day of Resurrection, in the same way the wife must also be accountable for how she behaved with her husband on the Day of Resurrection.
We can know this from the hadith of Tibarani, Hazrat Abu Ayyub Ansari Radiyallahu Anhu narrates that the Messenger of Allah, may God bless him and grant him peace, said, the first dispute to be settled on the Day of Resurrection is the dispute between a husband and his wife. God's oath! (At that time) the wife's tongue will not speak, but her hands and feet will testify, this is how she treated her husband on earth! And the husband's hands and feet will testify that he has behaved this way or that way with his wife. After that, the case related to the boss and the employee will be raised in the court of God. No financial penalty will be settled on that day. Rather, the oppressed will be given the oppressor's good deeds and the oppressed's bad deeds will be placed on the oppressor's neck. Finally, the arrogant arrogant tyrants will be brought to life in iron chains. It will be said immediately take them to hell. thanks for reading ❤️❤️❤️ @skfirozrana