Asians have opinions as well but we are taught to ventilate them. That's what school is about. Think, think (bang for the head if you don't) speak out loud. Today it's the opposite. If you speak you are an enemy of the state, school, the neighbourhood or whomever it concerns or feels insulted.
We have sensitive and emotional people as well, Shy, introverts, and extroverts to name it and not everyone is able to formulate their thoughts or willing to share their opinion. There are plenty who will respond to everything you ask with an I don't know" or a "you can decide". For sure this has also to do with the level of education and the level of self-esteem. Now I think about it, it can also have to do with the part of the country you grew up. The western provinces and the centre of the country are more straightforward than those in the North, East and South. Next to that a country that rises out of the sea, fights nature won't manage with drama kings and queens. Dutch people are sober and say what they think, no party animals either.
Today it's different. The drama kings and queens with us aren't the Asians but the gold diggers and we don't consider that behaviour attractive.
You don't have columnists, irony, sarcasm, black humour, self reflection? My grandmothers already spat out what they thought (both born at the beginning of 1900) . It's not always likes but we like to know where we stand and we are taught that criticism isn't per se negative. (You are always free to say: Lalalala I don't hear you).
Do Asians shy away or is it an unwritten rule not to say what you think, believe, stand for?
Unfortunately, we're not.
Ammm, here if any person raises their opinion in front of any elderly even with due respect, he will be branded a non sense person.
We are taught to shut our mouths infront of elders even when they are wrong. Otherwise, we'll get to hear you are an outspoken person, is this what they have taught you in the school?
Therefore, when we present our opinion we either start crying or get angry.
Calm and composed opinion raisers are a few exceptional people present in every family. Rest are just emotional(drama) kings and queens.
And if you speak your mind infront of your sitting government then they'll pick you up from your house to have a fun party in their drawing rooms.
And you'll forget the spelling of opinion/criticism/thinking by the time you return(if) home sweet home.
Casual day it is here:)
Kind of people i admire, especially women❤
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Well, I was raised (primary school) to shut up (school and at home). Children were not allowed to speak during the meals. Sunday was the worst day of the week (not allowed to do anything).
It changed a few years later, not sure why. Perhaps my parents gave up on Christianity after they divorced? Also the highschool (capital cities) weren't as strict. Great teachers who did listen and showed respect (same for the pupils and an opinion was stimulated unlike what my youngest faces but for sure this has more to do with the school or teacher since my son has a completely different experience same for the university and at work).
On average we are urged to think, raised to think, be responsible and deal with problems ourselves and not rely on the help of others. This means there's no room to sit, wait, pray or cry. It's swimming or drowning.
I do see some changes like "1-year prison" if you leave an "aggressive" comment online.
Aggressive? What is aggressive, who decides? Most likely it comes to how it fits best or whom they like to clean up. It must be the democracy we live in that doesn't come with freedom.
I wonder what my grandmothers would say if they were still alive.
Is being an outspoken person bad? Everyone was once young. How fast people forget that beats me. If you brand a person with a different opinion a "no sense" person or an idiot it means you are far from wise, not intelligent and you see that person as a threat. Kind of pathetic if you are old and look down at those you might depend on one day. If I look around me I must say many I don't always like how the elderly are treated (disrespect). It must be the big ego of the young generation with us although not everyone and on average low low-educated (not interested in education) people. I assume they try to make themselves visible this way?
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That's the crux of this conversation.
When anyone's opinion doesn't align with us we immediately see that person as a threat.
Only intelligent and open minded people are ready to challenge their thought process and listen different school of thoughts.
As a matter of fact, new generation is actually very disrespectful toward their elders for sure.
The wanna be heard and seen so they have the loudest voice in the discussion.
They call it confidence and their parents become happy seeing their kids are fluently speaking(disrespecting) others.
One generation taught their kids to shut up altogether and one generation didn't teach their kids to shut up for once.
About my grandmothers? O my God, both of them were so naive and wouldn't dare to speak their minds. Here women were usually the same like them. We also have real B*** women who will only fight in a very vulgar manner.
It's better not to speak than to speak shit i think.
We are swinging from one extreme to another.
However, one can change this attitude by changing their surroundings.
I only got the chance to participate in healthy discussion in my university life. Forget about school and college days when there was no concept of talking to the students besides their academic course.
And I'm so thankful that now i can engage in a healthy criticism on steemit with intellectual people as I'm speaking to one:)
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Rude people always existed, and so did fighters. Male and Female. Plenty of women refused to get married and lived their lives alone, in a way they liked or made them less unhappy. Many of them might have been called witches (but how they were needed in case of need), others whores, women did wear men's clothes to survive, fought in wars, worked in factories, sailed the 7 seas (or more). I have an interesting history book about this (one has to find a way to survive).
On the other hand, women did rule (Cleopatra) and also are nasty persons (see some present women ruling).
Shouting: I've been taught that the louder the voice the lower the intellect and also the less right. Is it always true? I don't think so it depends on the person. Frustration, not being taken seriously is a reason to raise one's voice and if it comes to women: they have to work twice as hard to achieve the same as men. It's also interesting that if women behave the same as men they are called harsh, bitches, and cruel but men are compared with heroes, and courage.
Of course, this isn't always true and sensitivity plays a role so does self-esteem.
Like you (and my friends and children) we all deal with the same issues: where to find an intelligent person to have a discussion with? To exchange ideas? My son for example says he can't marry a girl without brains. It would drive him crazy. On the other, hand there are plenty of men going for the "stupid blond" because it feels better for their ego.
We all have issues with loud people, those who shout, gossip and say "Whatever you want is fine". I guess if you know yourself it's better to stay on your own instead of being with someone (friends included) you consider sheep or brainless.
Here we speak out, and share but we are not super talkative so it's worth listening if someone speaks. I do tend to believe that it's better to keep silent instead of talking just to make noise.
Shouting has nothing to do with confidence but a lack of it otherwise people would listen.
It's good to have normal discussion, isn't it? I am happy to talk with you too. What's the next drama we will watch?
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I have no idea as of now, last time i watched vincenzo, heard about it?
Next i saw a few clips of the Glory and thought to continue it but it felt too depressing one.
I'm more into dramas where you find a good laugh as well as content:)
What about you? Have you watched king the eternal monarch?
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