One of a self talk that damages self-esteem and how to fix it

UNHELPFUL “MOTIVATION”
It’s easy to bombard ourselves with “should” statements – that we should have tried harder, that we shouldn’t have done that. The reality, however, is far more unpredictable and ambiguous than you might think. There is no way to be sure that doing what you think you should’ve done would’ve somehow mitigated the risk. Instead:

Be gentle with yourself
Reward yourself positively
Be generous with treats and encouragement
Remind yourself that things don’t have to be complete – you just need to try