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Good morning steemians. It is a fact that while some people are weeping and nashing their teeth because they have no child, some are busy quarrelling among themselves over their preferences. Wives,. Husbands also quarrel over whether it is a girl or boy that should be the first child of the family. Sometimes it is o

Put to a new wife as demand that the first birth must be a boy. This type of demand has strained many marriages. As for me if asked my preference out of the two I will not be able to answer. Let me tell you a story about my self .
When my wife conceived for the first time after our marriage , it never occurred to me that such choices could be made as if the woman is in control of the sex of the child. Also, when you come to look at it deeply neither of the two does. It is nature which controls the way our body works It controls what comes out of the man and the one that comes out the woman, their combination and the result. When my first child came she was a girl; a beautiful girl and I loved her.
When it was time to dedicate her to God I did so as it is done in our church. What surprised me is that the evangelist who stood in for the Rev. Minister , after the event called me aside to counsel me. He advised me to accept and be happy with the sex that God gave me. In response I told him that the gender God gave me does not matter. I asked him whether Bill Clinton who has only a girl child, Chelsea is not happy. I asked him whether Obama is not happy because he has only girls. I told him I want to have three children only and even if they all are at the end girls that I will praise God for that Why would families worry about the sex of their first born?

Reasons Families Have Preferences

There are two reasons people prefer either sex as first child.

1. In Igbo land having a male as first child is regarded as a blessing. It is said that the family has gotten a person that will perpetuate his name, yet noone knows what he will become in life.
2. It is also believed that the family is lucky to have gotten someone that will take over the family after his father has gone. So the earlier he assumes his responsibility the better.
   On the part of female children those who support that they should be first born claim that the family has gotten someone who will help the mother to keep the house and look after her siblings.
   In my view it does not matter which one is the first or the last.
   #Advantages and Disadvantages
   To me there is no need to draw advantages. What is important is to empower your children with good upbringing. Give all of them good education. If you train a girl she will do well as the boys and in some cases surpass them. Under Yoruba customary law women can be family heads if they are strong from their places of marriage.

Our First Born

By the grace of God I am my father's first born. I live in Aba and since his death I am the one running the extended family from my station.it is a difficult task but a well trained female can also do it.

Conclusion

There is no merit in the argument of which sex should be the family's first child. Pray to God and whichever he gives, raise the person properly you will not regret it.