I think I really need to give thanks to @ruthjoe for giving us the opportunity to tell stories, which we can learn one or two things from.
Also, I would love to see a happy new year to all of us in the Steem for Ladies community and I hope and pray that this new year brings us lots of love and blessings.
I am happy to be sharing this story, and I am very sure that by the time you’re done reading the story, you will have one or two things to learn for it.
My Story
My story is about a young guy and lady who are very much in love with themselves, but are having a long distance relationship. This is not me trying to discourage long distance relationships but there are so many things which does not make it eventually work which I’m about to talk about while telling you this story.
Damilare and Idowu are lovers from their University days. Damilare lives in Lagos which is miles far away from Ondo state where Idowu lives. As for Damilare, he relocated back to Lagos after their University program while Idowu remained in Ondo State. Now, they had no choice than to always talk on phone but there was no form of physical appearance.
Their relationship kept on going well until Damilare met Bisola. These two had a fantastic chemistry and they talked online everyday of their lives until they linked up. After linking up the first time, they fell in love more with each other and before I knew it, they started dating. Now, Damilare had to share his attention between two women. He didn’t break up with Idowu but we could tell that he liked Bisola more than Idowu and he even invested in her business. Their love continued to grow most especially because they became business partners since Bisola is business minded and naturally, they both liked themselves.
This went on like that until Damilare got tired of Idowu and them having a long distance relationship. They broke up and he built something great with Bisola. It’s a very simple story, right? But what can we learn from this which will be my main topic for the day.
What can we learn from my story
One thing I feel we can learn is that long distance relationships isn’t about saying “I love you” all the time. It’s about dedication. Are you really dedicated to your partner? One thing that hurts is having a long distance relationship with a cheat. It may be either the man or woman. I know so many long distance relationships that worked out but at the same time, a lot of them end up failing when you and your partner don’t get to see and even lack the right communication.
Secondly, when dating someone, you need to have a value. That person should be able to benefit from you and it will be vice versa. You need to see yourself as an asset. That’s why Bisola was able to own the man because he sees her as a very serious lady and ending up with a responsible and hardworking lady is the dream of every man.
These two tips are very important and I hope we make use of them.
I’d be inviting @zulay7059 and @chilaw to also participate in this contest so we can learn from each other.
Feliz y bendecido día @abisolami, un placer saludarte
Excelente tema para debatir ya que hay muchas opiniones y cada quien las aporta desde su experiencia o su perspectiva y también es valedero, yo en lo particular no creo en relaciones a distancia, la única relación que se puede mantener a distancia es la de hermanos, madre e hijos, porque nunca van a dejar de ser familia, ese laso no lo acaba nadie, así no se comuniquen constantemente siempre van a ser familia, pero relaciones de parejas es bien difícil de mantenerlas por tanto tiempo.
Gracias por tu amable invitación. Un abrazo 🤗. Bendiciones
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Happy new year, Abisolami!
What I learned from this story is that Damilare is a bad boy. A veeeeery bad boy. [In that pastor's voice]
We often date people who tick our boxes, not just anybody with a fine body and face. Damilare must have seen something in Idowu before offering to make her his romantic partner. If he found someone better, or he suddenly found his partner inadequate, anyone would expect that he would try calling her attention to it (that's what partnership is about), support her in getting better or pack that relationship once he doesn't see a future with her.
And he needed no Bisola to show up by his door before making this decision.
This is an idealistic view.
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I agree that every individual should make themselves valuable, whether it is in a relationship, workplace or social gathering.
In truth, resourceful people are always sort for.
But then, I remembered we promised to listen and not judge. Maybe it is time to allow us judge harshly.😅
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