Do you know how to make a happy family? And how do you keep your family happy? What kind of secret did our elders have because of which they did not allow their family to be scattered, but they all lived happily together under one roof with love.
Don't we need to find a secret that we can use in today's age to keep our family away from all evil, to maintain love in our family, to live happily together? And what methods should we adopt to remove hatreds and misgivings so that we can lead a happy life.
So today I will share with you some of my best experiences and various challenges that came in our life and some sad events that shook the foundations of our happy life. But if our family walks shoulder to shoulder with us in every hardship, then surely the journey of life becomes easier no matter how difficult it is.
" Family is like branches on a tree, we all grow in different directions, yet our roots remain as one".
To strengthen our family, our elders taught our children to live with love, honor, trust and respect. Supporting each other in every sorrow and sharing small joys with each other is the best key to a happy family. We all used to love each other.
My grandmother died when I was a child, but my grandfather, with his wisdom and understanding, did not let our family's love and affection diminish. Everyone treated each other with respect and love.
Today I am going to tell you about my uncle who was deprived of children by Allah. Had a lot of treatment, prayed a lot, but maybe Allah had something else in mind. Perhaps their love was written in our destiny by Allah Almighty. Both uncle and aunt gave us a lot of love. From childhood, the uncle gave immense love to the children of his three brothers without any distinction.
After finishing work, whenever he came home, he would always bring us some food or drink, which made all of us children very happy and waited for him every day. But there came a day in our life when our waiting became waiting forever. He himself went to work safely but his funeral came back.
That day, that moment, that pain, that agony is still the same. It is very difficult for me to describe this incident in words. The shadow of a paternal uncle was suddenly lifted from our heads when we came to know that our uncle had died on the spot due to electrocution. Hearing this, it felt as if the soul had left our body, not theirs.
But even after hearing all this, one thought that maybe their breaths will come back, maybe Allah is testing us to see how we react but we could not do anything but be patient.
I heard from someone that...
"It is easy to give a sip of patience to others, but when you drink it yourself, you realize how heavy it is to drink every single drop".
On that day, the rain was not heavy, it was drizzling and my late uncle went to his mansion where he kept many cows and buffaloes. On that day, our servant was also on leave, so he went to operate the pump to feed the animals. He took great care of his animals and never left them at the mercy of the servants. As soon as he touched the switch in the rain, he could not handle the electric shock and hit his head against the wall and his head was also hurt and to cope he must have grabbed the water pipe which is next to the switch. There was a connection and he might have breathed his last during that time.
No one knows what happened or what would have happened at that time because no one was with them at that time and no one can tell what was the exact time of their death.
And the pipe they held was clenched in their fists in such a way that it seemed impossible to pull the pipe out. His palm was blackened from that spot and the entire skin was burnt.
Even thinking about those painful moments gives me fear.
I also remember my aunt's condition when I told her about this tragedy because her only universe was her husband and she had no children. We managed her with great difficulty. .
The whole village was shedding tears at his funeral. There was no language that did not describe their virtues. A loving soul was leaving this world. I have heard that,
Relationships don't come for free
Air doesn't come for free either
A breath also comes when a breath is released
And that was when I realized true relationships. Managing these beautiful relationships, being in a relationship, making good memories together and living with those memories is the real success.
If you keep laughing, then the world is with you
Even the eyes do not give place to tears
No one will live forever in this world, everyone has to go and meet their real creator. So be happy, share happiness and spend this life smiling and doing good deeds.
I am thankful to @ruthjoe who gave us the opportunity to express our fears, our sorrows and our pains through this great contest. Sometimes expressing some pains and sorrows can lighten the heart and this platform is perfect for that purpose
I am inviting the following friends to the contest:
@wakeupkitty @aminasafdar @mehwish-almas
It is hard to build a happy family even if you manage as soon as the outside world involves it hits you with a hamer.
State, school, family, neighbours, society, and, and, and... All good to interfere and one thing is clear if you are different you are not accepted unless you have a far bankaccount.. High intelligent, creative, artistic, autism, inventor, strong will, opinion of your iwn, sticking to your wird, keeping opomises, all people who we look down at, hateand love to bully (unless they come up with a new invention everyone would kill for - again money is involved).
It's good to laugh but sadness is part of life and there is no way to protect yourself or a child from it. If you always smile, laugh, make jokes out of everything people dislike you because they believe you are not able to discuss and take things seriously. It's balancing which takes energy.
The only family I have are special children (13 foster grown up) and 5 of my own, sensitive and artistic. What they have in common is that they need room and being alone. They all say the same: if problems arise it is always due other people.
We are lucky to live far away from other people and the nearest village is 10+ kilometres away. We talk a lot, discuss all sirts if topics and it is okay to be not happy. Happiness is a temporary feeling which cannot be felt 24/7 amd not if you have never felt unhapoy. You can count your blessings but it isn't said that makes happy.
The feeling of happiness can arise out of the blue while being alone and hit by a sunbeam.
I rather show my children how to overcome hardships, sadness, frustration and discriminatios in a positive way. All these energies can be used to create.
A family where no one dares to say the truth, where children don't dare to say hiw they feel, they are bullied at school, where depression is ignored, where members tiptoe around, where abuse and inequality is found normal and parents never show their true feelings isn't a happy family.
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Thank you dear for being present here. You're the first person who is giving a brief feedback to my posts till now.
Speaking for myself, i had always had my opinion in my family, my father would listen to me more than any other member.
It was he who gave me the expression to not supress my emotions. However, the scene in my in-laws is entirely different.
You can't give you two scents out of our genuine concern. Everyone will judge you whatever you say or do.
Happiness is not an option here, i am struggling to practice gratitude in my life, that's why i joined steemit to keep myself busy with a sense of purpose, and to avoid in-laws headaches.
Speaking for your foster children, how and when did you adopt them, how do you take care of them, do you all live together, it is so amazingly making you a supermom, i have only one baby boy and he makes me see stars in broad daylight.
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We have an expression (translated) don't make a murderpit out of your heart. Can be this is the reason we are straight forward, it's unhealthy to hold in and pretend. It will eat you . I noticed this with many people and in the end they all look bitter, and die of cancer (also an expression with us "cancered" meaning you are completely eaten from the inside).
It takes courage to say what's on your mind but as a child I already knew I couldn't do it. Character? It felt as if I was lying to myself so I left and paid a high, very high prize for that but today I am still happy I took that step.
I find it a sign of disrespect if you always have to swallow and there is no room to say/ventilate how you feel. I wonder does everyone keep silent? No one says what he had on his mind?
No matter where you are you will always bump into people who will judge you. That's what life is and it remains that no matter how hard you try those who complain about you will never be satisfied (people always need someone to blame).
Gratitude? I find it the most nasty word there is and I only feel gratitude if I feel it not because others say I have to, why should I? Why should I count whatever others say is a blessing or search for something to be grateful for?
To be honest i find that pathetic.
At least you have Steemit and you can take your mind of which is important to destress. There's a lot you can do here, to see, read and there's music, short films and you can even play a game now. Perhaps good to shoot at alliens if you feel angry LOL . I thought about that as I played it for the first time.
If you have a computer you can play it too. https://steem-retrogames.com/
see: Space Invasion - capital P to play for free. If you write a review and use the #retrogames you can receive an upvote from the SC team for this game.
If not join the comment contests, it's relaxing and there are several ones.
With the foster children I started via an organization they checks you from head to toe. I was for crisis so a max of 6 weeks but the end of the story is that (crisis) are the hardest cases and of course they never find a home for these children (6-17 years old). It mostly worked out great, also with my children, the only thing that tires is the social workers chatting and the fact they have no clue what they are talking about and basically don't care about the welfare of the children. They are just numbers. They are older now so live on their own. Let's hope the past will no longer play a role but it's hard to tell since it's a part of how you grow up but at least we talk and we all are fine if someone needs room and we never tiptoe around. It's okay to say: I feel shit or depressed. It's part of life and so is how to learn how to deal with it. A good talk, chocolate, tea and some jokes or a long sleep. We all know life isn't about being fair but about building yourself something that makes you comfortable.
That is what you should do as well. Find a way to create your own space no matter how small where you can be you and do as you like.
I am glad I never had to live with my in-laws.
ONe baby boy is enough to see the stars and enjoy. Enough to have problems to solve as well.
A great day to you. I hope you meet a few more people willing to comment.
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I am relieved by your words. I feel like many of my unspoken questions have been answered. Let us not waste ourselves.
Let us not waste our lives in vain thoughts and worries.
We have to recognize the purpose of our life
I'm having a good time on Steemit. I love writing stories.
When I write a story, I feel like my words have found a language and when other Steemians like my stories, I get excited to write with a new passion. And I get away from the harsh realities and deprivations of life for a while
Best wishes and prayers for you.
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Writing is a great way of turning feelings into something creative and you can also start painting. I intend to start again as well, just a bit cold now and the paint doesn't look too good. No idea if I can warm it up to change the structure.
If your son is older you can paint together and you can write stories and read them to him. That's what I do as well.
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Take care of yourself. Happiness can be hard to find but there is light.
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Golden words "Happiness is really hard to find" and as we Muslims believe that Allah Almighty has said:
"With every difficulty there is ease".
If our faith is strong and if we do not despair of the mercy of our Lord, surely the journey ahead will be very easy for us.
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Upvoted! Thank you for supporting witness @jswit.
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Thank you for participating…..
Your reflections on family and the wisdom of our elders are very insightful. It is amazing how they managed to keep their families united and full of love through trust, respect and shared experiences.
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Yar ...I read the story and I can feel the pain in your words. Ham kabhi bi recover ni kar saktay apny ksi bi piyary insan ka jany ko.....waqat shayed kuch madad krta h lakin ya kitna mushkip hota h ya vohi janta h jis pa gizarti ....tab har tasliii ,har delasa bas asy hi lagta h Yar koi kuch na khay......
Mujy axha laga t k ap ny likha ya sb...or mujy ya bi andaza h k is sab k lya bhut sari himat chayey...meri duaain ap ka Sath hn....
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Waqt hy ye to guzar hi jata hy. Azmaeshy ati rhti hy r hr dukh ki takleef dusra dukh a k Kam krta hy. R ak bt m haqeeqat hy waqt sy bara marham r koi ni hota.
Thank you for your kind words. May all your days be good.
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