Tell your story#33(The one-sided love)

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What happened

My beloved sister❤️🥰

My elder sister has been in a four years relationship with this guy that she loves so much, my sister would do anything, go to any length and can make any sacrifice for this guy but the guy in the other hand, is just the exact opposite of sister.

Since the started this relationship, my sister has been the one putting more effort, doing the sacrifice, giving the support, doing most of the calling etc. And the guy was just doing just little and He wasn't supportive at all.

The first year when the started, the guy was still schooling, so his excuse for not being supportive is because, He is singlehandedly sponsoring himself without the help of anyone. So my sister as the understanding person that she is,, kept on loving this guy unconditionally despite the fact that he doesn't support her, she assumed that when he graduate someday, He will surprise her for being patient with him all this while.

This guy graduated last year, and started serving, but he still won't care for my sister's needs, my sister will make her hair all by herself, buy clothes for herself, buy her cream and do everything for herself, even ordinary buying of pad for girlfriend that other guys will buy for their girlfriends without being asked for, my sister boyfriend will not get it for her even if she asks for assistance any month she's broke.

This guy is serving and still working at the same time but He still complains of not having money and won't do anything for my sister. My sister will still be the same person to either buy him card, subscribe for him or send him money when his broke, despite the fact that he doesn't give her money.

My sister is this kind of person that find it hard to ask even if she's stranded, she's so understanding and too patient. This guy was supposed to use his common sense to be surprising her, at least sending her money once in a while or even getting few things for her but he wouldn't do any of these things.

Even on my sister's special day, her birthday,, He couldn't get her anything, not even hundred naira recharge card,, and He didn't see anything wrong with that. It was at this point that it downed on my sister that this guy she has been dating for some years now is not just broke but his someone that won't care for her and his stinginess is in the highest level.

My sister was fed up with his kind of I don't care character and really wanted them to talk heart to heart, but all her effort to get his attention for them to talk failed because,, the guy was just busy giving her attitudes, He was forming busy whereas he wasn't as busy as he claimed to be.

My sister got so angry and sent him a text message that she was done with the relationship and can no longer bare his kind of character, since she has been patient with him for four years just to see that he change or improve in terms of showing genuine care, support and concern but he is not willing to improve.

The response she got from this guy really shocked her, she felt so heartbroken that all her effort, time and sacrifices for the relationship was not appreciated. As it stands now, my sister has moved on and has sworn never to go back to this guy even if he comes back begging.

What you have learned from it

• I have learned that relationship are two ways street, both partners must be willing to put equal effort and appreciate each other. The love shouldn't be one sided.

• I have learned that I should not waste my time, effort and energy on someone that doesn't value and appreciate me.

• And lastly,, I have learned that red flags are real in every relationship,, so I shouldn't allow myself to be blinded by love and ignore red flags in relationship.

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Best regards,, @owulama❤️