**Contest |"Nowadays love is a fashion or a feeling?"**

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Hello ladies!!

I appreciate you @aviral123 for hosting this contest. This topic is really a sensitive one that I can not ignore.

Nowadays it has become a fashion for a young boy or girl to be in a love relationship, express your views on this?

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It is true that now nowadays relationship is now more of fashion than love. I have seen this happen over time.

Let me tell you a story. Some months ago, I met two school ladies arguing on my way back from the market. I got curious and decided to stop and ask what the agreement was about.

I was familiar with one of the ladies because she lives close the house am staying. One of the ladies told me that she doesn't have a boyfriend and she is been mocked in her class about it. She said almost all the ladies are in a relationship so each time they keep asking why she is not in a relationship.

At that moment, I got the two ladies seated and began teaching them about relationship. I told them you don't have to get into a relationship because of peer pressure or because it is something everyone else is doing. I told them getting into a relationship at this stage of their lives will only distract them from been focus on studies.

After much talking the two ladies were really convinced that they do not need a boyfriend before they can fit into the society. This is true. Love or relationship should not be entered because of anyone or pressure.

As a lady or a boy, you must first discover your purpose in life and pursue it only after then can you be in a relationship else you would only get distracted in life and may not even end up marrying the person. You will end up with a heart break because you never went into the relationship for the right reasons.

Growing up to, I refused having a boyfriend, I kept myself for the right time. I was mocked by friends for doing so but It didn't change my decision.

Is love at this age true? Is there any future for love made at this age ?

In my opinion, I do not think love at this age is true and there is no future for I've made at this age.

I am from Nigeria, and over here we see alot of lovers everywhere. People who are not even able to love themselves, trying to love others.

In my opinion,there is no need need for relationships at this age. This age should be a time of self discovery and self development. Become valuable and you will find out having a boyfriend or girl friend is not really a big deal.

Most people I know who went into relationship back then when I was in school didn't even end up together. Most them had heart breaks. And some moved on with other person's.

What is the belief in this false relationship?

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Well, I can't really say why most young people decide to get into this kind of relationships but I can say that one of the belief in this false relationship is that they just want to have fun.

Another believe they have in this false relationship is that they want to follow the trend of the society. Following trend doesn't make something that is bad right! Following trend has made more people get into trouble.

Another believe is that if you are not in a relationship then you are not a big girl or big boy. Having a boyfriend proves that you are now matured or grown, this is a believe they have.

Give some suggestions to test true love?

I am not a love doctor so I may not be perfect with my suggestions but I assure you that indeed true love can be tested.

One way to test true love is time! Time reveals the true nature of people. When a person tells you that he loves you, give that person time to check if its true. If you say no to the person, will he insist? How long can he pursue you? This is time. If he can't wait for you to be convinced about the relationship then he is not worth it.

The second test is the test of character. How does he behave around people closest to him and those who are not close to him? This is character. The way he behaves around these people will surely tell how he would treat you when you get into the relationship.

Next test is the test of Giving! I know most people can give you gifts just to get you into believing they love you right? But take it from me that Giving is powerful. Check their reaction when you ask them to give to you. And check how they give to you without you asking. This test has been proven to be true.

The test of No! This is the final test. How does he react when he says he wants to get intimate with you like having sex or getting romantic and you say no! Does he threaten you? Does say he will break up ? What does he do? All these will tell you more about if he loves you truly.

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