“Steemit Engagement Challenge S3:W4 - Three things I'd change about myself, and three things I'd keep by @event-horizon”

^{Demons - Imagine Dragons [YouTube link]}

The contest asked us to think of three good and three bad traits. Therefore, I did some deep thinking which enabled me to shortlist my demonic and angelic traits. (This song is affecting my vocabulary)

I hope you won't get scared of me after reading about my worst traits that I would like to change. I am born with these habits or you can say adopted them over time. So here we go...

My Worst Traits that I'd like to Change

1. Short-Tempered

Do something that annoys me and see me burst into fumes. Do you remember the Howlers from Harry Potter? Well, I think I turn into one sometimes. You can watch this short clip from the movie if you have no idea what I am talking about.

^{A scene from Harry Potter - [YouTube Link]}

I don't know what I say when I lose control, probably all the nasty things that I could think of. I react first and think later. That's why after 5 minutes, I regret opening my mouth at all and nobody can tell how furious I was minutes ago but by then the damage is done and the victim of my wrath is totally pissed.

I really wish that whatever happens, I keep my cool, think rationally and then sort things out through a polite conversation. If not polite then reasonable at least.

I am working on controlling my anger by appreciating small things and focusing more on the brighter side of the situation.

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2 - What would they think?

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I overthink a lot and even worse, about others' opinions. This is one of my worst traits rather a miserable one that I really, really wish to change. I mean it's good to keep others in mind especially loved ones before doing anything but it should never cost you your mental peace.

I think I don't know where to set the boundary. Either I turn completely oblivious or I think way too much and go beyond the limits to adapt myself according to others' wishes.

I am not a people pleaser, it's a different thing. I need acceptance by others which is totally not needed most of the time.

I am working on this as well by learning to prioritize my happiness over petty issues.

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3- Forgive but can't Forget

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I didn't know whether to put this trait among the good ones or among the bad ones. Having forgiving nature shows how big is your heart and it's kind of good to remember the bad a person did to remain cautious in the future.

However, this seemingly good trait doesn't work for me. If a person unintentionally did something wrong or repents afterward that doesn't change my opinion about him/her. My mind gets stuck at the point that why did he/she do that?

I forgive but I can't give that level of respect or value to that person again. I keep getting flashes of that one mistake or that one bad deed.

By now, I'm sure I have successfully managed my readers to hate me. But let me tell you that I am also working on this bad habit by putting myself into others' shoes and thinking that I wouldn't want that for me if I do some mistake.

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My Best Traits that I'd like to Retain

1- Honesty

The first thing that immediately came to my mind was honesty. Honesty, integrity, and loyalty are the most attractive traits for me in a person. I believe it takes courage to be honest and keep your integrity all the time. Cheating and dishonesty are cowardly traits in my opinion.

What I expect to see in others should first be practiced by me. It's one of the reasons that I always try to be truthful.

If we talk about relationships then as much as honesty and loyalty look attractive, it should be much more than that. It's the first unspoken rule for me.

I'd like to keep this habit of mine forever for it has gained me so much respect, trust, good friendships, and a perfect relationship. Some people hate me for being point blank honest but it is what it is. I wouldn't trade this trait to get any approval.

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2- Humble

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I had to think hard about this trait. Sometimes, we play this game of, "tell my good and bad habits" with our friends. My friends always say that I am a very humble person.

I have this habit of not digesting the praise. I never think of myself as better than all. Even if I am really good at something, I always think there are better people than me. I don't have any inferiority or superiority complex. I stay modest and humble. I might not express it but in my heart, I think of myself as a common person.

I believe it's a good habit of mine that keeps me away from arrogance and give me a chance to do self-reflection.

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3- Obedient

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Since childhood, I had been a very obedient kid. I am the eldest child and the only daughter of my parents. They pampered me a lot but they were strict at the same time. So I was taught to obey from an early age. My mind doesn't think of doing otherwise. There is no rebellious element in me.

As a grown-up, this habit of obeying and following rules is now engraved in me. I find myself following even silly rules that nobody cares about.

Seeing me like this, my kids listen to me as well. When I give them proper reasoning of good and bad things they do listen to me and obey whatever say.

So this is the one trait that I love about myself and would like to retain in order to be a better person.

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Thankfully, the contest asked us to write only three good habits because I seriously can't think of anything more.

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I invite my friends @pixie.dust, @cocomuff, and @afifaasif to participate in this interesting challenge.

Regards,
event-horizon