Steemit Engagement Challenge S3:W4 - Three Things I'd Change about Myself, and Three Things I'd Keep | by @fredquantum

Introduction

It's a great pleasure to be writing my first article in Steem India and it would be in participation in the interesting topic presented by the community in the ongoing Steemit Engagement Challenge Season 3. There are many things about me I'd like to keep and others I'd like to let go of or work on. Let's take a ride together on this piece.

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Three Things I'd Change

Everyone has a side of them they considered not enough and would be willing to work on them, likewise, I have of few things I'd like to work on and three of those would be discussed in this section of the contest.

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Consistency

Some of the great attributes about me is being consistent but sometimes I feel like I am not consistent enough, what do I mean? I have tried to learn more skills in the time past but left it halfway while I focus on others I have mastered very well. I could have spread my tentacles into different sections of my favorite field and would have garnered the required skills to further strengthen my career than it is at the moment.

I must strengthen my consistency even though I consider myself being consistent but I feel it's not enough and needed to be worked on. Some of the things I stand to gain from this are enhanced skill, relevancy, and growth that would expose me to more opportunities in my chosen field. In addition, I'm not only embarking on strengthening my consistency but I will like to send the message to others out there to also work on it, we often thought we are been consistent enough but we can do more.

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Introvert to Extrovert

Being an Introvert has been a my way of my life right from when I was young as such I only leave the house for special events or sporting activities, it became stronger during my University days when I felt I needed to stay off more from people so that I can concentrate on my study. During those days, I don't have study mates, I do study alone with the belief that I only needed study materials as guides and that I would be able to solve problems on my own.

Over the years, even after my university education, I have remained an introvert who hardly leaves the house unless there is something important to attend to, can I say I don't know how to keep a company of friends in real life? The time required to maintain a circle in real life is not there as such I will be willing to work towards being an extrovert, appearing more in suitable public places that suit my personality to build a refined circle in real life, I guess I lost some years ago.

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Negligence

I have let go of a few opportunities due to negligence in the past, I have not intentionally been negligent in most cases but sometimes stress has forced me to be negligent to certain things, before coming to the realization, that would have been a past deal. I have so many cases of such and I must work on this, one of the ways to take care of this situation is to address some of the factors that have forced me to neglect a few opportunities in the past, that'd be a great way to start correcting this.

Taking every bit of information very seriously would enable me to take hold of opportunities that have been presented to me. You would agree with me that the result of negligence has not been very palatable rather most times it's filled with regrets. I have handled some in the time past and I'm doing all within my capacity to attend to things more seriously as such I won't have any factor to be the reason I had let any opportunity slip away.

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Three Things I'd Keep

I have a few things that have worked for me in the past, they are not necessarily things I had built from scratch, I see some as inheritance or a result of upbringing which I had built on over the years to ensure I walk in the path. Let's take a look at some of these things in a few sections below.

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Loyalty and Respect

I have learned to be loyal in all situations, it doesn't only give one a clean record but also gives you peace of mind, a priceless gift knowing that you haven't been involved in any frivolous activities that tend to hunt you later. In addition, regardless of race, age, or status of a person, I have learned to respect everyone and listen to what they have to say or share, this attribute has a direct relationship to one other feature I'd like to keep about myself.

I highlighted earlier that some of these things are the result of an upbringing that I have only developed, my parent is a good example of loyalty and respect, they have paved the way for their kids to take this path of life and it has bountifully yielded in many ways. If you have been loyal to someone or a firm before, they would be willing to do their best in doing their best to recommend you when need be.

Let's talk about an example, a few years ago when I was serving in the National Youth Service Corps scheme, I ensured I was loyal to my primary place of assignment (not many people do this, while some only visit one or twice a week, some just once in a month). I made myself available every working day of the week and that earned me a name and recommendations after my service year. Below is the commendation letter issued to only two of us out of hundreds that served in the Ministry.

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Even though they couldn't do much to retain me due to the economic situation of the state, the recommendation I got was great. They have linked with me a few establishments before, one of which I had worked in some years ago, I can visit the state secretariat anytime and that love is still showered on me, that's a result of loyalty and respect.

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Stoicism

Stoicism is not something inbuilt or I have paid attention to in the early days of my life but at a point, it becomes necessary and I took this path. Stoicism is the art of having self-control over situations to avoid further destruction of any kind as the case may be. At the early stage of my life, I'm the type who can hardly control my anger, my parents taught me on the need I should maintain my cool in different situations but it was hard.

Over years, precisely during my university days, I have encountered a lot of people with different backgrounds and to avoid more destructive issues in situations, I learned to practice stoicism. I'm stoic such that I remain calm even when I am been offended, learned not to complain, and move away as if nothing has happened. Practicing stoicism has helped me over years to avoid troubles that might even lead to loss of life.

It's easy for me to smile and walk away if I am offended now, that's how I have learned not to get furious unnecessarily and in no case, even it would be hard for someone to realize that they has really hurt me. In the process, I would have prevented exchanging words or even punches and thereby save all parties involved from disasters. I will like to keep being stoic for a lifetime.

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Compassionate

Being compassionate is one of the greatest features I'd like to keep about myself, it's one of those things I can say I inherited from my parents. I have learned to be concerned about people around me and lending helping hands in the little way I can, being generous is also part of this, I've seen my parents inconveniencing themselves to show concern for other people around them, and this has been part of me too and I believe this is one the ways to make the world a better place.

In addition, as much as I would like to be compassionate towards other individuals I must have identified they have done the right thing in certain situations. The compassionate side of me is blind towards cheat, I respect people who have been able to do things rightly and deem those worthy of genuine care. I will like to keep my side of being compassionate, I have built on this for years and I believe I will get stronger and better in the process.

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Conclusion

In conclusion, we are not always perfect as human beings but there is room for us to continually improve, building on the good things about us to make them enhanced and eliminating or changing those things we felt it's not too good for us.

In the process, we open ourselves to learning from others and also taking lessons from our previous encounters. It's a great pleasure to participate in this and I will like to invite @olabillions, @jueco, and @edlili24 to take part in this contest.