Most ladies talk out of their feelings which brings strife most of the time.
The story of queen Esther in the bible on how she approached the king and presented her case to Him when she was in distress.
Esther did not speak just the way she feels but was calm and polite and that resulted in her getting what she wanted.
Another lady was Abigail in the bible.
1 Samuel 25:3 - This man's name was Nabal, and his wife, Abigail, was a sensible and beautiful woman. But Nabal, a descendant of Caleb, was mean and dishonest in all his dealings.
In 1 Samuel 25 - 31, Abigail communication made David to change his mind and even married her.
Some ladies don't have a man to marry today because of the way they speak.
What we say and how we listen to others is important to God.
Proverbs 18:21 - Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Matthew 12:36 - But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.
Keys to Good Communication according to the scriptures..
James 1:19 says ........ So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath...
Keys
1, Swift or quick to hear.
2, Slow to speak.
3, Slow to wrath or offense.
Many of the communication pitfalls that wreck relationships come from violating these three keys. We tend to be slow to listen but quick to speak our minds, and in the resulting confusion and selfishness we are very quick to get our feelings hurt and to get angry.
1, SWIFT or QUICK TO HEAR OF LISTEN
What happens if we are quick to speak instead of quick to hear?
Proverbs 18:13
He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him.
Proverbs 18:13 message
Answering before listening is both stupid and rude.
It's natural to think we know what other people want or need before they finish asking. And we generally assume that what we have to say is what the other person should really be interested in hearing.
How do we overcome not listening?
We overcome this by focusing on the other person and forcing ourselves to try to understand her viewpoint before sharing our own.
Proverbs 18:2 NLT
A fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his own heart
Philippians 2:3 Don't do anything from selfish ambition or from a cheap desire to boast, but be humble toward one another, always considering others better than yourselves.
Philippians 2:4 And look out for one another's interests, not just for your own.
2, (SLOW TO SPEAK*
David had to ask God to help him in his communication.
Psalm 141:3, NLT
Take control of what I say, O Lord, and keep my lips sealed.
Psalm 19:14, NLT
May the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing to you, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.
Like David, our words should be pleasing to God.
Proverbs 10:19 NLT
Don't talk too much, for it fosters sin. Be sensible and turn off the flow!
-Think before we speak and to choose our words carefully. Whatever we say should be edifying and intended to reflect the nature of Christ.
Colossians 4:6
Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer
Colossians 4:6 God's word -
Everything you say should be kind and well thought out so that you know how to answer everyone.
God wants us to choose our words wisely. Blessings and praiseworthy information should predominate our speech.
How should we say what we say?
Proverbs 15:1-2
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishne
3, SLOW TO WRATH OR ANGER
Whenever we get angry, We easily say what we ought not to say especially as ladies who are mostly led by their feelings.
Ephesians 4:31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.
Ephesians 4:32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
Psalm 103:8 KJV
The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy.
Proverbs 15:18 KJV
A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
Proverbs 16:32 KJV
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
Proverbs 16:32
Better to get angry slowly than to be a hero. Better to be even-tempered than to capture a city.
These three keys help our communication skills as God's children and as ladies which will make our relationship with our fellow sisters more cordial.
Prayer Point:
God help me learn how to communicate well in Jesus name.
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