Some Heart Talk

Moving on!

I just wanted to remind you that if you have to fight for your partner's attention that you are in a wrong relationship!...(not necessarily that the person is not good but not just good for you).

Move!
Move on!
Normalize moving on from a relationship, job, business partnership and any entanglement when it's clear it's no longer working...
It hurts, yes!
There are losses, yes!
Cry if you must but move on and clearly so!!!
But you will be grateful you did!

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KNOW WHEN AND WHEN NOT TO.

Have you ever said or done something and regret it almost immediately???As I grow older, I know better,I'm still struggling with this(and intentionally working on it by God's grace) and I know a lot of us are! The earlier we know when...

To talk and when to be mute
To leave and and when to stay
To look on and when to look away
To act a fool and when to prove wisdom.
To invest and when to withdraw
To fight and when be a coward.
To show up and when to go hiding etc... the better for us...
What I'm saying in essence is that timing is everything and discernment is the ultimate.

The lack of these has costs us irredeemable things at one time or the other and I'm sure you agree with me that "Wisdom is a principal thing..."

Happy weekend and be sure to rest enough for the year is still young.
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BUILDING CAPACITY!!!

Hello sister,
Can you spare a minute let's have a heart to heart?

For starters, this conversation may not sit well with you at the beginning but trust me, you will thank me later.

I know you are busy trying to make earns meet legitly but do you know, you didn't come to Earth to eat,drink, sleep, wear trendy clothes, take selfies and put up on the gram?... No Sweetie, don't get me wrong, I do all of those, infact, I'm the chiefest of them all... So what's your point, you may ask... Thank you for asking...

My point is, there's more to your existence than those... You were born to add value, bring succour and offer help.
Now my turn to ask questions... Are you building capacity???... Yes capacity because you need it...

I remember one of those mornings I was super exhausted from previous day's work, and meeting client's deadline, went to bed past 1am and before my upper eyelids could meet the lower counterparts, my mum was singing her favorite ' Ami mbak ndemede kusen ubok kwo I'ma, ima emi eyen Abasi amade mi" morning song/ alarm and I played deaf with a very tenable reason na... I slept late... Long story short, the venue of the morning prayer was relocated to my bed, whereafter I was given the pep talk of life which I want to share with you. In her words... "Adiaha, do you know that that whatever you are passing through now is rehearsals for later, God is helping you build capacity for the future, do you know how your family will be? What type of job you will have?, Your husband's job/ ministry?" By the end of the sermon I was already on my way to work .

This went on to affirm the words of my boss, "whatever life course you fail,or refuse to study for, you must surely rewrite"... Yes... If you fail to build capacity when you should, you will pay for it (no be prayer).

You ask how? Lemme give just one instance...
If you don't build capacity for punctuality now, God will give you a job you must wake up early and a baby who doesn't wake till 12pm. I'm sure grab the gist now... Perfect!

Do not just be busy, be usefully busy, learn the art of multitasking and balance!...
What am I even saying???
In all thy building Dear sister, build capacity, if you don't need it now, you will def need it later...

Today I'm crushing on all the women especially those struggling with one thing or the other... You will come out stronger!