Free writing:Tips for engaged and Married (episode 2).

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Lovely steemians,I am happy to come back to you again on "Tips for engaged and Married"(episode 2).
In My last publication,we learnt that choice motivated by love followed with the need of being economically and emotionally independent, play key roles in achieving success in engagement and marriage.
Therefore,in today's episode,we will look into:
~An Ideal age difference for partners?
~How long should partners court?
~Is Pre-marital sex healthy? and
~Of what importance is proper planning to wedding?

An Ideal age difference for partners

Actually, there is no perfect age difference for partners wishing to get married so far there is mutual understanding,respect,love and shared values.
Though,some cultures or families may recommend the man to be older than the woman.
Let us look at the danger of a very wide gap in age differences.
~In a situation where one partner is 8years older or above than the other, there might be tendencies of one partner feeling that the other partner is more of a parent-figure,the marriage might in some cases appear childish,due to poor alignment in views and understanding.
~The older partner might be domineering vice versa.

However,there is chances of partners with age difference of 5years or less to grow and live together as mates which is far better and tend to reduce chances of divorce especially where there is mutual love and respect.

How long should partners court?

Courtship should neither be a journey of six months because it takes time to understand human nor a journey of more than two years because of emotional intimacy which can develop over time leading to Pre-marital sex.
However,there are few exceptions where courtship can be less than 6 months or last more than two years :
~A situation where both partners fall into circumstance that distablize their already built economic or emotional independence.
~A situation where such Partners are disciplined,and put measures that will prevent them from having Pre-marital sex.
~Or situation where it is required by any tradition,culture or religion to marry before 6 months or extend their courtship beyond 2years,in such situation,both partners should be willing to withstand the adverse effect of this particular situation.

Is Pre-marital sex healthy?

Pre-marital sex is condemnable,reason being that: ~Pre-marital sexual intimacy mortgages the future of both partners.They commit themselves to each other in such a way that they may not see reasons to part,even if there is any. ~There will be 'distrust' issue on whether to marry or not because one of them may think,since the other one did it with him or her,the tendency of doing it with someone's else out there might be.

Of what importance is proper planning to wedding?

Both partners should be involved in planning their wedding.Proper planning ensures successful turn out to greater extent. If their financial status is good,they can hire the services of event planners,but where the reverse is the case,they should give attention to every details and gather human and material resources on time before fixing date.

Therefore,in today's episode,we have seen that age difference of 5years or less gives couples equal chances of reasoning alike or sharing ideas in common without sentiment.Again, courtship should not be less than 6 months or more than 2 years,unless circumstances oppose it.
We see the dangers of Pre-marital sex and how good it is to plan ahead of time before wedding.
Thank you so much for your time,and remember that your views and comments will be highly appreciated in the comment section.
Do have a blessed day!.

@pretty-precious