" STEEMIT ENGAGEMENT CHALLENGE S9-W1 || Dream couple "

 Steemit for good life 

Hello everyone, it's yet another beautiful week of the engagement challenge contest, and I'm so delighted to kick up the season 9 week 1 contest here in this Noble community about the theme "Dream Couple”.

It has always been everyone's dream to see God give them good couples which they will love forever, I always hope and pray that God should join with a partner that we will understand our self and live happily forever.

Before I go ahead to answer the following questions below, I will love to invite @radleking @goodybest ,and @prime33 to come and take part .

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IS YOUR CURRENT PARTNER YOUR CHOICE AND IDEAL PARTNER ? HOW DID YOU STRUGGLE TO GET IT? TELL US ABOUT YOUR HEROIC STRUGGLE.

However, for now, the partner I'm together with is my choice also my ideal partner, but as humans we can only pray and hope for the best because our creator is the only one that has the finals say in our relationship, meeting her was one of the best things that I had to happen to me and I can't love her less.

Getting her was not easy because in Nigeria men approach women first so when I asked her out, she decided to take her time to find out some things about me before she accept to date me . You know very well here in Nigeria, a lady will love you but she still take time to suffer you before she accepted. That was the struggle, Everything happens at the time she needs and we grow fast because of the feelings we hard for each other.

In every relationship, there are good and bad times but what matters the most is that when the two understand them self then there won't be much heroic struggle.

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WHAT ARE THE OBSTACLES YOU FACED WHEN YOU WANTED TO GET MARRIED. OR WHY HAVEN'T GOTTEN MARRIED YET ?

I am not married yet because I believe it is not yet time for me to do that. When the time comes I will surely get married to my partner if that's the will of God. Also, I don't want to be a liability to my future wife I have to find something to do as well so that when we are married I will be able support my family in one way or the other.

Marriage is something that one has to take time to pray about before going into it because it's not how far but how well it will be after the marriage. So I believe God's time is the best.

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WHAT ARE THE CRITERIA FOR YOUR IDEAL PARTNER?

The criteria for my ideal partner are numerous but I will outline the most important ones;

Openness: I need a partner who will open up to me no matter the situation not a partner that will only be interested in changing her Self limiting behavior without giving me listing ears on what I have to say. I need a partner who will be honest with me.

Trust and honesty: I need a partner who will trust me and also believe in me not what others say about me. I need a man who will tell me what is in his mind than keeping it to himself, if I'm wrong let me be corrected but maturely not harshly, or using intuitive words.

Respectful: I need a partner who will respect me and accept me just the way I am. I know I am a man but we also deserve some respect from our partners as well. It is said when you respect yourself others will also respect you so I will love my partner to respect me and some of my decision.

Empathetic: This is one of the most important parts of a relationship because it's the strangeness of any relationship. A very empathetic partner will build good communication in a relationship or marriage. I need a partner who will always notice her mistake and try to make amide when she is wrong.

funny: I need a partner who I can play with at all times, not a partner that will be too bossy and won't allow me to play with her. I need something who I will be free, someone I can talk without any fear.

Above all, I need a woman who will love me just the way I am and stop comparing me .

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DO YOU PRIORITIZE BEAUTY OR COMFORT IN COMMUNICATION? WHY?

While, having a good-looking beautiful woman is every man's dream but for me communication matters a lot because when there is no good communication between two partners, that relationship will not work. Also when there is good communication, understanding each other will be easier because everyone was born differently and for a healthy relationship the two partners have to understand themself well so that they will avoid unnecessary conflict that will cause regrets in the relationship or marriage.

Furthermore, communication is the key to every relationship because it's one of the most important factors that will make one build a healthy relationship/ marriage.

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WHAT IS YOUR MEASURE OF HAPPINESS WHEN YOU GET MARRIED?

Marrying someone that we understand ourselves will be my measure of happiness in marriage because when there is understanding everything will blend well. A healthy married is what I always wish for and I wish it work out the way planned, even though I'm just a human before but I believe with everything is possible.

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WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT EARLY MARRIAGE OR OLDER MARRIAGE?

On my God, to me I don't see anything wrong with early married provided the two partners love themselves and they capital to take care of their children when they give birth. Something it's good to marry early so that you will grow old with your children, not that one will be 48 years and his child is 12 or 14 years. Both the parent and the children will not have quality time to spend with each other. So to me, early marriage is well provided for the two partners and ready to marry without any form of pressure or force from the parents.

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   Conclusion 

In conclusion, having a good partner is everyone's dream even though all partners are not perfect but to some extent we can make our partners be who we want them to be if there is love, affection, and understanding

Thank you........