In many occasions we think that life as a couple demands as an indispensable requirement the loss of freedom, that being with another person implies to stop being yourself to assume that you must act, feel and think as if you were one instead of two. It is at that point, when the problems begin, when we lose our own identity because we want to be and act according to what that person who claims to love us and we love, wants or desires.

Source: @emimoron

How many lives have been anchored to relationships where they have become invisible beings, where their own self has been silenced before the voice of the one who assumes the role of the partner. Life as a couple does not exclude freedom, on the contrary, life as a couple is assumed from the freedom to choose a person with whom you share tastes and interests, as well as chemistry and ways of thinking. Life as a couple is about sharing without giving up being yourself, having your own individuality and space.

Love is that feeling that allows us to be truly human, that fills us with positive aspects and makes us better. Love is not a selfish feeling, it does not cause pain, it is not exclusive and it is not a form of slavery, love itself is freedom. There are those who think that being in a relationship implies abandoning everything that was their life until that moment, I have even known people who even move away from their family because they are only in love with their partner, this is a serious mistake.

Life as a couple and freedom are not opposed, on the contrary, when you love someone you accept and understand him/her from his/her dimension and humanity, as long as accepting him/her does not cause you harm. We must remember that we are individuals, unique and special, that we have a personality and characteristics that make us totally different from each other, to be with someone else, to establish a shared life commitment is just that, sharing.

What many call love is sometimes confused with possession and that is the opposite of love, that is selfishness. To love means to understand that you can share good and pleasant moments with someone else, that there are two solitudes that decide to keep each other company, that you need individual space for activities, friendships and your own things as well as shared ones. To love in freedom is to understand that you will always have options to leave, but you choose to stay because you are well, it is to create a possible future where no one stops being what he or she is. When we understand all this we achieve in a deep respect for each other's individuality in a daily sharing of experiences we can move forward as a couple.

Source: @emimoron

To achieve a balance and our well-being in sharing our existence we must assume that each one can and must maintain their own personality, that there are moments where we negotiate what is best for each other and for both of us. Freedom and life as a couple are not exclusive concepts; on the contrary, for lasting relationships we must have our own spaces that are ours alone. Even to be able to face the difficult moments that usually happen to us (as in all human relationships) we need those spaces that are ours alone.

Our life as a couple and the complexity of establishing lasting relationships goes through understanding the true dimension of love and freedom, says a woman who has 14 years of sharing as a couple with a man who from the beginning understood that we are two lives that make each other company and that we are in good times and not so much.