One of the great problems of humanity is the lack of communication, yes, communication is a vital necessity and a way in which we can all come to have a life in harmony. If this existence and my studies in linguistics have taught me anything, it is that everything in us, in our internal and external being is and depends on communication; this is based on some simple rules that we all learned as children called the rules of the good speaker and the good listener. As the years go by we discover that these rules are simple but complex at the same time because each one of us, as we grow and evolve, forget that in order to understand others and respond appropriately we must first listen carefully. And not only that, we also ignore the signals emitted by our physical and spiritual being with which it communicates with ourselves and that is where everything breaks down.

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Based on these premises, I can tell you that paying attention is really a healthy and indispensable habit of life. Nowadays there are studies that confirm that people respond automatically without stopping to listen to what they are asked, they make comments based on what is thought and assumed without taking the time to know the position or opinion of the other party. This, if we consider that many misunderstandings could be avoided if only we would really pay attention to those around us and engage with them in a true communication process. There are those who today still wonder why communication is studied in the different areas of life and my answer has long been that "as long as there is a problem, it should be dealt with until it is solved".

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If we want to achieve a harmonious life we must begin by learning to communicate and especially to create spaces for communication with everything around us, from this point paying attention is the first and most important step. Paying attention is a holistic action, if we think about it communication is determined by everything we are internally and externally, everything in us is communication from the way we express ourselves with the way we dress, our accessories, our way of life and manifestations through the senses. Paying attention also implies considering what surrounds us and determines the way in which we manage to generate a communicative bridge with everything that makes up our living space.

Paying attention involves very simple actions that improve our quality of life, which can be summarized as follows:

1.- Time: Paying attention is summarized in giving time first of all to our existence, to look from within what our body, mind and spirit want to show us each new day. Look at yourself in the mirror with attention, embrace your existence, listen to the signals of your body and mind. Meditate. Every day we are different, every day we change and our physical being manifests itself in very simple and concrete signals to which we must dedicate a little time. It is also important to dedicate time to the people who approach us seeking to establish a communication process, the speed prevents us from seeing the details that are necessary to achieve success in any communication process.

2.- Evaluate: Every communication process in which attention is paid before issuing any judgment or opinion about anything, we must evaluate what we have heard, pass it through the filter of our value system and determine the appropriate response, that which is sufficiently clear and precise so that there are no misunderstandings in the future.

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3.- Empathy: Paying attention allows us to develop empathy because we will be able to understand what happens to us and to others from their own dimensions.

4.- Commitment: Paying attention as a habit of life commits us in the resolution of any situation from the reflection and sincere listening to all parties before making a decision.

5.- Closing cycles: Paying attention allows us to close cycles in a healthy way, as I have already said everything in us internally and externally communicates something and this communication allows us to close cycles where we have already reached the maximum of our capabilities and efforts to embrace new beginnings.

My dear readers great evils can be avoided if we pay attention to all that we are and what surrounds us. We only have to do our part to make our life and our environment a space of love and peace.