Sometimes we wait for them to ask for forgiveness before we forgive.
Sometimes our ego waits for them to humble themselves before us and then we see if we grant them our forgiveness.
I believe that true forgiveness should come from the heart, as our own initiative. It is true that sometimes the wound we receive is very big and deep and we feel that we need to be healed through the recognition of the fault committed and that we see and feel that this heart is repentant.
But this does not always happen. People hurt us and leave. Relatives mark us with a word and then die. What to do? She or he will not be there to ask for forgiveness. Will we continue with that pain and that resentment that consumes us and takes away our joy?
It is there when we understand that forgiveness is not for the one who receives it, it is for the one who grants it. The benefit that forgiveness generates falls entirely on the one who gives it, on the one who leaves anger, pain, pride and arrogance aside, and gives way to peace of soul, to relaxation when that person or that event that hurt us comes to mind.
For the one who receives forgiveness it is also beneficial, of course. Many of us need to know and feel that we are exonerated of all guilt, that our mistake is overlooked and we are given another chance. But definitely forgiveness is mostly beneficial for the one who grants it.
Let us remember that when a friend, our partner or sibling betrays us, speaks insults about us or offends us. Let us decide to forgive even before they ask for an apology. Let us work on our ego and pride to free ourselves from all resentment, hatred or any negative emotion that robs us of peace and happiness.
Thank you for reading me to the end. Best regards.
@garybilbao
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Hello @garybilbao!
It is very true what you present, forgiveness is for the one who gives it, forgiveness does not make us less, on the contrary it frees us from bad feelings and allows us to live without ties, we are human and we make mistakes and sometimes we hurt without realizing it too, we must not live with grudges, we must let go in order to move forward.
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hello @garybilbao,
i think it's ok to forgive because carrying that emotional burden usually just makes us sad and miserable. if a person hurt us the best thing we can do to be ok in life is to let go of that chapter and close the circle. instead it's ok to forgive, what is not ok is to forget what happened because if you do it that way you will only repeat the event that hurt you.
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Yes I agree with you true forgiveness should come from the heart. If you forgive someone you should always forgive it from the heart not just ok I forget you.
A good heart is loved by everyone and God also.
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Hello @garybilbao
There is an almost natural human tendency to give priority to negative feelings and emotions, as if they will lead us to a better destiny.
That is why many times pride, envy among other similar ones are usually the protagonists and the ones that guide human behavior.
To forgive implies many things, among those things to leave pride aside, I believe that it is one of the things that makes people not to bend, but evidently it is necessary to learn.
Greetings.
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Hello friend, certainly the benefits of forgiveness are for the one who grants it, to eliminate that negative emotional charge that means holding a grudge, but as you say, many times our ego needs to be fed by the apologies of the one who committed the fault, or sometimes it is needed just to rebuild a relationship, but it is not the requirement to forgive.
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Hello friend, the truth can be very difficult to forgive someone who hurt you, but it is the best thing, it heals you more than the other person, the best thing is to live without bad feelings inside you, I have to work a little on forgiveness, it is a little difficult for me to do it, but I know it is the right thing to do. Greetings.
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I think that forgiving without being asked to do so can be risky, because if we forgive without being asked to do so, it is because we are assuming that there is a guilt that may be that the other person does not assume so and even feel forgiveness as a great offense.
Greetings friend and thank you for your valuable contribution.
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At one point in a individual life it is normal for someone to hurt us or betray us but the only way we can free ourselves from this hurt and have peace is to forgive them even when they don't ask of it or deserve it. That does not mean we still have to have something with them that why I agree with you when you said forgiveness is beneficial to the one that offer them.
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