True connection — SteemCN

Sometimes we can become addicted to emotional intensity, probably because we have not found a better way to bond.

We go down this intense path until we realise that it is wearing us out or because, in the relationship, we are healing our way of relating. Recognising this represents a great opportunity.

Love, from my perspective, is a state of shared vibration that raises our energy.

There is a biological mechanism that traps us in a kind of emotional intensity during the first two years or so of a relationship, known as infatuation.

Nature has designed it this way to ensure that two human beings get used to each other without falling into violence or renunciation, as humans are generally territorial.

However, nothing will be truly successful in the medium and long term if we fail to develop a solid friendship. Does that sound boring to you?

A deep friendship, combined with that spark of pleasure that love brings, would be a wonderful thing.

The key is to be friends, good friends, great friends first: relaxed, trusting, open and genuine. Only then can we become fabulous lovers.

Instead of seeking intensity alone, we should aim to cultivate joy and vitality in our relationships.

True connection is based on friendship, which allows us to enjoy a more balanced and enriching relationship, where passion and complicity coexist in harmony.

In the end, love is nourished by friendship, and that is the basis for building a lasting and meaningful bond.