The author of this book is James E. Ryan, Dean of Harvard Graduate School of education. He is a natural expert in asking questions. As a child, he likes to ask his parents all kinds of questions. When he grew up, he successively served as a lawyer assistant, law professor and so on.

The main content of this book comes from his speech at the 2016 Harvard Graduation Ceremony. Millions of people watched and commented on the video, benefiting from his five key questions about life.

Each chapter of the book corresponds to a key problem. After reading the summary of the front page of each chapter, we know the key points of this chapter. The following contents are all expanded around this point, for example.

The five key points of how to ask questions are:

1、 Understand first, then make a conclusion. Ask, "wait, what do you say?" It can help you not only clarify your ideas, but also help others sort out ideas.

2、 Keep curiosity and build new understanding. Ask "don't know why?" It will keep you curious about the world and ask, "don't know if it can?" It can keep you connected with the world.

3、 Step back, two steps forward. Ask "can we at least..." It is a good way to break the deadlock. It is a good way to transcend differences and reach a certain consensus.

4、 Don't show the Savior. Use "what can I do for you?" You are looking for advice in a modest mind at the beginning of this problem.

5、 Be careful to distinguish between focus and irrelevant information. "What is really important?" This problem will not only help you get deep into the root causes of problems or problems, but also help you reach the heart of life.

But the question "wait, what do you say?" makes a lot of sense in the first place.
Looking back on my own life, there are many times when I'm eager to answer questions and show off my life experience before I know them clearly.

At this time, we should really remind ourselves, first to find out what others mean. Find out what others want to say first. Just making this clear can avoid a lot of unnecessary disputes.

Sometimes, slow is fast. First slow down, listen clearly, and then carefully understand and answer.

This applies not only to asking others, but also to asking yourself, especially the fifth question. What is really important? Think about it, ask yourself a few more times, and then answer yourself seriously.

After reading the book, remember five ways in the process of questioning, which helps to improve their communication and communication ability. In particular, the third, "can we at least?". This kind of problem often appears in the work, if we keep this way of asking questions, it will help to promote the development of things forward and further in case of ambiguity in the work.