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Hello friends!
Space is for everybody, but what do you think of "respect my space?"
What does this phrase: "Respect my space" mean to you? |
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I would start by saying that "space" is an invisible bubble that surrounds a person. Now "respect my space" mean you should be mindful of those bubbles to avoid bursting them.
Respect my space is respecting my boundaries, my quiet time, my integrity, my person as a whole. There are things I like and there are things I don't like, and if you are close to me, you should be able to respect that.
Personally, I love my space so much maybe that is why I don't have friends. I had a terrible experience that made me want my space all to myself. In life, everyone has their boundaries and when people go beyond these boundaries, it makes is uncomfortable.
Some friends does not want to know you before they barge into your space. They meet you for the first time and want to take over all of you, but it is best to know someone before trying to intrude their space. This way, their space is opened up little by little, when they feel save.
Have they ever told you or have you had to say it? Tell us. |
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Yes, I have told some friends to respect my space. I had these male folks that comes around my lodge back then in school to gist, have fun with the ladies. I am always in my room each time they come and I don't always come out, but one day something happened.
We had a night party in the lodge, which was our end of the year party. During this party, one of those male folks came to where I was sitting to eat and drink with me. He kept gusting me, although he was fun to be with but I knew that was not his target.
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He continued feeding me with drinks until I felt ok and I told him I was going in to rest because I am not a night crawler. I stood up to go into my room, this guy followed me, I didn't understand what was going on. I opened my door and he followed me to go in, I turned immediately to warn him to stay clear. I made it known to him that he was standing in my space and he should kept going so I can rest well.
The next day, this guy saw me and greeted me with respect, in fact he told his friends what happened and they all joined him to see me as their senior because of that singular act. But at the end, they turned my friends to the extent of coming to my room to see movies and eat my food.
Is it true that people who disrespect space are generally insecure? |
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I think they are because if not, why would you want to intrude a space without an invitation? I don't feel safe with such people, once given the chance, they feel lord over you and act as if they own you.
I have seen scenario where someone's space was disrespected. Julian was my friend and had a suitor who came with beautiful intentions. He made his intentions known to Julian but she set her boundaries and gave this guy, but this guy was not interested in that.
He acted as if he had paid Julian's dowries, he called her even in lecture hall to know where she was and what she was doing. Julian at a time became scared of this guy, she felt insecure with the whole thing. Personally, I was afraid that he could harm her one day.
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Julian never had a quiet time, any day her phone is off or she didn't pick up his calls, it was a big problem. We had to report him to the school authorities and made entries in police station in case anything bad happens.
They say that when, in truth, love exists, we want to be with the loved one at all times, we need their close company. That is why whoever requests that they "respect their space" is not sincerely in love. Do you share this opinion? |
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I don't believe that whoever request that they respect their space is not sincerely in love. People have their different motive for every given action. It could be due to experiences that one might request for her space. Just like me, I have had so many experiences in life that has made me love my space like Nigeria jollof rice 🤣.
I am love personified, and only those close to me can tell. Requesting for my space doesn't make me a liar, it only makes me a better person who stands her ground on what she wants abd not let people's emotions let her do go against her wish.
For love, I can displease myself to please others but when it comes to my space, please I want it all to myself except for the love of my life and for people that know me too well. If I am yet to know you, then I have my boundaries and you have to respect it if you love me. Love should be reciprocated.
I have to invite @ruthjoe @pandora2010 and @nancy0
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Desde mi punto de vista, son muy sensatas sus opiniones sobre este tema. Cada persona necesita su espacio para realizar ciertas actividades o simplemente para reflexionar o estar con sus pensamientos, sin hacer nada más. Las personas con sentido común saben respetar eso y, cuando no lo hacen, pareciera que algo está fallando en su comportamiento, en su percepción de la realidad. Gracias por presentarse en este concurso con sus magníficas ideas. Saludos.
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Hola amiga @ninapenda, muy bonita tu publicación, la realidad es que no debemos ser abarcadores con las demás personas, cada quien tiene su privacidad, su especio y su vida personal. Siempre debemos respetar eso, así tengamos mucha confianza y afinidad con alguien. A todos nos gusta que respeten nuestro espacio. Nadie es feliz cuando invaden su privacidad. Muy bien explicado amiga, te felicito.
Saludos.
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