It is reasonably complicated for the mortal brain that God has given me to understand the methods of acting of irrational human beings (my person enters this thought that torments me day and night). Incredibly, the gasoline that fuels our will is sometimes the so hated shame, that every minute our conscience, like an annoying drill in a construction two houses from our current location in this small blue sphere that we like to call earth, repeats to us that We did contrary to what was expected of us by someone else.
It seems that the analgesic drug that the brain loves the most is the approval of other living beings, like a drug addict, we look for someone to stick their thumbs up as a sign of approval. Such action would only momentarily ease the pain of self-shame, as we make what people expect of us our number one priority on the daily to-do list. Even worse is when between machinations, we come to the far-fetched conclusion that we are not satisfying the people around us and we begin to believe that they are thinking the worst of us, when many times, it is not.
Thus, our mind worries that our being as it is does not fit into the environment where we find ourselves, our conscience exaggerates what is really happening and shame is born, this shame begins little by little to torment our mind, the same , takes the reins of our being and like a simple machine begins to use us for its ends, calm the torment that shame generates on it. How sad it is when a human being with free will deprives himself of it, by allowing the way of thinking of others to influence his being in such a way that he ends up being a simple puppet, someone who rejected the purpose for which divine providence He had sent him to this plane of existence to satisfy the desires of others.
The saddest thing of all the happy matter in question is that when the way of acting is in an advanced stage, the person comes to himself and is aware that everything he created was a facade to try to hide the traumas that he suffered. Today remain on your mind, and you end up doing something serious. Another event that is also potentially present is that when the person has convinced himself that he is receiving the approval of other individuals, at a given moment he does something that they dislike, and, however minimal, when expressing his Nonconformity, be it as if a motor vehicle were crashing into a mountain at high speed, to better describe it, I will evoke the words that the preacher Itiel Arroyo would say in one of his many lectures:
"If you live for the approval of others one day you will die for their rejection"
To conclude, the best advice to avoid falling into this serious situation is to simply accept yourself as you are (as long as this does not negatively affect other individuals), to understand that not everyone has the same current of thought, that for more than we strive, we can never be to everyone's liking, because there will always be someone who will not like who we are and what we do, but it is better to die being hated than to live approved, going totally against our purpose; Or have the important historical figures who teach us since kindergarten not achieved great things, those who despite having the whole world against them, decided to fulfill the purpose for which they were here on earth and to be different from others, although many lost their lives in it? So, let us not be ashamed of who we are, and let us underestimate the negative that others may formulate regarding our way of living.
But seen from a different perspective, let's not go to the extreme of vanity, because whoever feeds on the meat of praise chokes on a bone of offense. Let's do what we like because our heart, like a fiery furnace, lights up in the passion we feel when doing this action.