Do you think it's right to trap man with pregnancy?
The Answer for me is No. Unless the guy have decided to settle down with you. Men of nowadays no longer have time for marriage unless they love or like you to some extent. They will rather ask you to abort or become a single mother. So as a woman don't even think that you can trap a man with pregnancy, men are wiser than that. You can't trap a man with pregnancy because the relationship between the two of you is the pregnancy and once you force it on him and eventually give birth the hatred will increase. My advice is any woman that likes a man and wants to trap a man with pregnancy should at least get a skill and make sure that she is financially stable to handle any outcome from the relationship.
Do you think it compulsory to marry who is pregnant for you when you are not ready.
Igbos don't marry out of pity because if you marry any man that doesn't like you just have it in mind that you will cry more than the baby in that marriage. It's not compulsory to marry someone who is pregnant for you. As a man if you are not financially stable you will become old in two seconds while trying to take care of a baby. So it is necessary to have something doing so that even if you don't like the woman to an extent of making her your wife, you can take care of the baby by your self and train him/her. I know of a friend who is once my boss at work. He has his own establishment and he is doing well in his business. He has no serious relationship and was never ready to get married but it turns out that he got two woman pregnant and threatened to sue them for killing if they abort the pregnancy. And now he has two children (boy &girl) and he has been the one training them without restricting their mothers visitation. So it's necessary for both genders to be financially ready before pregnancy will come.
Why do you think some girls involve their selves in this trapping?
Some girls do it to answer married people or to avert being a single mother. While some do it to save their family name and what people will think about them and their parents who have one position or the other in church. So they have zeroed their mind to take all the pains that will come out of the marriage than being a single mother or putting their lives in the line while trying to do an abortion.
Do you think that there are successful marriages that started with pregnancy disagreement .
The answer is Yes! Some marriages ends happily and turns out to be more successful after the birth of the baby because some children have grace and luck that comes with them. There's a man that impregnated a girl after so many disagreement he agreed to marry the woman with the intention that the woman will leave after putting to bed. The exact day of delivery he won poll of (400,000) four hundred thousand naira. And that was how he paid bride price and they lived happily. It also happened to another person and his client paid him and he bought car for the woman. So many marriages is successful when the beginning wasn't easy.
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