I'd rather hear the truth, even if it's bad!

Hi Steemians

Like most people, I usually share my happy moments in my posts. However, life is not always a process filled with happiness. I feel sad today. Exposure of one to another can be both a great happiness and a very painful sadness. What a contrast!

I found out that someone I trust has been lying to me for 4 and a half months. It was a huge disappointment and shock. Being able to trust someone wasn't hard before, but it started to get harder over time. Each disappointment is like an obstacle that makes it harder to trust people. Therefore, when someone shakes my confidence, I feel sad because my threshold for trusting all people will increase.

Lies, lies, lies... There was such a song, I will find it and add it under the post. I learned the lie of the person I trusted by chance on social media. If there is anything worse than a lie, it is learning it from someone else, not the owner of the lie.

I've always been a proponent of confrontation and conversation. That's why I told him clearly that I knew his lie. He started to create excuses, unfortunately, they were excuses that damaged the seriousness and depth of our conversation. In fact, he was fooling himself. I think the most dangerous thing in lying is firstly deceiving yourself. The person who deceives himself is blind and deaf. That person can neither perceive his surroundings nor evaluate his own situation.

Lies give birth lies. Other lies are produced that are associated with the main lie. This is the way the lie grows. As a result, the owner of a lie causes an avalanche of snowballs. I will use too many metaphors for the lie because it is not enough for me to describe it in simple words.

A lie is like a snake that slowly envelops you and, as time passes, makes you feel uncomfortable and eventually strangulates you. I mean, it's pricks of conscience. What worried me was that he had said that he did not feel any conscientious discomfort about his lie. This means normalizing the lie. It's a terrible cycle! It is a cycle in which he will get lost first...

He told me that human is dirty and he is dirty. I said No. Human is not dirty, but the bad behaviors they choose consciously pollute them. You chose the lie, I didn't choose that. At that time, I said that not all people are dirty, but those who choose lies.

Some people choose to hide it or delay telling it, thinking that they will get an unwanted reaction about their actions. This is the beginning of the chaos.

They hide the truth, thinking that the truth will harm their friendship or relationship. When the lie is exposed, its effect is multiplied by the time it is hidden. The lie he told so that our friendship would not be damaged had broken the back of our friendship and this friendship would no longer be able to walk.