The importance of true love cannot be over emphasize; we have created movies about it, written books about it, sang songs about it, dreamt about it, but only very few people find true love in a life time. True love has become a rare treasure which has succeeded in eluding so many people.
As a kid I grew up watching soaps and movies which gave me the ideology that ‘’True love’’ was very easy to find only to my greatest surprise I would watch my friends cry in pain as they had their hearts broken. For those of you still reading, yes, I am a guy and today, I am going to allow women to see how a man thinks when it comes to relationships.
Please, women, you have to know this golden rule, ‘’the way women perceive relation is totally different from a man’s approach to relationship.’’ This golden rule will help you understand why many women get their hearts broken, wondering what went wrong. Have you ever loved a guy, and you saw something so beautiful go south without knowing why? Well, I am going to be showing you things about men and you that you might never have known.
Before, I proceed; I want you to understand how unique you are. I am going to be touching a lot of topics, some of you have heard and others, you haven’t. Love is beautiful, we all want to find that someone who would be the one, our true love reality. But first, you have to take some points into cognizance. It will change your life forever. You have to find you first, if you must find true love.
• (Mi Lady Know Your Worth) You are Unique and can’t be duplicated:
You have to realize how unique you are. Don’t allow anyone make you feel inferior, don’t allow anyone make you feel less of value. A lot of ladies try to keep a man by changing for him. They change up to the point that they forget who they are. One of the ways of keeping a man hooked to you is to ensure that he falls for the real you. Don’t become a fantasy for a man who will someday realize that we live in a real world.
I am a guy, most times, I see ladies trying to become who they think that I want them to be. A man who loves you will want you to become the best version of YOU and not a version of who he wants you to be. A man, who knows you and falls for you, will obsess over you.
Relationship becomes like glue when it happens: that is when a man falls for you knowing your faults, your good qualities and your dreams.
• Chase Your Dream:
A lot of women fall in love and they forget their dream and starts chasing the man’s dream. They try to fashion themselves to fit his dreams and aspirations. Well, this is why many women feel like dying after a break up, because they realize that they were the only ones who sacrificed in that relationship. So, in the event of break up, they realize that they are empty, while the guy is full. Nothing hurts in the event of a break up like time wasted by forgetting your dream. Money can be gotten back, but time wasted is gone forever.
Another way of making men obsessed with you is by living your dream. By chasing your dream you become a scarce treasure that men will chase after. Let a man know that while you love him, sacrifice has to be both ways.
• Be independent, loyal:
The truth is that a loyal woman is like a rare treasure, but she makes her self-common by becoming too available. You are a treasure, treasures are known by the value they have, yet they are scarce. There are women who become parasites, always clinging to a man. Any man who wants you around 24/7 might not have a vision. It is very important that you don’t allow a relationship to choke you to death.
Remember Neyo’s song, having a level of independence makes the man stand in awe of you. Humbly make men understand that your time is expensive. There are women who have mastered how to make their selves rare and powerful.
• Be there when needed, not when wanted:
Be there for the one you love when needed, at the most important points in their live, but don’t let them order you like piazza. A real man treats the presence of his woman like an expensive wine; he savors it and appreciates it. Always make a man understand that the most expensive currency on earth is TIME and if he wants your time, he needs to know your worth.
Let men understand that you are not pizza that they can order around anytime they like. Be there when needed, not just when wanted.
• Humbly Value Your Self:
I added humility because this makes people powerful. You can be confidant and humble. Some of the strongest women I know practice this, they are very humble, yet they know their value. You can’t just access them any time. They are comfortable with themselves; they don’t need any man to validate them. Humility beautifies people. You see, the stronger you get, the more humble you should become. There is nothing that defaces a woman like pride. With humility you can exude all the other qualities without coming off as too pushy. Humility makes power enviable and beautiful.
• Not all Men are the Same:
This is your jack pot in this post. Men have external similarities but internally unique and different. The same way that you are unique and beautiful, this is the same way men differ from each other. You see, men are the product of many factors ranging from factors like: upbringing, believes, ideologies, experiences, family background and more. What this means is that each and every man is a unique, just like every woman is unique. If I treat the woman I love like the way I treated my ex. That will be a problem. You have to realize that even though there are billions of men out there, only few might be compatible with you, and only one is for your.
Women often mistake compatibility with similarity but that is not true. I love to liken ‘’Compatibility’’ with ‘’Agreement and responsibility.’’ Look for a man, who is in agreement with you, I didn’t say who agrees with everything you say.
If you want men to obsess over you, then you have to understand that each man is a puzzle. Pay attention. Never treat two men the same. Look for a man who understands the power of agreement and who loves to take responsibility. It is responsibility that differentiates men from boys.
• Healthily Love Your Self:
Let me teach you a secret, I have discovered that men maltreat only the women who allows them. This is the truth, set the standard on how you permit to be treated. Men fall for a woman with standards. If you love a man, set the standard on how you wanted to be treated. Never allow anyone to molest you. Draw the line, and stick to that line, come rain, come sunshine.
Love yourself in a healthy way, let the man know that you love him, but you won’t live on him validating you. These things I am teaching you in this post will show you how to stand out and stand unique. YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH: don’t allow anybody to make you feel less worthy.
• Determine Your Value and Know it:
I have seen amazing people who have allowed their selves to be treated like trash. In this world, ONLY YOU SHOULD DECIDE WHAT YOU ARE WORTH! Some women sell themselves short. There is an aura that women who know their worth create around their selves. They know who they are, what they carry and what they can offer. If you add humility to this, you will shine like the sun.
Don’t put yourself on an auction market and wait for people to determine your value, be like expensive real estate with a price tag.
LEARN HOW TO MAKE ANY MAN OBSSES OVER YOU!
The Way Men See Women;
Men, sees a woman the way she sees herself. Yes, it’s a matter of time; the man you love will see you the way you are. The secret to making men obsessing over you is by first creating you and knowing you. Yes, you have the power to create who you want to be. It is a power you should never give to circumstances, sorrow, and relationship. Creating the strongest version of you and then allow the world to see you. Whoever falls for that you, if the one for you. Find you, be you and shine you.
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