Steemit Engagement Challenge S12W4 | Decide, act and release

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What does forgiveness mean to you?

To understand forgiveness, we can explore the connection between the verb "to give" and the act of forgiving. Forgiveness, in essence, involves giving beyond expectations. This perspective underscores the idea that forgiveness is a profound gift, the most beautiful one we can offer.

The etymology of the word, which originally means "to excuse someone," might be rooted in the concept that if someone took something from us without our consent, our natural inclination might be to want it back — seeking revenge or claiming reparation. However, forgiveness diverges from this instinct by embodying the absence of resentment and the renunciation of the desire for retaliation.

In this context, the word "forgive" takes on the meaning of, "Although you took something from me that I didn't willingly give, I choose not to reclaim it from you; thus, I forgive you." The act of forgiving, in practical terms, can be understood as a conscious decision not to retrieve what was taken, an agreement to let go of the desire to reclaim stolen possessions. This symbolic gesture has evolved into the metaphorical meaning of "excusing a person."

In your childhood, do you remember your parents forgiving you for any mischief? Tell us about it.

I had a swing in my garden. One day, I took a boat rope tied it to the top bar and tied my wrists underneath in an attempt to do what I assumed was some sort of zip line (Yes on a horizontal bar... I thought I was an engineering graduate).

Obviously, since the bar wasn't slanted, thanks to my momentum I found myself in the middle of the structure without any support for my feet hanging by my wrists. Besides being a poor engineer I was not a sailor and of course I made gallows that became tight under my weight.

So I found myself like an idiot in the middle of the swing bar hanging by my arms and screaming in pain as the knots tightened and cut off circulation to my body. I couldn't do anything at all.

Fortunately, my father was not too far away and came to cut the rope. It's also fortunate that I did this thing with my arms instead of my neck.This was the stupidest thing I did as a child and my father forgave me for it and advised me to avoid hurting me in the future.

Do you consider yourself to be a grudging person?

My answer may seem strange, but it stems from a real personal experience with this matter. It is usually said that you have to have morals, suppress anger, and love people in order to be able to overcome their humiliation and their harm to you, but to be honest, I found this actually difficult for the soul, heavy, and requires a great effort to maintain the matter. But recently I changed my way of thinking, my entire mentality, and introduced one question into my mental program: Why should I care? Am I really interested? Making mundane human problems a small matter is what gets me through so easily.

When I truly see that existence and life are a great and enormous mystery, astonishing as this world is with its issues and its vastness, when I see the world with these eyes, I become able to rise above personal problems with the surroundings, not because they are ineffective, but because deep down in my soul I have come to see them as less than the value of time and devoting to them, whether time or With energy, the issue has become easier. For example, someone attacks me on social media. I ask myself: Did two actions hurt me in a way that prevents me from continuing life? Most likely the answer will be no, but yes rarely comes. So I will not stop or stop. May God forgive you. Continue on my path for the sake of my health and to preserve my resources. There are bigger matters.

Tell us a brief story or anecdote, where it was your turn to ask for forgiveness or, on the contrary, where you were asked for forgiveness.

First of all, someone can absolutely hurt you without realizing it, if only because they are unaware of your sensitivity on a given subject. If you don't tell him it hurts you, he has no chance of guessing.

Then, it can happen that someone hurts you because they are in a period where they themselves are suffering. Psychological suffering sometimes has the consequence of altering the person's relationship with reality including with regard to the degree of tolerance to suffering in their environment.

There is currently someone in my friendly environment who is in a state that I would describe as pre-depressive and has so far found no other way to get rid of his suffering and frustration than to no longer make an effort to “put on gloves”. He is aggressive, “tough” and without nuance. There is a take-it-or-leave-it aspect to his behavior and if I ever tell him that his behavior is borderline tolerable, I'm pretty sure he will end our relationship and move on. will bite his fingers when it is too late.

So I do my best to cope with what is only the manifestation of his suffering hoping that he realizes his condition as quickly as possible. I tolerate this because I've been there myself and I know the pain of depression can be blinding.

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