What is the pattern of people?
"In different dimensions, such as different scale, different population, different space and different time, the pattern of human is to define the coordinates of goals, weigh the advantages and disadvantages, and allocate the priority of resources."
The pattern of people is: how high you stand, how far you look. " The world never sets limits on people. It's its own pattern that limits people.
People with patterns can see their own shortcomings, while people without patterns are more arrogant.
People with patterns and people without patterns see a different world.
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Pragmatic
A man can't see his door on a plane at a height of 10000 miles.
You must land and transfer to a vehicle before you can get home.
It is good to have great volunteering, but first of all, we must do the right thing.
Whether a person has a pattern, depends on his attitude towards people and things that cannot be changed.
The stone on the side of the road trips a passer-by. So the priority of passers-by is to remove the stone or to volunteer to repair the whole road?
It must be to move the stone first.
It is good to set up the whole road, but first of all, we should devote our energy to effective things.
Pragmatic, is to put the eye on the current things, to focus on the current things, to accept the reality.
Five signs of a growing pattern
Pragmatic
It is very good to have a great dream. If only the lofty ideal has no practical goal, the dream of the future can only be an excuse for you to brush your sense of achievement;
It is very good to do business. If only pragmatic and not far-reaching ideals, pragmatism will only be the reason why you are lazy to think.
Having a pattern is not equal to high-level ambition.
Having a pattern is to live the present, accept the reality and do everything in front of you with a pragmatic attitude.
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forgiveness
Su Shi's "on the Houhou" has a paragraph:
The ancient so-called heroes, there must be a festival.
If you can't bear the feelings of people, you can see humiliation, pick up your sword and fight. This is not enough for courage.
There are brave people in the world, but they are not surprised when they come to them. They are not angry without any reason.
The people they have taken are very large and their aspirations are far away.
Su Shi said the story of Zhang Liang picking up shoes.
Zhang Liang met an old man who was "rude" on the bridge.
The old man threw his shoes under the bridge again and again, Zhang Liang picked up for him.
It is because Zhang Liang has forgiveness and tolerance in his heart that the old man will pass on his life skills and achieve his extraordinary life.
Confucius thought that "forgiveness" is a moral standard that should be practiced in his life.
Forgiveness is the general pattern of a person. Only when one is good at seeing the essence of a problem can one tolerate the shortcomings of others.
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self-discipline
What is self-discipline?
Self discipline refers to the self-discipline, which means that in the absence of on-site supervision, through their own requirements, they become passive to active, consciously follow the law, and take it to constrain their words and deeds.
Real self-discipline is not simply to do one thing persistently, including controlling emotions, not because of external forces affecting their behavior.
Five signs of a growing pattern
There was a man named eddiba, who ran home quickly every time he had a dispute with others, and ran around his house and land for three laps.
Then he sat on the ground and thought, "what is the qualification of my small house, so little land, to argue with others?"? So he was angry and began to work hard.
A few years later, the house of aidiba is getting bigger and bigger, and the land is more and more. Even though he was old, he ran around the house and the land three times after every quarrel with others.
"Why do you run around the house and the land three times as soon as you get angry?" his grandson asked
"I still get angry now," said eddieba with a smile. "But when I get angry, I run around the house and the land for three times and I think that my house is so big and there are so many land. Why should I care about it with people?"
Self discipline is a kind of self-control ability.
Can maintain their order from the heart, not to find excuses.
It is a correct attitude to live without punishing yourself with other people's mistakes, not being influenced by bad emotions, not doing excessive behaviors, maintaining firm and maintaining internal order.
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respect
Respect is a kind of ability of thinking in a different position, and a kind one who can put yourself in the place of others' thinking.
Sometimes, we prefer to argue with people, express our own opinions, try to prove that others are wrong, and we are right.
But what is the meaning?
Franklin often said: "if you go to fight and argue, even if you take the upper hand, this kind of victory will not be worth losing, because you will never get the recognition of the other party."
Rather than argue with others, think calmly and think about the starting point of each other.
It may be for emotional reasons, or for cognitive level, or for a moment of anger.
If you want to understand, you will find that, rather than arguing, you should win respect from each other with a respectful attitude.
Avoiding debate is the biggest victory of the debate.
"I don't agree with you, but I support you." Respecting others is not only a pattern, but also a self-cultivation.
Allow the diversity of the world and treat others well and wrongly.
Five signs of a growing pattern
At present
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Self restraint
American columnist Harris told a story.
One day, he and his friends bought newspapers at the newsstand. Friends spoke politely to vendors, and the other side was always cold and silent.
Harris, who was a little bit of a stranger, said, "this guy's attitude is too bad."
"He always does," said the friend
Harris asked, "Why are you so polite to him?"
A friend's answer, let a person unforgettable for a lifetime: "why should I let him decide my behavior?"
The cultivation of temperament is not for others, but for themselves.
True self-cultivation comes from the big pattern, from the inner strength, from the sufficient confidence.
Don't let the haze of emotion cover your own clear sky, which is the best pattern