HELLO!
Did anyone tell you that finding man/woman to live forever with when you finally made up your mind to settle down is easy? Well, I thought so when I was an average boy. The truth is that, finding a man/woman to settle down with is more difficult than when you are flirting the streets, scavenging for what to satisfy the lust for forbidden fruit. Whenever you are ready, the fear of not falling into the wrong hands will make you look at every man/woman in a perplexity.
THIS IS MY STORY
I got my first job at the age of twenty four. As at that age, plans of getting down never crossed my mind let alone to think of having such a conversation with many girls that came my way then. I have graduated early from school and in my days in the university I had girls who had to go through hell, risk their resources just to make me happy even as I was not financially buoyant. The care, love and affection I got then was that it was going to be that easy when I will eventually made up my mind to stick. Nine years in well paid job, and other material things anyone would have asked for, I woke up to the reality that I wasn't getting any younger and as such I needed to settle down. More pressure on me was when I traveled home to meet my parents.
They were becoming more concerned about my life and the fact that they wouldn't want to pass on without beholding my first child. Often time, traveling home was less spirited as fear of "Utibe, when are you giving us our grandchild?" would make me have a rethink of any possibility of going home to meet my parents. Their frustration and pressure was unbearable. In my days in university, I could still recall having Rebecca (the best girl) as my girlfriend. Rebecca was the nicest girl I knew. She was the back bone of my academic success and even more than that. She was what any man would have wanted for a wife. She came into the picture during my year as a 400 level student in the department of Mechanical Engineering.
We met at library where I went to research for solution to an assignment on MEC 427 that morning. From that moment we became friends and later two love birds. Memories of Previous demanding more seriousness due to my lackadaisical attitude towards our relationship were fresh in my mind. She was this type that could take and tolerate my poor attitude towards her and most times I felt guilty of having to take her for granted despite her sacrifices and love. Eight months after our graduation, I got a marriage invite from Rebecca, she was getting married. Taken by a more serious person. The invite never really moved me then because I first felt I wasn't ready, and above all when I would eventually be ready, I was going to have a lot of girls to choose from. All girls I have been meeting lately seems to be in for one thing, reaping where they did not sow.
CONCLUSION
I wish I can turn back the hands of time and have those good old days of having the liberty of having girls loved me for nothing. "You can't eat your cake and have it back". I have learnt that the best time to find a suitable person for marriage is when you have nothing. When you have a girl/guy who loves for who you are not for what you've become or what you have, stick to him/her. Most men/women ignore this fact in their relationships, played their best opportunities in the name of flirting and they eventually have to search for that one person that will love them genuinely like forever.
Thank you my steemian colleagues for reading, I hope you guys enjoyed my motivational story. See you in my next post.