Divorce: My view, possible preventive measures // My advice.

The rate of divorce in marriages nowadays is alarming, especially in my locality. It calls for action. I took it upon myself as a concern citizen to interview some of the divorcees in my state. The information I gathered from my interaction with them is what wrapped up to create this post. It will be beneficial to my steemian colleagues. I am @kingdouglas from Nigeria, enjoy reading.

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The most essential cause of divorce in marriages is the "Inability to accept corrections". Where a partner will offend his/her spouse and instead of being remourseful stand to defend his mistakes is the indirect way of signing a divorce letter while they're still in marriage.

Do you know that a very minor phrase like "I AM SORRY " can keep married couples for a lifetime? Yes, it is the most powerful sentence as far as marriage is concern. I don't want to dwell much on the caucuses of divorce, let's focus on the "PREVENTIVE MEASURES".

"I just recalled a comment where divorce said that "when she got married newly, she was fond of always moving out of her house each time she had issues with her husband because of anger and his husband will come looking for her and begging her". Now that's not it! She also said "At some point he stopped coming after me. He stopped begging. That's when I knew I had gone overboard".

To the crux of the matter, some people are fond of doing the things they know is WRONG repeatedly just to keep getting empathy and also in turn play emotional blackmail on the other party. And once they change, once they stop chasing you, once they stop being vulnerable, begging and always being at your mercy, you will accuse them. "WISDOM IS PROFITABLE TO DIRECT!"

Marriage is a beautiful journey of growth, love, and companionship. However, no relationship is perfect, and disagreements are inevitable. One essential aspect of a healthy marriage is learning to accept corrections from your partner. Accepting corrections can strengthen your bond, foster open communication, and promote personal growth.

1. Promotes Healthy Communication: Accepting corrections encourages open and honest communication. When both partners feel heard and valued, they're more likely to express
   themselves freely.

2. Build Trust: When you accept corrections, you demonstrate accountability and a willingness to grow, which reinforces trust and strengthens your relationship.

3. Encourages Personal growth: Corrections help you identify areas for improvement, leading to personal growth and self-awareness.

4. Resolves Conflicts: Addressing issues promptly through corrections prevents resentment and unresolved conflicts from building up.

5. Fosters Emotional Intelligence: Accepting corrections develops emotional intelligence, helping you manage emotions, empathy, and relationships more effectively.

1. Listen Actively: Pay attention to your partner's concerns and respond thoughtfully.

2. Avoid Defensiveness: Recognize that corrections are meant to improve, not criticize.

3. Stay Calm: Manage your emotions to prevent escalation.

4. Acknowledge and Apologize: Show appreciation for your partner's feedback and apologize when necessary.

5. Take Responsibility: Own up to mistakes and make amends.

6. Focus on the Issue, Not the Person: Separate the problem from your partner's character.

7. Be Open-Minded: Consider alternative perspectives and solutions.

8. Show Appreciation: Express gratitude for your partner's input and guidance.

1. Create a Safe Space: Establish a supportive environment where both partners feel comfortable sharing Concerns.

2. Schedule Regular Check-Ins: Regularly discuss progress, goals, and areas for improvement.

3. Practice Empathy: Put yourself in your partner's shoes to understand their perspective.

4. Celebrate Growth: Acknowledge and celebrate progress and improvements.

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