Surprise or promise which do you prefer

Introduction

Surprise is something that takes a person unawares without any notice. It is something that happens unexpectedly without any prior information.
I must say here that surprises come in two forms. It may be a good surprise and on the other hand a bad one.

A promise can be something one told you that he or she will do for you. Promises keep our hopes alive.it makes our expectations high and at times can cause sleepless nights just because we are expecting something from someone..

Have you ever been surprised or promised before?

Well my own surprise I received was something I could never imagined even in my wildest dreams. It has to do with my past. Can I say I trusted him so much? What have I done wrong. Would I have listened to him and live with guilt forever?
These are the questions I keep asking myself till tomorrow even though I I took a bold and positive step and took the bull by the horns.

I was six years into a relationship and gave my all. I trusted him so much ( my son's father) that I will not even believe any prophecy that this guy will turn against me.
I was his Queen and he my King as people knew us to be inseparable. But things changed when he gained admission into the university. I never knew that deep in his heart he was a wolf in sheep's clothing. This guy raised my hope and asked me to please wait for him that all will be well. He spelt it out that I am his and that he will never disappoint me.
Hmmm! This has reminded me of the words of King Duncan to Macbeth in sheakspear's Macbeth that " there is no art to find the mind's construction in the face". Not knowing that his cousin Macbeth will kill him that night.
This world is indeed deep.

How was your reaction to the surprise or promise.

Well the only thing that does not change is change itself. Man is bound to change and at anytime So that was the mindset I carried all the time and it helped me to be strong.
When he told me that it was over between us even with a child in between. I was like it can't be true,no . Is this how I am going to be a single mom?
I closed my eyes but opened it to reality.
What a surprise!
I wept night and day took sleeping pills but couldn't sleep. I nearly lost my mind as I had emaciated within days and people started asking me questions.
God strengthened me and I moved on as that wasn't the end of the road for me.

Have you ever surprise or promise someone?

Yes I have surprised someone before. An innocent prisoner according to him and he looked it, though looks are deceptive anyway. We met somehow and he told me his story . I will surprise him by buying him things and giving him some financial assistance which of course he didn't expect from me. I encouraged him and told him he will come out if he is innocent. I spoke kindly and nicely to him and today he is free to the glory of God.

Describe a scenario you were promised and it failed.

Hmmm! this particular scenario pains me till tomorrow because I never expected my uncle could harden his heart so much against his promise.
It was when I was in my year two in the university that I had a challenge and couldn't pay for my fees and exam was just at the corner. I called this my London uncle for the first time to please help me.
He told me to go ahead and get it from someone that he is expecting money soon . I was happy and told my mom about it but then one mind told me not to borrow money from anyone.
After sometime I called him again and he started giving me excuses. Till today he has refused to fulfill that promise but prefer to send to others even when they don't need it. I thank God that He made a way for me to pay my school fees.
What if I had gone to a money lender I asked myself. Is this how I will paying interest upon interest?
Wicked man.

Do you believe in the saying that promise is a debt?

Yes I believe so because if you promise someone something and you don't fulfill it, immediately you see the person your heart will blame you because that person is expectant except you don't have a conscience.
So it is better you don't promise at all than promise and you don't fulfill it.
Thank you everyone for taking time to read my post.