Hi,Guys my name is jailadeen
Hello friend! In the olympics that took place in 1992,
Derek Redmond was ready to win the 400 metre running race.
Everybody expected him to win, even he was confident that he would win the race.
When the race started, after he had run a short distance,
suddenly, his hamstring started paining.
Since he couldn't run, he sat down on the ground.
After sometime, even when he had so much pain, he started running.
He decided to finish the race somehow.
While he was running, unable to bear the pain, tears started flowing from his eyes.
When he was running, suffering from his pain,
suddenly, someone, came to him running past the security.
It was none other than Derek's father.
Derek's father gave him support and left him near the finish line.
After that, Derek ran alone, crossed the finsh line and completed the race, crying.
After all this happened, he only finished last in the race.
Even though he finished last, the audience gave him standing ovation.
Even though Derek lost the race, he won the hearts of many people.
Even the person who came first would not have gotten that much respect.
Because, he had behaved like a real man there. He knew that he would lose the race,
but still, he completed the race instead of giving up.
This only made him a real man. Today, we are going to see about 5 principles.
If you also follow these principles, you can also become a real man.
Principle no.1: Be open-hearted.
For a lot of people, if any negative thing happens in their life,
or if they are betrayed by someone, they will become close-hearted people.
i.e if they are betrayed by someone, they will not keep relationships again.
If a friend betrays them, they will be scared to keep friendships with new people.
Since they have felt the pain, they will isolate themselves from the world.
i.e they will make themselves lonely.
They separate themselves from the world in order to not feel the pain again.
But those who have strong masculine nature, won't do like this.
Even after they have felt the pain, they will be open-hearted.
They will face the world like a real man. By doing like this,
their testosterone levels would rise and they would become more manly.
Therefore, if you also face these kind of problems, be open-hearted.
Principle no.2: Live as if your father was dead.
You imagine this: There is a boy, and he has a mom and a dad.
The amount of love they show him is that, if the boy asks for anything, his parents would immediately do it.
They would buy him whatever he wanted, in fact they would buy him more than that.
And whenever he asked for something, his parents have never told him no.
In the same condition, this boy has grown up.
If he needed money, he would take it from his father.
Even if it was a small job, he would expect the people in his house to do it.
In this manner, his entire life is dependant on his family.
At the same time, there is another boy. Even his mom and dad show him love.
But, since their financial condition was not good, the boy won't get whatever he wanted that easily.
So, he started growing believing that he won't get what he wanted, easily.
Since he was growing in this condition, he would face his problems by himself,
he would do his jobs by himself, and if he needed any money, he would go to part time jobs and earn money.
Now, you tell. In these two boys, who will be more manly?
If problems are presented in front of them, who would handle the situation better?
Who can take care of themselves and others well?
Is it the man who faced many problems from his childhood and overcame them, or the man
who couldn't solve even a small problem in his childhood and would start crying?
Of course the child who has overcome many problems in his life,
can handle tough situations well .
But if you're still dependent on your family,
you cannot be a true man.
So, if your father is not with you,
just like how you take care of your family,
lead your life in the same way.
Then only you can become a true man.
Though it is a harsh point,
if you follow it, you will become a true man.
Principle No.3: "Never change your opinions just to please others"
Now imagine that a boy likes a girl a lot.
As he liked the girl a lot,
he tells ok ok to whatever the girl says, without thinking.
The boy, without giving values to his opinions, was telling ok ok to whatever the girl said.
If he was near the girl, he was listening to whatever she said,
and was not giving value to his own knowledge and opinions.
For example, suppose the boy was believing strongly that smoking is bad.
He advices everyone to not smoke.
But one day, when the girl told him, "Smoking is not bad. Even we can smoke",
instead of saying that smoking is bad,
he said, "Yes what's wrong in smoking? Even we can smoke"
He is doing this as he thought that if he listens to what the girl says,
she will like him.
But, really, girls will always keep the people doing like this as their friend,
because, he didn't give value to his beliefs and opinions.
If the boy didn't give value to his own beliefs and opinions,
then how will others give value to him?
Therefore, if you need to become a person with a masculine nature,
you should strongly believe your beliefs and opinions, and
should give value to it as well,
because, if you first respect yourself,
then only others will respect you.
If you change your opinions and feelings to impress others, then no one will value you.
But if others say something logically good,
you should not ignore them.
Don't change your logically strong opinions just for the sake to impress others,
as it can create a problem between those two.
Principle No.4: "Passion is your first priority"
Just like what was told in the previous point,
like how you shouldn't change your opinions and beliefs for others,
just like that, for a real man,
their passion should be their first priority,
because, if we have a clear purpose,
our masculine nature will improve.
Whenever you decide to set aside everything else,
and work really hard to achieve something,
at that moment, everyone will start liking you,
and they will get attracted to you.
Now if you want to impress someone,
you have to follow your passion.
If you give more priority to your passion than
the person who you want to impress,
this itself will attract the person towards you.
Therefore, just to impress someone, don't set aside your passion.
If you put complete efforts on your passion,
and give first priority to it,
automatically everyone will get attracted to you.
Principle No.5: "Don't use your family as an excuse"
There were two people, one was rich and one was poor.
Now when we asked the poor man like why he was poor, he said, "I had faced many problems in my childhood,
my father was a drunkard, my mother was a housewife,
and there was no money in my house. As a result I couldn't study and this is the reason I am like this."
When the same question was asked to the rich man, he said,
"I had faced a lot of problems in my childhood,
my father was a drunkard, and my mother was a housewife."
"As a result, there were financial problems in my house, and I couldn't study."
"But, in my childhood days, I learnt how to earn money,
and, as I didn't want to become like my father,
I worked really hard to come to the position where I am today."
Many people either blame their families or tell reasons like they don't have luck, for not becoming successful.
But, a real masculine man will face all the problems, overcome them, and become successful.
How much ever problems they face, they will set aside some time to work for their passion.
They will work for their passion, and, without any excuse, will become successful.
I have told you all this from the book "The Way Of The Superior Man"