Thank you for opening up, dp. I really do appreciate it. Your views were mostly as I expected - like tending to use more imagination with a more intimate basis, while having had a taste of the porn side of things. I was interested in whether some element of porn is ethical, and if it has quenching or exacerbating effects on your desires. You give great insight into this, thank you. While I struggle to see how you can really make porn quite ethically, I don't doubt its possible. I'm glad some countries are opening up to this (I imagine accepting and support works much more than hate, on all levels). I can also see you have managed to distance yourself from it, which seems to work really well for you. It's also nice to hear it had positive effects on you. I hope others find their way as you seem to have done. Not only will acceptance of its normality be a huge step forward, but having paedophiles in the public's eyes who have managed to live with an element of satisfaction while being quite ethical is surely a great encouragement to others.
Thank you again for the insight, dp. Your reply helped me understand one aspect of it a little more.