The WORST Day Of My Life, I JUST LOST MY JOB

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The WORST Day Of My Life, I JUST LOST MY JOB

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Could this be the worst day of my life? Arriving at the office this morning, doing my routines, updating daily reports, meeting with my subordinates, gave reminders and assignments. After a few hours the human resources called my attention to the corporate office. Arriving at the HR office, the manager told me that I am one of those who will be joining the second wave of retrenchment.

I wasn't expecting it, I was surprised. Although it's a possiblity but as the Branch Head, I thought that I will be spared because I know my position at the office and I had several conversation with the CEO about the future of the company.

I'm worried, really worried, because I'm a family man with 3 kids (all boys) and a wife who always needed my support. I am the only whos working in the family, my wife is taking care of my kids at school.

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Their's a saying that "Whenever a door is closed, a new door will be open." I hope that this phrase will work for me, because my feeling right now is like I was shoot in the head. I have not yet received my salaries since April 2017 and then BOOM, I'm retrenched. We could not expect an immediate remuneration from the company because I know from my position that they have nothing to give for now.

My wife asked me, what are we going to do now? I don't know, I could not think properly yet because I'm feeling ill due to the pressures and worries I have in my head. It's like the world is on my shoulder. I hope that this feeling of insecurities will fade soon.

My kids have not come home yet and they have no idea that I am jobless now. I don't know if I'm going to tell them or I'll just have to keep it within myself and my wife. I don't like telling them because I don't want them to suffer, I want that they will just continue what their doing with their lives. There too young yet to be involve in this kind of problem.

Hopefully, if I can land a new job, that's the time that I will tell them that I lost my previous job.

Things will be alright, I know. What I do not know is WHEN. Hope it won't take long because its hard to have an empty table in the dining room.

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Due to my disappointment, I invited my wife for a lunch. I admit, I ate a lot during this time, I have to express my discouragement through eating good food.

Thanks for my wife, for encouraging me that things will be alright. I know she's worried, of course she does but she's trying to make things in balance because she knows that I'm not feeling good.

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Upvoted 100% and resteemed! Im also unemployed and going through my own personal hell. I wish u the best of luck there is always something better waiting for us on the other end.

Hopefully bro. we can find what is due to us.

I wish you and your family much blessings. Like you said "Whenever a door is closed, a new door will be open."

I know that the economy is going through the beginning of another deflation, probably going to be worst than 2008. But this is just a gradual transition from this system that's broken, non real life (All Life) supporting to sustainable life (All Life).

I don't know how much you liked your job or not but most jobs are slave jobs, basically pick your slavery in order to live and give up your energy and time until your old if you can even afford to retire.

I hope that you got at least a severance package and file unemployment as well and really spend time with your family, don't get desperate and think about trying to do something that is more beneficial for you and family. Money is not everything, just a tool. Time is precious and can never be regained. Hopefully with the unemployment you can pay your bills, if not, if you have really good credit. Apply for no interest for a year or 18 months credit card and hold cash and put bills on credit and just pay the minimum because some bills cannot be paid with credit cards (An option). This option allows more time but it's best to pay all of it back asap to avoid interest charge. If cannot pay back, oooh well, it's just bad credit that can always be rebuilt but you and family survived.

Good luck and much peace, love and blessings.

Thanks for this great advice sir. Money is not everything, peace of mind is. But in order to secure peace of mind, we need to secure the source that gives us peace of mind. It could be that I am slave for my job and have no choice but to pick it for the sake of people around me who needs support. I always think that someday I can escape from this slavery but at this moment Im not prepared.

I wish I can find ways to achieve this freedom.

I completely understand but hopefully this could lead to something better for you. As it's said "When one door closes, another one opens" or things that no longer serves you depart to allow another more beneficial thing to arrive. They cannot occupy the same space. Also if you can manage a little time off to be with your family, perhaps that was needed as well as having the time to clear your head and think of something to achieve the freedom or at least make more pleasant.

Yes, that's the best thing to do right now, spend time with family.

Everything happens for a reason. Hope you find better opportunity...It seems you are having lot of food...:P

Maybe you are looking at the table beside ours :)

Hahaha.. this is funny. Well, you have in yourself everything. Reading your post gives me a sense of self-motivated person that you are. And yes, truly said that everything happens for a reason and that there might be something better awaiting. Who knows?

Thanks for the compliment. We need to be positive all the time especially at times like this or we will be lost in oblivion.

Yes, very true. We need to be positive. Moreover, it is in these times that we are being judged by God as powerful. And, always remember to keep a smile on your face. However bad may the situation be, your smile gives you and your family members the strength to bear all the losses.

Yeah right, nothing can be gain in being negative. Just a smile away and things will keep going :)

True that. A smile is as powerful as a sword. And always remember one more thing, your enemies are going to be so much very happy to see you in a bad situation. Show them the courage you have with a smile. Keep smiling. :)

It is true, but I don't know of any enemy though :)

100% upvoted hope it can help a bit and wish you good luck.

Thanks for the encouragement man.

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I understand the pain and frustration. I was laid off 3 months ago and still haven't found the job to support me. Hopefully you will find something better and get a little extra time with the kids in the meantime. I am very sorry for this and you will be in my thoughts while you are looking for your new career. I found out after i lost my job that I could make a lot more for a better people and just overall there is more out there. Be patient and strong my friend!!!

Thanks for the advice. Hope things will get better soon.

It will man.. Keep us updated. Hopefully steemit helps in the process and a lil income. I have had to do this to pay my bills. I got a BitPay card for emergencies.

You are right. Steemit is here, hope I can work it out.

i wouldnt expect it to cover everything but at least in the meantime it will help and make some difference.

Yeah right.

Tell your family asap. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be to tell them, because for every day that you didn't tell them, you will feel as you have been lying to them, and it's even worse to admit that you have been lying than to admit that you don't have a job.

Thanks man, this enlightens me. Yes you are right. I guess I'll tell my kids about it.

I have had quite a few bad things happening in my life, but in retrospect everyone of those - no matter how utterly hopeless it looked at the time - changed my life for the better.
Have faith, it will be the same for you.

I hope it does. Thanks for the encouragement.

It's a circle of life, and life is a cycle. Feeling down if things won't turn out right is natural but don't let it to pull you down. If you hold the glass of water for a second you can't feel the heaviness of it, but if you keep on holding it for the entire day, then you can feel the burden in your shoulder. Try to put it down, you don't need to hold it for long, coz whatever hard you think of your problem today, it will not be solved it, instead give you sadness and it's still a problem. But when you put down what you hold, you ease the pain and clear mind comes to open, then good things will come to be a solution to your problem. Don't forget to look up high and trust everything above HE will provide, don't worry about the thing.

And by the way, don't worry I will always be there in your back to push you hard so you won't stop running or ill kick your butt! hahaha just cheering you up! Your strong, and solid enough, tested by trials in life, and steemit community is in your side. Steemet is always there for steemians, goooooo steem!!!! @juvyjabian

There goes my wife @dianargenti. I love you. Thanks for making me strong.

Psssstt, don't say it loud! they will hear you, but I guess now they knew it! Hahaha I hope they don't. Luv yah, too!

Upvoted.

When things happen and it seems like the end of the world, it is sometimes nature's way of moving you to the next phase of your life. I understand how you feel, because as a single mother with 2 children to look after on my own, i get those worries too. But, don't let panic get the better of you. Stay calm, stay focused and work out the way forward for you and your family. Never make decisions from a place of fear.

I used to have a very good and well paying job, but i resigned from it sometime ago, because i noticed some issues with my children and decided i had to spend more time with them to ensure they grow up right. Resigning my job meant little to no money, but the difference i have seen in my children and their general well-being, money could never have bought for me. I have no regrets leaving the job. My children come first. We love each other deeply and have learned to be happy, regardless of what my bank balance is.

Please do not worry. Losing a job is not the end of the world... it might just be the beginning of better things for you. Use this time to enjoy your family. Everything will be work out just fine.

Thanks for this advice. I am spending great time with my family. And with this incident, you are right, I will be spending more time to them.

Hope things will turn out just fine.

Don't worry, I lost my job or resigned to be more precise 3 months ago. You got your wife and life, money will come don't worry about it.

Thanks for the encouragement. I could not help myself but worry about the situation. Hopefully, things will be alright then.

See the good part : you will have plenty of time to spend on Steemit and create a new job ;-)
I wish you good luck in everything you will start from today, and a lot of succes....

Thanks for the head start.

Don't be afraid man, bad things exist to good things happen!

I hope things will be alright.

Sorry to hear

So sorry to hear about that.Dont worry everything will be fine.
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Thanks for the encouragement

Sorry to hear that but don't be give up
Goodluck

Giving up is not part of the equation :) I have a family to support.

When things get tough steem will provide :D. Don't give up hope because there are always new oppurtunities!

Yeah right, hope is always there to find ways.

Sorry to hear about that.

If it's any consolation: I have been laid off 4 times, and 3 out of these 4 lead to a better paid job.

Amazing. Glad that things work out to be good in you. Hopefully it will also do in mine.

Stay positive brother! Everything happens for a reason, there is no such thing as coincidence. I would make it a priority to take some time out of each day while you're looking for a job to visualize and meditate on the job you really want, the job that will change your family's life. Believe that it has already happened and it will be so.

Thanks for this great advice @wreckitralph81. Being positive can help a lot. Thanks for making me ease.

My husband went through this back in 2010, went from $100,000 a year job to nothing with no future regarding his skill set ... he was a quality assurance tester for a digital mapping company and no coding skills, he hates coding. Make sure your skill set is up to date for the future job markets! Good luck🙏

Yeah right. It is also important to upgrade ourselves more often. Learning doesnt end when we graduated in school but the more it is needed in the real life.

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It's absolutely needed for survival, give your wife a hug from me, she is an amazing person🙏

Thanks man, im going to give her more than a hug.

A new door will definitely open up , just take sometime to notice it . Good luck mate and take care

Thanks bro, I hope so

Gave you a 100% upvote. You haven't been paid since last year them they let you go? Man that is some cold hearted shit!!!

Not last year, just since 2 months ago April 2017.

Oh sorry. It's early over here. Hoepfully things work out. Its sad that workers have to give 2 weeks notice but employers can let you go on the spot.

Theirs a huge difference between them though :)

I am believing success for you. At least you have steemit. If people support each other here we can all prosper.

Thanks for the encouragement bro. Yes you are right steemit is here. Hope I can find a way to make steemit work for me and to all of us

Yes... you will get a better opportunity. We will keep support you! :)

Thanks bro

I'm sure this is the door to something better for you, but I appreciate how bad you feel now.

I hope man, really hope for...

So sorrt to hear. You seem like a very positive person and I trust you will know what to do, all the best!

Thanks for the encouragement.

I am sorry, it is difficult to determine the conditions. Family remains everything

Yes, family is of great importance and we need those thing to keep them safe and alive.

It's never nice to hear about these things.

Dude go take a day or two for yourself and clear your head. Go sit in nature where it's only you and calm your mind. Be silent and listen for further instructions.

Don't be angry, but be happy for this will make you available for new opportunities.

Wishing you all of the best.

Thanks for the advice. How I wish I could do that but theirs a constraints that hinders me to do so, you know what I mean.

Still try to find some time for yourself to calm your mind. Even if that's when you go to the toilet.

Thanks. Yes I do. I believe it could help a lot

Wow I can only imagine the pressure you feel I hope things work out for you. If it is worth anything maybe next time after you have secured a job it cant hurt to continue looking. That is what I did, I almost took a job somewhere else but reversed my decision last minute but that employer left the door open for me in the future. So if something happened I have somewhere to go right away. I guess my point is to have some sort of plan B no matter where you are in life. Best case is to be self employed though!

Thanks for advice man. Yeah right, being self-employed is the best, where we can freely manage our time base on our preferences.

No problem. And work on things we truly care about! :)

For now I care for steemit, because I believe in the platform.

@juvyjabian ohh shit bro dts the worst thing ever to happend to a family man but u know wat my mama said to me
"Dont u worry child steemit gotta plan for u"
god bless ya
#upvote

Thats what I have in my mind bro. Hope things will be alright with steemit. I like your spirit.

Totaly bro steemit gotch u

I know steemit is there to help, we just need to work it out

you'll move forward and grow stronger. just a blip. you can course correct, you have time!

Thanks for the encouragement man. Hope it wont take long.

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You will make it through. You got steemit on your side.

Thanks for the encouragement bro. You are right, steemit is here.

That sucks, but what was your job? What did you do at work?

I was a branch head a financing institution

And you wrote 4 posts a day while you were doing a job in finance? And had a family? Jeez, where did you get the time? When I was doing 4 posts each day in 2016 and early 2017, it kept me busy and I don't have a job or family.

Financing job is not that difficult after setting things up with the team especially that our operation since last year is more on the collection part because our European investors had stop their support to the company. So selling/promotion is out of the equation.

Did you like your job? If not, well, it may be a blessing in disguise!

I do love my job. Its my greatest achievement so far. I started at the company as an account officer and gain so much attention to the management which then lead to my promotions until I became branch head.

Wow :-( Then it's crazy that you got the sack! Such a great career... Well, with all the experience acquired, i'm sure you'll find sthg else!

Hopefully. But its hard to find a job at the current times here because the region we reside is until the state of martial law due to the ongoing war against ISIS supported bandits in marawi city, a city next to the city where I lived.

Don't worry bro everything happens for a reason . And in your case maybe the reason is for your own good .
I created a post about freelancing and working online if you are interested you can check it here.
Maybe you can find your job online and be your own boss.
Hope for the best in anything you will do .

Ive been working online for 6 yrs before I got the job I just lost.

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You got the experience then . Maybe you should do what you did back in the days .
Perhaps improve it and go for higher expectations. Online opporunities have no limit you must know that already.
Good luck !

Yeah right it would be much better if I know coding and programming since those has promising pay.

Everything has promising pay. Depends on the level you know it how well you promote it or sell it .
If you want to learn programming just let me know i can guide you somewhere .

Im too old for programming :) well if theres an easy way to start why not.

Nothing is hard depends on the effort you will put into . THAT is the main key to everything you want to learn.
For example if you want to learn Java ( i suggest it for start because it is widely used) you can go here for free courses. Start with the basics. Put one hour a day . In one week you will reach a higher level than expected .
If you want you can read my post i provided in my first answer for more details. AMA anything you want i have been involved a lot in these things.

Great. I'll check this out. Thanks for the help.

Brother we are deeply sorry for your situation now, but just like our brother @billyjohnsonart commented above and said;

"I don't know how much you liked your job or not but most jobs are slave jobs, basically pick your slavery in order to live and give up your energy and time until your old if you can even afford to retire"

The same thing happened to my brother less than a week now but he's still a happy man after all. Thank God you have a soulmate who can help you in this situation with comforts and encouragement. Be a man, this is not the end of life but a change of opportunity, at least you're a better person now with more experience in you line of work which will serve as a stepping stone to a better job from now. My love to your kids. I wish my up vote could impact but am just a newbie, but it wouldn't stop me from up voting because no situation is permanent. ONE LOVE.

Thanks man. Sure good things are coming over.

I find your story touching. This should be a wake up call for all employees out there. Always work as if your life depend on it but also plan as if you can do without your job. I wish you success.

Thanks man.

I'm sorry to hear of your job loss. I lost my own nearly 2 years ago and I was absolutely devastated.

Every closed door is a new opportunity. Today I continue going to school and I'm slowly building value on Steemit as well as working as a stay-at-home dad. I'm hoping to build Steem into a "job" over a reasonable period, but instead of banking on that I'm always knocking on the door to see what opportunity lies on the other side.

Glad that things went right on you. Hopefully it will also happen to me.

My prayers for you my friend, i could feel your pain right now as i have 3 very young kids. And the job can come and go at anytime, i have a job right now, i love it so much, but hope that i could have my own business or something im passionate about. Im sure this challenge will push you through a positive or negative situation, eithers ways be mindful of you decisions as no matter what the circumstances?'c you will always get through the day, God is always with you no matter what! "This too shall pass"

Thanks for the nice head start. Yes hopefully things will be better in a few days.

Pagpalain ka ng diyos!🙏🏼

Salamat po

That's too bad about your job but like you said, another door will open. Good luck!

Hopefully I can find those doors

yes sir, i do too believe in own start. even still self learning can make u more curious and knowlegde more than that of others. Every good days comes after BAD days.

BEst of luck !!

Indeed

same some problems, even i loose my job, n tryna steemit some try,

Good luck with your new journey, let's keep in touch! Upvoted, followed!

Thanks. Yeah keep in touch

Sorry to hear this @juvyjabian. Hope you'll find another job soon.

Yeah, I have to or my family will suffer

Perhaps it's time to go "Full time" into Steemit. May be a blessing in disguise. Blog about your new life, being self-employed as a Steemian, things are really looking up here around Steemit! All the best!

Yeah right. Hopefully things will work out

I have just noticed your post, I am really sorry, but you are a clever man and I am sure you will find a good job soon, it is great you have such a wonderful wife who supports you in everything, and you will have more opportunities to devote your time to Steemit.

Yeah right, I hope things will work out find with steemit

Telling your family is the best choice. Having them aware of their situation and seeking remedies together, is powerfully important. All heads are better than one or two and builds the family bonds.
By being here on steemit, you are way ahead of the curve, my friend.
Looking at your page I see a 2nd meetup soon. Do I hear opportunity knocking?
I am keeping a good thought for you and your family. Steemit like you mean it!
Followed and resteemed.

Thank my friend. Thanks for the headstart. Hopefully steemit is the answer for all of these.

one step back, three forward. keep your head up and go on..

Yeah right, hope things would go that way. Thanks for the advice.

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Everything in life happens for a reason. Something better is waiting for you around the corner. Maybe take the family out for a camping trip and choose the right moment, to tell the truth. Honesty is the most important in any relationship and you have one thing less to worry about.
Wishing you all the best

Thanks for the message bro. You are right, just need to spend time with my family and talk about things and everything will be alright.

Yep, just believe that new opportunity will come on your way and you will be better of than before..with a job. At least as an entrepreneur, you can find more quality time to spend with your family .

Thanks for the encouragement