Once a wise Teacher asked his students, "Do you know why people scream when they quarrel?"
One of the students replied: "People are screaming because they are losing their calm."
"But why do you have to shout, because the other person is next to you?" — the Teacher asked — "Is it impossible to speak quietly? Why yell at another person if you're angry?"
The students offered their answers, but none of them satisfied the Teacher. Eventually,
he explained:
"When people are dissatisfied with each other and quarrel, their hearts move away. In order to cover this distance and hear each other, they have to shout. The more angry they get, the greater the distance between their hearts becomes, and the louder they scream.
And what happens to people when they fall in love? They don't shout, but on the contrary, they speak quietly. This is because the lovers' hearts are very close to each other, the distance between them is very small."
"And when people fall in love even more, what happens?" the Teacher continued, "Lovers do not speak, but only whisper softly, and become even closer in their love.
Later, they don't even need to whisper. They just look at each other and perfectly understand each other without words.
So, when you argue, do not let your hearts move away from each other, do not utter words that further increase the distance between you. Because there may come a day when the distance will become so great that you will not be able to find your way back."
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