Today, I want to share a thought that will help clear the fog in our eyes,the fog that blinds us and wouldn't allow us find the right spouse and get united soon. One of the fogs that make it hard for people to find their spouse is that they have their eyes fixed on society wedding, instead of a successful marriage.
These days when a lady consider who they want to marry, they have it top on their mind that their husband must be able to give them the wedding of the century; not who will give them fulfilling family life. At the same time, the young man that should get married and stop wasting A lady's time won’t take the needed step because his wedding must be as glamorous as his neighbor's.
The quality of a good husband is not measured by the Pomposity of his wedding occasion. My reason is that a man’s financial capacity has little or nothing to do with his ability to be a good husband and father!
The foolishness in marrying a man because of his capacity to give you the society wedding is that : society wedding is a day’s event and its memory is only transient! I mean, it borders on vanity and glitz to make lasting decision of a marriage partner on the basis of temporal, half a day and wasteful event called society wedding. Usually, society wedding of wrong partners often create buzz, that’s why the 'boo' they get at divorce is equally loud!
To understand that marriage is designed for the male and female to come together to unite forces with each other for better results in life is to equally understand that in marriage, peaceful existence and unity is required to achieve the ultimate goal. Based on these, I conclude that success in marriage is achieving these things in the highest degree possible. Therefore, in your choice of spouse, your emphasis should be on someone that will multiply you and with him you can be united in your values, ideas and philosophy for multiplied productivity. It shouldn’t be based on someone that can give you the wedding of the century.
Note: Be informed that society wedding has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with the success of a marriage!
It doesn’t guarantee peace in the marriage,infact, many times, it only results to a strain on your marriage because people borrow to make it happen and live fake life to keep up with it. Oftentimes people succumb to the pressure for society wedding because of what people would say; A real person forgets about what demeaning talk others will say about fact that concerns your wedding but be concerned about making the marriage and children the talk of the world! And Just in case you want to host a society wedding all only in a bid to show off, I'll suggest counseling – urgently. If you have problem of inferiority complex, book a therapy
Hosting a wedding you can hardly afford is not the cure for your low self-esteem; it's simply, covering the sepulchre with a rose bed. Many people have started their marriages on faulty foundation because they want to have society wedding. They borrowed money to make their wedding talk of the town; and spent their first few years settling the pressure of debt,I strongly believe it’s pure idiocy and stupidity to borrow money to have a society wedding!
I have seen people who treated wedding like a business venture spend the first few years of their marriage settling debt, I like it for the rice, plenty chicken, cozy environment and professional event managers. But I hate it for the sorry state it lands those that can't comfortably afford it; but insist on it because they want to keep up with the Joneses!I hate it for the girls and guys that tarry in their singleness because to them, "it's either society wedding or nothing".
Please if you can comfortably afford a simple wedding, go ahead and don't forget to invite me.
