Some background story about myself. (mildly NSFW)

in life •  8 years ago  (edited)

Disclaimer: Please mute me if you are easily offended, my posts are intended for open-minded 18+ adults only.

I realize haters and trolls on here are inevitable. You can make fun of me/judge me if you want, lol.... I'm sure it happens more often than I'd like to imagine. But I know I'm a good person, how I feel about myself is most important. I definitely don't care about what people who don't know/care about me think. Please don't assume you know everything about me either from this post. @celsogoya suggested that I write a little more about myself....
So community on here can have a deeper view into my perspective.
I guess I'll start with why/how I got into porn.......
I've lived on my own since the day I turned 18, by choice.
I quit my full-time job of being a receptionist at a property management group, to do porn. Since I had to pay for full-time daycare too, which was almost as much as my rent... so I was also dancing at a stripclub on the weekends in addition to working full time, to be able to pay for everything. I had a son and was married at 18, divorced at 20 (left after the second time he physically abused me), and I'm 22, almost 23 now.
So yeah, I quit because I didn't want to have to spend so many hours working and away from my son, just to barely make enough to get by. Self-inquired to an adult agency online, and got signed same day. Been shooting almost 2 years now, as I said in my introduction post, haven't regretted quitting my full-time job since fortunately I've been working fairly steadily since I've started. I really enjoy doing porn though, since I'm comfortable with my body/sexuality, love traveling/new experiences and am unconventional in nature, otherwise I wouldn't be doing it. I'm not doing porn because I feel I don't have other options or that sex is my only skill, no that is not why I do what I do. Just remember guys, modesty empowers some... and exhibition empowers others, everyone is different.
I also, have my real estate license. I just did my post-licensing course & renewed it over the summer.... even though I'm not doing anything with it right now. I'm only allowed to represent buyers/sellers in new homes, HUD homes, auction homes, and commercial property transactions currently..... until I join the realtor's association, which costs $1,500, then $100/month after that. But I have to get a car again first, since a friend of mine totaled the car I had, this past summer.. and doesn't have any money to repay me. I should be able to get a new car by the end of the year though!
So yeah, I have my real estate license as a backup plan basically for when/if I decide to quit porn. I plan to do it part time here and there too, once I have car and join association.
As far as my personal life,
I'm bisexual and polyamorous (realized I'm non-monogamous at heart after my marriage).
Here are some quotes (from book 'Spiritual Polyamory' by Mystic Life) about polyamory if you don't quite understand what it entails:
"If you are polyamorous, it doesn't matter whether or not you have zero, one, two, or more lovers. Polyamory is a philosophy that is about non-possessive love. Embracing this philosophy is non-quantitative and arises from a desire to experience the giving and receiving of love without conditions."
"The remembrance that you as an individual are completely whole is crucial. If you feel dependent on multiple partners that is just as unhealthy (if not more unhealthy) than being dependent in a monogamous relationship. Remember that love is an expansion of your wholeness, but that nobody should be treated as a 'vital organ' that you need for survival."
I have an amazing girlfriend... she is a crazy Aquarian, like me... and simply, the sweetest, most genuinely caring/loving female I've met in a while. She is a nurse fulltime, which I respect so much, that she has the strength and determination to handle such an emotionally difficult career choice. She also, is a raver, used to be a dancer in Bay Area, and does erotic type of modeling from time to time. I am dominant with her, sexually, although I would not want the same dynamic with a male... I prefer to be submissive with men. But there's not many guys that I believe are worthy of my submission.
Sex on camera is def not the same as sex in personal life, there's a lot more factors to pay attention to when filming (like making sure penetration is visible), it's just a lot more technical too (like this many minutes in this position, this many minutes in this position), and I don't necessarily always have chemistry with the performer I'm working with, so sometimes acting is required. That is a part of being a performer. I don't fake things in my personal life though, I have meaningless sex for money.. I don't want meaningless sex for free in my personal life, want it to be with someone I at least have a connection/friendship with. But I get tested every 12-14 days to be able to work, so I can't afford to be reckless and am really hesistant about fucking out of industry guys for that reason.
As far as my health, I don't do any hard drugs or drink alcohol, just THC to maintain my sanity. I did a lot of hard drugs in my young teens (13-16), since I grew up in Vegas, so I've definitely gotten past my reckless stage in life. I honestly, did a lot of damage to my brain, doing so much ecstasy at 14.... I had serotonin deficiency syndrome for years, before I was able to basically cure it/build back my serotonin production by taking 1000mg of Tryptophan (since I researched and found out 5-htp is only a temp fix for as long as you keep taking it, and doesn't actually do anything to build back production, since tryptophan is what creates 5-htp in your brain) every night for 30 days. So thankfully, since then, I wake up feeling refreshed and productive every morning, rather than waking up dreading everything. Made such a difference in my quality of life.
I don't eat fast food, I haven't microwaved anything in 4 years, I do at least 50 squats with hand weights in a day, ingest as much protein as I can to attempt to gain weight (since I have to eat a lot to maintain my weight cus fast metabolism), and drink a lot of water.
My parents know what I do, no I definitely didn't tell them... my old coworker decided it was her business to spread once I started. Of course they aren't completely okay with it, but I'm adult/live on my own and I still have a good relationship with both of them because they see that the industry hasn't made me into a bad person, a drug addict, or irresponsible.
They both support me in doing whatever makes me happy.
As far as my hobbies, I enjoy hanging out with my son, eating, sleeping, listening to music/dancing, and only time I really go out, is to drum n bass shows because I am very passionate about that kind of music and love to dance to it/hear on nice speakers. I make dance videos occasionally. Here's my 2 most recent dance videos I made, in case anyone wants to watch them. Was when my hair was still brown though.
Here's a PG pic first, since screenshot of my dance video has my booty hanging out:


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I have a friend from college who paid for her education as an exotic dancer. We had gone on our separate life journeys but last I heard she was an escort. And so what?

I personally live by the philosophy of Do No Harm. If you aren't harming yourself or others then what you do for joy or money is no one's place to judge. You're not breaking any laws, right? Personally, I am thrilled that you are so independent and confident. Thanks for sharing your story. ;)

She isnt doing any harm but NOTE: I DIDNT UPVOTE CAUSE BITCH YOU UGLY AF.

I'm downvoting you because you RUDE AF. Didn't anyone teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all?

Did anyone ever tell you not to extort your body for attention or wealth? Being rude doesnt seem to put stress on my conscience but allowing the world to be overwhelmed by sex and other bodily desires does. :D DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR YOU NYMPHOMANIACS?

Very polite way to say "I cannot get laid, and I cannot manage someone else does" .

Nope! Not breaking any laws!
Thanks for reading!! <3

Maybe laws of man but not laws of God.

Very polite way to say "I cannot get laid, and I cannot manage someone else does" .

Ive heard of someone who paid law school with pole dancing ;)

Yes, sorry to hear about the trollish type stuff that took place.

Thanks for mention. I think we are not a bunch of guys looking for naked pictures, but we are a group of people trying to hear and understand choices. I can't judge you and as long i'm an anarchist, i believe you can do what you want with your body.
I'm happy to hear you say you have a beloved son and a family. Most of times we just think, people involved in porn are alone and selfish.
Tell us more about you, mixing with your job stories, will be good to hear about your experiences.
Sorry for my poor english, but i'm from brasil.
Best regards!

Hello @alexnova and welcome ;-)

Sadly I won't be following you, or maybe I will.

I'm not a user of porn, and I'm also not an anal fan so what you are selling is not really of that much interest to me.

I would be interested in knowing more about the you that is not the porn star.

Perhaps that's one way to gather a supportive audience here on Steemit. Write about stuff, like other people write about stuff. Show us your world, wherever in the world that is.

So your blog is about you, and you just happen to work in the porn industry. Instead of this is a porn channel with some annoying text getting in the way of the videos. ;-)

I hope you stay on Steemit and continue to stir up debate and conversation and perhaps as Steemit matures and we get to know you, we will all understand it's just sex.

Everyone one Steemit is here because of sex - their parents had it and they were the result. ;-)

Glad to see you came back, I suspect doing so will bring you support in the community.
I hope you join us in the discord chat that @fyrstikken invited you to,...if only for the lulz,...

Well I signed into it one time, but didn't really read anything that was being wrote. Not really trying to debate morals with people, assuming that is prob what might end up happening if I join the chat. But, I honestly, have no idea what exactly is being said... maybe if I get curious enough, I'll check it. :P

Lol, you got to get into the general voice chat, you will find that you have support there, too.
We are looking for solutions that make Steemit less triggering for some folks, and welcome your input.
Give a little notice and I bet you can fill the place up.

Well I appreciate that my input would be welcomed in the chat. But, I don't have too much time to 'chat', since I'm busy doing housework and taking care of my son, the days I'm not working. I might find some time in the future to join the chat though.

You're an amazing woman I really hope you keep posting here, cheers!

xoxoxo <3

Received all of them:) Following u..follow back if u may...

Thought you would find this interesting. Someone wrote an article about you :)
https://steemit.com/censorship/@mattclarke/a-bit-of-perspective-on-our-nsfw-controversy-sfw-post

That is so amazing!! thanks for sharing this with me! :D <3

Welcome :)

Hello,
me again. I had an idea.

There is nothing stopping you from having two Steemit accounts - one for work, one for personal.

So how about you have one account where you promote your work. you can do as much 'Not safe for men with heart conditions' as you like, doing what you are doing now.

Then you can have another account that is all about you, where you get to talk about music, your son, hopes, dreams, aspirations etc.

That way those who don't want to engage with you about porn can engage with you as a person, a mother, a Steemian ;-)

I think it quite possible that once they get to know you as you and not as a porn star, they might just be surprised ow much they like you.

You never know, you may even get me to follow you :-)

You seem like cool people. Welcome to Steemit. Can't wait to hear more from your perspective.

I find your life very interesting. I think for most people your job is so far from the norm telling people about it will get you more followers than just posting sexy pics (the internet is full of that).
I have been surrounded by soft drug use for most of my adult life being a biker. I have never tried any. Your experience in drugs should also make interesting reading.

Porn is just a performance. Like any movie: you can play to come from Vulcano as much you like into Star Trek, still you were born on earth. I think the "scandal" of doing porn would be lesser if only people was able to see this as it is: acting. Sly was not a soldier just because of doing Rambo, neither he has become a boxer because or Rocky. Both cases were just "acting". So I wonder why people still believers porn is a thing...

First of all, kudos to you on your body control. Those were really seductive moves, I must admit:)...oh, and you've got a really rockin' body and....I know that you get more than enough of these types of compliments from guys, but it's true so I still say it!

However, my real intention is to let you know that I appreciate you sharing your honest perspective(s), from the actress side of porn and how it compares to your daily life. This, I (the big brain, not the small one) find value in.

I wish I had enough time in this life of mine to get everyone's personal, honest, take on their own lives and life choices. Better yet, I wish that I had the power to live a day as every person, so I could get a real inside view of how they experience the world.

Alas, I have neither the time nor the power to do either of those things. Nonetheless, you're helping me to get closer to realizing my first wish, and on a topic (sex and "sex industry") that interests me, no less.

....so, yeah, thanks.

xoxox thanks for reading :)

Thank you for sharing this story about your life.

Thank you for reading :) xoxo

Great Videos, Again keep it up and lets get some adult content rolling here!

Nice moves! Your legs look very strong. Were u a dancer before?

Thanks! yeah I used to be an "exotic dancer" lol, rarely I still will, but only if absolutely necessary. Love the dancing aspect to it, but hate the hustling aspect. I also used to be a gogo dancer, I used to gogo at underground local edm events, and I gogo danced 2011 EDC Vegas.

That sounds like a fun time

An interesting read. You're obviously an interesting creature. I'll keep an eye out for further posts.

Thanks for reading! <3

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Awesome!! Good to know, thanks!

Glad to hear that you were able to overcome your serotonin deficiency. Quinoa & Amaranth help as well, and actually dancing can post your Serotonin levels too!
I'm a dancer, so I must know!

<3
Thanks for the tip! :)

If you are polyamorous, it doesn't matter whether or not you have zero, one, two, or more lovers. Polyamory is a philosophy that is about non-possessive love. Embracing this philosophy is non-quantitative and arises from a desire to experience the giving and receiving of love without conditions.

Yes! That's why I don't practice monogamy, it has nothing to do with loyalty but possession.

I believe that all professions are equal... Be it porn or others... as long as it doesn't break a rule, or is illegal.. its also just a way for you to earn a living.. Keep going @alexanova!

Welcome to Steemit Sweetie, happy to see some Porn Peeps here! I think you'd enjoy my Channel! We should collab somehow, I'll do an Article on you maybe x x
;)

I for one am glad to see you on Steemit and suggest you ignore the haters. Like my mother used to say, "Joke 'em if they can't take a fuck."

did you mean to say "Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke." ? lol

No, mom used to say. "Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke."

but thanks! :) <3

Absolutely awesome. And this is why I prefer steemit to facebook.

xoxox <3

Brave girl, love the integrity - no bull there!

Thank you! :') <3

Very interesting perspective on that world. Learned something new on being poly. Sounds very open and free.

WHO THE FUCK FLAGGED THIS THOUGH? I'M AMAZED.
NO REASON AT ALL THIS SHOULD BE FLAGGED.
HATEFUL CLOSE-MINDED PEOPLE ARE OBVIOUSLY MAD. hahaha

Haters are going to hate until we start teaching kids that anger and violence are not the way to attain one's goals,...
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Click on votes and you will find your answer.

Ahhh, good to know.
Thanks! I don't understand why people who don't approve of what I post, can't just scroll on, or 'mute' me ....lol

YouTube is more censorship-resistance than Steem, I thought. Steem is a social network where nice boys writes unfunny post for likes.

"many minutes in this position" i dont know if i wanna laugh or feel terrible for you. No offence. How you live your life is noone else's business. We have a cannabis coach here if you need it.

Why would you feel terrible?
It's just an example of how technical and not personal shooting porn can be....
I don't need a cannabis coach :p been consuming THC almost a decade now, thanks tho!

Well, it seems terrible is all ;)
I have no idea.

No, not terrible.... I enjoy what I do! If I didn't enjoy what I do, otherwise I wouldn't do it. :p
At least 95-97% of scenes I've done have been fun! I don't mind the technical process.

That's good ;)

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