If you think about it, finding someone to be in a relationship with and whom you are compatible with is hard. It's almost as if you have to be at the right time, at the right place, and in the right circumstance.
First, you usually have to be around the same age range. A 56 year old likely isn't going to be dating a 20 year old, unless the 56 year old has crap loads of money. You also have to be attracted physically to the person and not only that, they have to find you attractive as well. This can be difficult for some individuals who don't always fit the societal norm on what's considered attractive so as a result, they're more likely to be rejected by the person they like.
It also has to be the right time as well. Maybe you find someone whom you're physically attracted to, have compatible interests with, and they find you attractive but they're already in a relationship or they could be moving away soon. It could also be that you two aren't looking for the same type of relationship. Maybe they just want sex and they ghost you afterwards even though you're looking for something more. Or it could simply be that you're too shy to ask the person you like out because you're still learning to overcome your shyness.
It also has to be at the right place. You two have to meet somehow whether that's through mutual friends, at a meeting, or through online dating sites. Not only that, someone has to be brave enough to strike up a conversation and have decent enough social skills to be able to generate a connection and not come off as weird or a creep.
Meeting the right person, at the right place, at the right time, can be hard and a lot of it just comes down to luck. That's why a lot of people settle with someone who isn't right for them simply because they're lonely and society tells us we should find someone.
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