In the eyes of many people, face is the top priority, and maintaining decency is the most important thing. Even if the inside is riddled with holes, the face must be bright and beautiful.
This is a heart disease that many people suffer from, and it is also a main reason that restricts them from walking up and climbing to high places.
I once chatted with a friend, and there was a saying called "Poor people must be hateful", and this sentence couldn't be more appropriate for him.
One night, this friend sent me several paragraphs of text in a row, to the effect that when people are middle-aged, there are old and young people, high wages, and great pressure in life. After so many years, I regretted it.
I told him that the emotions really need to be vented, but this cannot solve the problem. If you feel that life is under pressure and financial conditions are not very good, then you can find a way to earn more money and do something part-time.
Later, we talked about some tasks such as food delivery and running Didi, which have relatively low thresholds and can get started quickly. He said that he would not consider these jobs.
Why not consider it?
It's not that he can't endure the hardship, but that he feels that doing these jobs has no face.
He said: "The city I live in is not too big. It would be embarrassing if I meet acquaintances at work. After all, I also have formal jobs. It would be shameful to do these jobs part-time."
I have to admit that there is some truth in what he said, and it is also human nature.
However, since you need money and don't have other specialties, if you don't even want to do these basic tasks, how can you solve the problem?
This is also a very real problem.
I know that he wanted to talk to me just to find someone to vent his emotions and release some life pressures. After venting, he still looks the same.
Many people are like this. In fact, they know very well how to go up the road and how to solve the problem, but out of consideration of face, they often choose to stand still and business as usual.
Even if the result of this standing still is to continue to suffer in the sea of bitterness, they will not hesitate!
Maintaining dignity at all times is a recognition that has been deeply rooted in many people.
Face is the hardest thing for a person to let go, and it is the most useless thing
We can understand this sentence like this: If you put aside your face, it is equivalent to put aside a useless thing. Putting down the useless things will be of great benefit to your life.
1. Put down the bottom, no longer compare, you will live very comfortably.
If someone else buys a brand-name bag, I also want to buy one; if someone else drives a good car, I also want to buy one. This kind of comparison makes many people's lives off track.
In fact, uncontrolled consumption does not mean a refined life. If you buy a brand-name bag, it does not mean that you have an exquisite life.
When your financial strength is not enough to support your vanity, the momentary comfort will bring you long-term pain.
When you put it down and no longer compare with others, many of the worries in life will disappear, you will gain true freedom and live a comfortable life.
Such a life can be called exquisite.
2. Put down the bottom, grow faster and get more.
In life, you should have had this experience: in the face of problems, if you are embarrassed to ask someone who understands, you may not understand it all the time; if you can put the bottom line and ask more questions, you can learn more.
Really good people tend to be humble and studious. This is because they are able to put their hands down and are willing to ask others for advice, even if this person's status is lower than their own, and their knowledge is not as good as their own.
Really good people know this well, face is a small matter, growth is a big deal.
If a person can do this, he will be able to continue to grow. Such a life can be called decent.
3. Put down the bottom, the interpersonal relationship is more harmonious.
In the process of getting along with people, tragedies caused by face are not rare. A husband feels that he has lost face in front of his friends because his wife speaks a little louder to him, and then quarrels with his wife; some people are worried about not getting enough attention at the dinner table...
In fact, the more you are, the more embarrassing you are.
When you put the bottom down, it is easier to gain the respect of others, and the interpersonal relationship will be more harmonious.
4. Don't care about other people's vision, life is more comfortable.
Li Ka-shing said that when you put money down to make money, it means that you are already sensible; when you use money to make money back, it means that you have succeeded.
If my friend can put the bottom down, don't care about other people's perspectives, take part-time jobs after work, and increase his income, I believe his life will be more comfortable than the current one.
If a person always lives in the expectations of others and cares too much about what others think, then he has put a lot of shackles on his life invisibly.
Life is your own, and you should be in control of how you live it.
When you put the bottom down and do what you really want to do, your life really becomes comfortable.
In many cases, if you want to get it, you have to learn to let go. This is a kind of wisdom and a manifestation of maturity.