When a child grows up, he is told to follow the rules, to listen to what others have to say, not to be loud around other people, and so on so forth. He is told that he will not be accepted by the society if he misbehaves. All these thoughts make a child think of what others would say about him. He starts to believe that he needs to be approved by the judgement of others in every step that he takes throughout his life. He forgets that the short life that he has, needs to be lived by his approval only.
EE. Cummings wisely said that:
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”
Listen to your INTUITION
A survey showed a study of what people regret the most throughout their lives. And the answer to most of them was that they wish they would not have lived their lives to win the favour of others but instead they had listened to their own hearts and minds. They wish that they could have put themselves before anyone else. Where ever a man sits or stands, he is curious of the thoughts, feelings and opinions of others. He wears a mask while talking to people which represents him as a nice, generous and a pleasant man, when in reality he is not. When people approach him nicely he starts to forget that he is wearing a mask, a fake mask that does not represent who he actually is.
Personal choice to be who you want to be:
A man as an individual should be celebrating himself, he should be free to express his thoughts and his emotions and not hold himself back for the thoughts of others. Everyone has their own mind, thoughts and emotions and everyone deserves to express them equally. Holding oneself back would not be of any good, instead it would just make one feel depressed and lonely. If a man only worries about how others will perceive him and does not express himself out of fear, then that man can never love himself or be himself or take a stand for himself. This world is not easy to deal with, one has to fight to get his own rights but one does not have to change his thoughts for the approval of others.
According to Jim Morrison:
“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can't be any large-scale revolution until there's a personal revolution, on an individual level. It's got to happen inside first.”
Accept yourself First:
Plastic surgeries are becoming a trend. Man is changing his physical appearance for the acceptance of others. They feel unpleasant and unattractive after hearing the remarks of others. They look at other people who seem stunning and want themselves to be like them, they ignore the beauty that they have been blessed with and are struck by the beauties of others.
It was Jaeda who said:
“Don’t let others box you into their idea of what they think you should be. A confined identity is a miserable way to exist. Be you and live free. Trust that in living true to yourself, you will attract people that support and love you, just as you are.”
End Note:
In the end, you YOURSELF is what matters the most, every single individual has his own personality, his own identity, his own mentality. One should step into their uniqueness and be unafraid to express their individuality. One may think that he is very perfect and optimized his lifestyle but in reality he was doing it for others his whole life and if you die right now then you'll be sorry because in that very moment nothing else matter other than you and you actually wasted your life for others, no matter how close they were. It does not mean that you should not do anything for others but its a fact that you can't please everyone, so being little selfish can be a good thing too.
It was Friedrich Nietzsche who said that:
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
Hi @bluemist
Great post. The only thing is that we are witnessing some countries with different approach to raising their child. Let's take sweeden for example.
Do I think what they do is right? Absolutely not. I really think that we need to learn to be obidient in your age and someone need to guide us. To be able to be approved by society is a very important skill.
The problem wish question: what do you regret the most is that it forces us to actually regret something. And the sad truth is that this regret is never big enough to change anything.
"Plastic surgeries are becoming a trend. Man is changing his physical appearance for the acceptance of others. "
Not really. Ive been in fitness industry for many years and I would say that 90% people change their physical appearence for themself and very small percent does it because of the others.
Let's face it. We're living in society that do not care about "what other thing". That could be the case in the past. But now we only care what we want other people to see and what fake image of ourself on social media do we want to produce.
I hope you wont take my comment as a argument. I appreciate your post. I just have my own opinion which is a bit different.
Followed and upvoted.
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I wanted to check your other posts but I noticed that you dont create much content? :(
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I was about to do the same thing to your blog but found the same thing :)
I'll try to post most regularly now
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But I do post 2 times a week :) It's not that bad isnt it? :)
thx for replying. yours, Piotr
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I am always open to any idea or suggestions, so you don't have to worry about that. What i was suggesting is more of a hybrid approach and we don't need to follow any extreme path.
Thank you so much for you opinion, much appreciated.
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Would you mind telling me how do you imagine such a hybrid approach ?
That's quite interesting.
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Its just that you should be little selfish+ kinds towards other in a balanced approach.
Never always go way out of way to help others that in the end you suffer worst consequences and being little selfish without at the cost of others will won't hurt everyone.
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It is absolutely true. Sometimes go way out of way to help others, but in the end you suffer worst consequences!
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i'm very sorry for such a late reply. have been away for several days but Im back now :)
just wanted to thank you for your previous comment
i will be following you closely as you seem to be very responsive
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Congrats @bluemist. I see you are featured member of the alliance this mo.
Great posts. It’s so true people need to accept and be themselves instead of trying to fit the mold others think they should be. Peer pressure is a bitch.
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So true. Thank you so much for your feedback :)
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I want to infuse this essense into my Son's way of thinking because it's how I am as a person
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Then i am sure you are already doing a great job as good person and father. Thank you for feedback
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Hey @bluemist! I love this post, being YOURSELF is the authentic self which I've been living for the last four years. Yes, it can be lonely and even frightening sometimes, but the peace of mind that comes with it, is priceless. I will follow, thanks. Peace.
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Thank you so much for your feedback, much appreciated.
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An awesome post, @bluemist. I loved every word of it. You said everything that I believe. It is like you expressed the core of my soul thought .
"The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are."
And
"no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.".
This is all that my soul wants.
I believe that the aim of money and resources and education, should be to bring you to a place of "Self Ownership" and "Freedom of thought and expression". Freedom to be who you are, unashamed and unabashed.
Love your thoughts, @bluemist. 😊🍹
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I am just happy that you understood what i truly meant 😊
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I am happy too that you so eloquently wrote what I think :)
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resteemed !
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Cannot appreciate enough. Thank you :)
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:) :)
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Really beautiful words that I needed to hear at this very moment. Thanks for sharing ❤
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Thank you so much for that, appreciate it
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Is the title one of Oscar Wilde's quotes?
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Nicely put, @bluemist! 😊
In other words...
via GIPHY
(h/t Kevin Gnapoor)
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So right, sometimes haters don't even need a valid reason to hate which is so absurd in itself.
and Thank you 😊
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Exactly! And you're very welcome. 😎
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Wow.... That's interesting.... Self development, motivation and inspiration always a key for better person
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(https://quotefancy.com/quote/1628240/Karl-G-Maeser-Be-yourself-but-always-your-better-self)
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Mostly agree - with the caveat not to hurt others with your self-expression...
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Problem is folks love to judge and forget to love!
I have always been sidelined due to being different but, as an artist, have cultivated a thick skin and now refuse others judgements upon me.
Take me or leave me!
Great piece and valuable wisdom for youngsters.
Appreciate you popping by mine and your upvote which I have reciprocated here.
Followed and looking forward to getting to virtually know you.
:)
Be well.
xox
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People will always do that for the rest of your life, its like their sworn oath to do so. I agree with your approach because intellectuals don't have always have to blend in.
About your evolutionary approach i would like to share one quote of JOKER
Thank you so much for support and feedback, much appreciated. Looking forward to know you more :)
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Do you mean be genuine and straight forward when you say to be yourself. Who else are you going to be bro? Lol.I know what you might be thinking but if this is in terms of action to be performed then it's always as per the requirement of the situation. Right? Therefore, if you're saying be genuine, straight forward and act SENSIBLY i.e. do the right thing as per the requirement of the situation you exist in then my brother you're absolutely right. Otherwise, kindly let me know what you are thinking. Thank you very much and have a nice day.
Sorry bro not able to upvote because it's giving me an error when I'm trying to upvote your post.
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You got it right, acting sensibly can depend on situation but intention should be for yourself not to just please everyone.
Your feedback is more than upvote for me :)
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Thanks bro.
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Don't Compete with others. You Become Your Best Version i.e. You Become the Best Possible YOU that YOU can Become. Because that's ALL YOU can Do. If you Compete then You'll Get 10 Marks More and Stop. Seriously?? This is All. What a Bummer?? So much Potential But it gets Destroyed Because You aren't Looking to Become the Best Possible YOU. You're looking to be better than Someone Else and Limit Your Potential. What She/He can Do You can't Do and What You Can Do She/He Can't. Therefore, You become you're Best Possible Self and Strive to FULFILL your ULTIMATE POTENTIAL i.e. Blossom to Your ULTIMATE POTENTIAL. For Eg: If you're a Monkey Be the Best Possible Monkey You can be instead of Trying to be a Better Fish than Someone Else. Get it??
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