Friendship, What's real and what's not.

in life •  7 years ago  (edited)

As most on here know I have been fighting cancer and actually slowly losing the fight. I fight because the love of my life @lynncoyle1 is worth fighting for. I also have two step sons that I adore and have raised with her the last 8 Years. As I got sicker and regular treatment like Chemo is worse than the cancer I thought there had to be a better way. Now I owned a large trucking company and many restaurants and a restaurant with my love. I have come to realize certain things. Alternative treatments are expensive and that is not the worst of it. Its the friends whom over the years had my trucks move them, my staff help them, why because that is what friends do. I also have many friends that over the years have gotten a loan or just a loyal friend in me. As the medical got more expensive and now being on a crappy Canadian disability system I learned the following. I had friends start a GoFundMe and I list the link in the bottom of post just so people can see what true friends do. When a few did this that is when things became clear to me. I sold everything we owned and went to Mexico to basically die where I love to be. I went through the money and even when sick helped and took care of the friends. All my friends knew of my illness but what happened blew me away. The friends when I asked them to repay any loans just dissapeared from my life. The friends that stepped up to start my GoFundMe were great friends but owed me nothing. Also I came to realize some friends were not what I would consider best friends but without a hitch donated and supported me through this hell. Where were my best friends well I would say 50 percent were by my side and helped me and I Love them all. The others whom were much better off than most just vanished. I am so disillusioned by this that I still am blown away. On Steemit I have real support and a positive outreach when I need it. The people here have become more helpful to my mental psyche than those that abandoned me when needed most. I thank you all and I cannot list everyone but I must mention a few.That will be later. Anyway I am venting and have come to realize not all friends are real friends, only when they need you. When I came here I have even had some loyal friends travel to see me and give me there love, true friendship and uttermost support. These are the ones I show in the photos. My real friends. Again thank you Steemit for giving me new friends that actually care here. Here is the link

https://www.gofundme.com/j4w6g2rw

A special thank you to the following

@davemccoy
@johnjgeddes
@markwhittam
@grace44
@apolymask
@beeyou
@deancarter

Wow so many here I thank you all for your friendship and support. A few photos of my friends that I know are my friends. Love you all.

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It is awesome to see you with your friends, I definitely would fit right in with your peeps!!!

And you shouldn't deal with acquaintances that left when you needed them, I completely understand its happened to me many times. But don't forget that you have been blessed with a few true friends and of course a loving family, especially an amazing wife that loves you completely!

Thank you Dave. I do think of you as a friend and hopefully one day a beach day and beers. If you could soread the post I would be grateful. Thanks my friend and if not no biggie

Love ya, buddy, hang in their amigo!! Keep fightin' bro! Not fond of the photo, lol Would have rathered one of you and me. Hopefully, we can do dinner and have a pool day next week. Like this one better, lmao

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haha Dean, you didn't like your photo-mate?! And what's with my big man-hands here?? :)

There is strength in having loved ones and real friends around. Someone once told me that "Your job won't take care of you when you are sick, your friends will, so i should stay in touch ". Stay blessed

thank you so much

God Bless You Brian! Praying for a miracle for you.

god bless you also/ hae a read of my poems if you wish or my beautiful wife @lynncoyle1

I will!

  ·  7 years ago (edited)

eventhough some friends vanished my friend still grateful you do have the nicest friends sticking with you. Stay positive and God Bless

agreed

I guess in the end we've realised who matters most. Like one of my uncles always said, 'you can't change it, but just chalk it up in that little black book of experience'. Regardless how people behave, I love that it's never changed your kind and giving nature; that would be a real loss!