In the begining.

in life •  5 years ago  (edited)

This is blog number 1 of, hopefully, many. I chose this name because I have had many 'dreams' (hopes and ambitions) over the last 50 years. I couldn't have just 'brokendreams' as my blogging name because it was already taken. I actually wanted to use 'unfinishedjourneys' but that was too long for the naming system to accept. It represents another aspect of my life; one that still has a hopeful element as I may still be able to go back and finish them. Another way I sometimes think of my broken dreams is as 'shattered expectations'. The 62 that I chose to add to my blogging name is not to represent my age, as that would become out of date within a year of first using it, but is my birth year. A fixed point that will tell you roughly how old I am, whenever you come to read a blog I have published.

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For now I am intending to publish my blogs under this name and to remain socially anonymous to any readers. If by some small chance you should genuinely recognise me from the things I say about myself, my life or those I have shared it with, please respect my wishes and don't name me in a public comment. I plan to be largely unspecific about identifying characteristics, names of people or places unless not using them makes the content of the blogs pointless. Confidentiality has been a big part of my professional life and also a source of some personal conflict when someone I was close to couldn't accept the boundaries I needed to maintain. I will do my best to stay away from any confidential information or matters that are not mine.

Not all of my dreams, hopes, ambitions or expectations have worked out or sometimes not in the way I would have liked them to. I don't think anyone would be able to say that they have made it through 5 decades of life with every one of their dreams fulfilled. When I look back over my life I can see a lot more of them broken in my life than in other people around me. Perhaps they have just been very good at hiding them. Sometimes it has seemed the broken dreams have had a disproportionate impact on me, my life and my personal development.

I want to explore and set out some (maybe eventually all) of the dreams that didn't pan out and how that has affected me or is affecting me still. I am a 50+ man as I a write this (in case you didn't work it out from the birth year in my blog name) who was born and raised in England. I am divorced and never remarried, with two grown up sons. Just in that statement about me I would think that some of the broken dreams would be obvious. I am a lot more than that, of course. I am a son/brother, and having sons of my own, a father. I had a military career so I was a soldier. I had a professional healthcare career. I have been a singer in choirs, in musicals, for myself and for my family. Still these are only a very small part of who I am.

I am going to stop there. I think that is enough to say for my 'beginning' blog. If you have found and read it, thank you. If you don't like what I said or say in the future it isn't vital to my wellbeing that you tell tell me. I'm not averse to criticism, challenge or correction. I just don't think it is helpful as often as those who like to give it believe. If you did/do like what I write, telling me will be appreciated.
A very significant part of what makes me who I am is my Faith. I have been a practicing Christian since I was 10

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Hi there @brokendreams nice to have you around.

Firstly, you should use the #introduceyourself tag for your first post. Maybe repost this one making reference to it?

Anyway, good to have you here.

This is a great place to do exactly what you say you will, or want to, and of course you can maintain your anonymity as well.

I've been around for a little while and what helped me is the few points I list below. Just my thoughts mind, and not what I suggest you do. That's up to you.

  • Write passionately and about what's interesting or important to you
  • Engage with others politely, with validity and interest
  • Always respond to replies left on your blog (bots excluded)
  • Write as well as you can from a grammatical, punctuation and spelling perspective
  • Credit sources, text and photos
  • Select the right tags for your posts
  • Engage with others politely, with validity and interest
  • Try and have fun, make your enjoyment the reward, not the financial aspect
  • Engage with others politely, with validity and interest

Obviously I see engagement as a key factor here.

Anyway, I'll leave it there, other than to say I curate for @curangel and have sent this post...It goes against my rules as normally I wouldn't send an introduction post preferring to see how the person's blog develops first...But something about your blog made me feel inclined to do so. You should receive some vote-love subsequently.

Regards.

Hi, thanks for the reply, encouragement and support. I haven't been online for a couple of days as my youngest son was visiting. If we can't be put our full attention on our children when they are with us then we don't deserve them and shouldn't be surprised when they find they don't need or want us.

I agree completely. 🤗

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