Identifying Dishonest People! Part 1 - When You Identify One, Run Away From Them...

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Hello Steemians

On this post I wanted to share something with you all that might help you get rid of many obstacles when you are trying to build your business.

I’m going to write some ways that you can identify dishonest people, simply because you must avoid them all costs, every single time you find them in your life.

Those who have been following along with my storytelling know that I’ve had to major upsets in my life, and it took a lot of effort for me to get back up from them.

Because it’s the weekend, I figured this post would be a little more lose in form and maybe at the end I will end up sharing a joke that actually represents what I’m trying to say. You can never win an argument with someone who is dishonest.


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When I was about 25 years old, I had a client in my agency that did a lot of campaigns for the news. I had been working for almost a year at this time. Up until these events he had never ordered something too impressive, so I considered him a medium size client.

One day he asked me for a big project, he was getting ready to do a Real Estate ads and the budget for this particular campaign was about 300 thousand dollars.

I had to ask him: “Where would you be getting this sum of money for this campaign?”

He explained to me that the builder for these new constructions was going to deal with the costs of these campaigns, so I agreed and we got to working.

Im not sure how it works in other places, but here an agencies can emit credit for about 45 days on average, the work can be charged to the agency itself, or directly to client who ordered the work. In this particular case I spoke with the TV networks and explained that all the costs would be taken care of by my client, after all it was a big sum 300 thousand dollars.

When the campaign started airing, my client and I were sitting down, having a meeting and he started to share some personal things with me, some things his father had taught him.

Let me tell you CHB, my father taught me something very important for my life, he used to say to me all the time “My son, you must learn something very crucial for you life, every day there is an idiot and a clever guy on the road, so you know who you need to be? The smart man, so that you can smack the idiot”

When he said that to me and laughed and continued: “So CHB, because I learned that, I will never go wrong”

It was at that moment that a red light went off in my head, and I thought to myself: “Could it be that he thinks that I’m the idiot of these negotiations?”

So of course, I was seeing the way he was talking and his demeanour and I knew then he probably saw everyone around him like an idiot. He had won a lot of trust from me, enough for me to put my guard down and try to take advantage.

After 45 days that the campaign had started a letter arrives to my desk, it's a big network with a big invoice for me.

Immediately I told the emissary I would not be receiving that envelope, and I was very firm with my tone. I told him not to worry, that by the time he was back at the station I would have sorted this out with the finance department.

I knew what had happened, but I call the station to verify and yes, my client had called them and told him the agency was going to pickup all the costs. But I had the documents proving that the contract said otherwise, and this would be enough to fix the problem.

On the very next day my client calls me complaining that what kind of invoice was this, and that the station was collecting from him, for him I was trying to do “a crazy game” with him, but believe, he tried to play victim.

How great is this? The wolf ends up being a sheep.


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The first thing I told him is to lower his tone with me, that he knew very well what he was trying to do with me. And that I had been cautious and everything we dealt with was documented anyways.

He knew at that moment that being angry was not going to help the situation and quickly switched back to being nice, an act.

I continued: “My friend, I have two things to tell you. First you are a terrible liar, you think I would forget you told me the bill was going to be paid by the builder, and second, you told me yourself that everyday there is an idiot and a smart guy on the road, and that you are always the smart guy taking advantage of the idiot? Well you encountered someone who is honest and does not tolerate these things, if you want go play your games, see how you deal with the builder now… after the phone hung up, I thought that would be the end of it”

Many months later some rumors came to of different people this person had scammed out of money or work.
So this is the message I want to leave you with today.

Pay a lot of attention to the behavior of those who you do business with, their demeanour. For example, I’ve heard people say things like “money is faceless”, and what that person is trying to say is that it doesn’t matter if he takes that money from an old man that needs it, or from a baby, so that person to me is telling me that I cannot trust them.

Oh yes, I forgot I was going to tell you guys a joke, I spoke about it at the beginning of this blog, but since it's a really good lesson and long, I will leave it for the next post.

I’m confident that many of you are going to be more alert to this and learn to identify someone who is not honest. If you have some stories to share, leave them in the comments so that others can learn too.

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Much Regards

@chbartist

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Dear sir!
Man is the best creation of God. God has given an amazing art of trying to understand human thinking, good evil but man's ambition and greed makes him dishonest.It is very difficult to identify these kinds of dishonest man.
If we consider its positive aspects, have we ever wondered why these dishonest people are in the world?No person is bad or dishonest from birth, circumstances and necessities make man dishonest.Often all of us have had to face such situations.
Regards.Have a nice Sunday.✍️✍️

I understand your thinking I just wonder if people are dishonest from birth or is the education they receive at home until the 6 or 10 years. I believe it is at this stage that a person's character is formed, or perhaps science proves in the future that it is genetic. BTW what you said is a fact. We will always have to deal with these people in the world and the most important thing is to create a shield to detect these people before the damage they can cause. Regards

@chbartist The presence of values ​​of social behavior in life is an undeniable reality, every human being is placed a barrier to categorize others as intellectual inferiors (considering idiot to others). Our society prepares us by sending us negative and positive messages, but this is the protest to absorb one or the other; disparage the legitimate right to carry honesty and honesty (values), indicates the value of each individual in our environment or scope of work. Honesty and respect for the dignity of each human being are features and rank of an intelligent society. We can no longer accept the crude comparisons "manipulation" or individualistic conceptions of human relationships; Men or women can no longer be seen as isolated units, linked only to the extent that, through deception, manipulation and malicious intent are profitable for the benefit of those who believe themselves superior, we can not label: what the cited individual, Labeling means, limit the will of evolution of each being considering the social group, (company or business). Recognizing your esteem and not allowing yourself to be negatively affected by that red light that you detected is the recognition of your real existence, of the need to demonstrate that breaking down barriers placed by individuals who believe they are more consistent with perfection demonstrates the existing balance of being human. Taking your example in the read, I must say that we must internalize that egocentrism, individualism,
Monkey idealism are in open bankruptcy. Not only in its original unhealthy aspect and that focuses on man, but also in its inner aspect that is strengthened in the absorbing and negative unity of other social forms of human life and finally "HOW TO DO ECO OF SOMETHING THAT DOES NOT PUT IN PRACTICE "CONGRATULATIONS AND THANK

I would like to congratulate you for your participation here with a very deep, thoughtful commentary and also with considerations I share and I am grateful to see words from someone who sees the sick world we are living in and that is why I have tried at all my posts take a positive for people to reflect fairly on what you most emphasized, respect. Respect is the fundamental basis for everything to work. I would like to see you here again. Regards

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Dishonest people always consider themselves the smartest people in the room, to them everyone wastes time and doesn't think fast enough.
They believe only them see certain opportunities.

Yes. Keep alert! Regards!

Hi @chbartist ,i hope that you are fine.
I agree with you that we need to avoid dishonest people. We should avoid black sheeps who are hidden in the form of friends. They slowly cut our roots and take advantage. We need to be careful as you told us. I don't like this type of characterless people. They are the worst people deceiving the honest people.
Moreover i really really appreciate your concern with people in building a strong community. I'm against of self voting. Im in favour of giving votes to those people who leave meaningful comment.
Have a good day

Exactly my friend! You and others already know what our goal is here! Let's move on! Thanks for your words and your comment!

The reality in your posts and the effort that you put to guide us here cannot be overlooked the fact that you shared your story of when you took a loss alone has greatly inspired me to not be scared to act as failures are part of growing. Concerning dishonest people we all encounter them and no matter how aware we are these things happen because life happens what we owe ourselves is staying true, not budging or changing because these people aren't worth us changing out character for their despicable personalities. Thank you for your guidance always.

Thank you very much for your kind words, my friend. About your excellent comment I have nothing to add because it is actually very well written. Regards

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@chbartist I'm totally agree with you we have to figure out these types of people and make distance from them because they are really very dangerous to us. These types of people could do everything to get their profit.

As your title is Identifying Dishonest People! When You Identify One, Run Away From Them we have to do exactly that when we find dishonest person we have to make distance from them .

Now days in this negative world it is too difficult to find honest person. Whatever field is it it is too difficult to find a good person. If we talk about Bussiness or Relationship we always find a person where we can trust and believe. It is only 20% chance to get a loyal person. So we have to be careful in all aspects of life.

In these days people just accompany you just because of their mood or need. These people just see you like an opportunity to get some profit.

These people looks on you like "HOW A GYM OWNER LOOK A FAT GUY"LOL.

They only want profit from you.

The line you wrote "WOLFE ENDS UP BEING A SHEEP" GREAT LINE .

Thanks for this Awesome article .
@asks

I know my friend and that's why we always have to keep our eyes open. But we can not lose hope that there are good people. Here on steemit for example I have found many people who appear to be of good character and have had a good education of their parents and time will reveal their character because time is always the lord of reason and truth. Regards

Yes right Time always reveal people's colour. Time is a great teacher.

Life is a battlefield in which dishonest people always try to take advantage from innocent people. It is very important to recognize such people and be aware of them. These unscrupulous people don't care if someone gets ruined because of their acts.
Some employees in my office has a bad habit to beg for money from others. They seldom return others money back. I was deceived by such a person once. So, I decided not to give them any amount in future. I give them a little amount when they ask for the bigger amount. Once, they had received the petty amount, they never come back to return it and henceforth my big amount is saved from them.

Yes, Great words @akdx. Success

i am an introvert so i really have a hard time associating with people let alone trust them. I've had alot of bad experiences. I was recently duped by my own friend- twice. When i was younger i tried to see the best in people but im afraid i may not be as loving as i used to.
That doesn't mean i hate people. Im more careful around them, i avoid too many of them and trust all and none.
Upvoted and resteemed also had to screen shot this post. Great post!

I understand what you mean. We are going to create a shield in our journey but do not forget that at some point in your life you should start to really trust some people 100% because you will see that there are few but excellent people who will walk by your side until the end of our journey. Do not lose hope in people, just stay alert! Regards

Bueno esos casos son seguidos en mi País lamentablemente, estoy en un País donde el dinero nos gobierna, con dinero puedes comprar jueces, ficales, abogados, congresistas presidentes tal y como dice la canción de los no se quien y los no se cuanto les dejo un link de referencia.

I understand, but the problem is not money. The problem is the people and people who live in your country including you should always fight and change it.

Dishonest people comes in all forms, they would first gain your trust and loyalty before they strike, but one way i have used to identify them is that they would always be asking for things from you that they are not supposed to, knowing fully well it will be difficult for you to say no to their many requests.
I have accomodated a number of people who i later realised were using kindness against me, I would be responsible for their feeding and they would always say they don't have money, and bring all sort of stories about their work place which made them their bosses to cease their salaries. Before i do realised what they were doing, most of the time, they left without paying back the money they borrowed from me.

Unfortunately, friends, we are going to live situations like this in life but this teaches us and it is as I always say: Growth is always painful

Once one of fathers told his little son to stand on a table and asked him to jump from there, the little boy told his father if I jumped I would fall on the floor and would get hurt father said I would hold you, you would not get hurt trust me depending on his father's word, he jumped & fell on the floor father didn't hold him, father told his son I am your father I didn't keep my words, so it's my advice to you "don't trust anyone"

I understand but in life we have to trust someone. We do not get to the top alone, we need trustworthy people around us.

Thank you for this amazing post. I am so glad I am here on steemit to read all about those experiences and I can just say thank you! Those Ideas are reallly helpful!

Thank you friend!

Of course, there are two. An idiot and the smart guy on the road, however there can be a scenario where the Idiot is the actual Smart Guy in reality pretending to be an Idiot, to spy out things and get the work done in a smart way:-(

Exactly my friend, I'm still going to write about it but forward in my posts. Thanks for your comment.

Currently there are many dishonest people, we must be cautious in all aspects of life, it is not only in terms of business, in all aspects applies ... so we must always be cautious. Especially when it comes to money, corruption has already taken a great deal of human beings and it is difficult to trust fully as before. Thank you for sharing your stories that teach us your experiences. From there we can take important notes to be pending. Happy Domigo! 😉

Thank you for your words blessed. Happy Domingo too....

I agree with the importance of avoiding dishonest people although sometimes it is impossible given the way they hide their intentions. I have also seen the unfortunate trend of dishonesty by those sometimes closest to you, like family. I had a early experience out of college where a family member had a business venture idea which I supported and let’s just say that it cost me more to get out that to get in do to many issues that were never disclosed. So a fair warning is that these dishonest people can sometimes come from unexpected places.

I understand, my friend. I also went through this as you can read in my posts. But let's always go ahead with open and attentive eyes! Regards

You have my upvote, you have aclarated all about this kind of malicious persons. I read a long time ago Rich father, poor father, but your post is sustanctial for us. Thanks for share your opinions and experiences! If you want please visit my blog that I make art to fans

Thank you very much for your kind words. About rich dad, poor dad, I can tell you it's a good book but it does not apply in 90% of countries. The book has excellent teachings but in relation to the finances I am referring to that is not applicable in many countries because the financial reality, the interest rate and the financial rules are different. For example. it would be impossible to multiply the equity as described in the book in a country like Brazil because a rented property will never pay the monthly amount of the financing of the property. You are always welcome. Regards

thanks, the same happen in Cuba, their financial sources are hard, because they have many restrictions. I am Venezuelan, nice to meet you

Hola, yo sé bien lo que ha sucedido en su país y me siento muy triste por la situación que los venezolanos están. Es necesario cambiar eso y yo deseo que ustedes consigan mejorar rápidamente la vida de todos. Saludos

muchas gracias amigo por tu apoyo tienes mi upvote :)

I don't like person who cheat others, they are bad spot in societies. We should educate people to avoid such a rough people who are dishonest.
I have a lot of experience in this matter. Many of my close friends cheat me. But I never repeat mistakes ,now I'm careful about these type of persons who are our enemy in fact.
I'm here to help people. Please let me know if i can do something for you.

Hi friend, you are already doing when leaving when you comment and share with everyone here your words. Only I urge you to vote among you who strive to leave comments that require a little effort from people and so you help each other. I vote for everyone who can leave comments like I said, so I think it does not cost you to develop the habit of voting and helping each other. Regards

I really love this topic, i have an experience to share. I once invited a friend to learn how i earn some cryptocurrency, he listened to me and afterwards told me it will take time to mk a reasonable amount of money and asked me to look at another option. I then ask him how he goes about it. He told me that he wont explain it to me if i dont tell him what i wanted to do with the earnings.
This is another group of people to be aware off. They only want to take from you

Exactly my friend, stay away from them. Regards

@chbartist
Very nice article
It is very difficult to find dishonest people.
Being extra nice, polite may be the cues but real life experience will make us identify them sometimes but not every time.

I understand you @moghul. Have a great day!

As I am beginner in every field currently I am starting so your blog are like a guideline for me what to do and what not. As you said we have to identify the dishonest people but sometimes it is very difficult to identify them. I remember I was newcomer to crypto world I was scammed by an company who says that we will double you crypto and I was scammed. But after that incident I used to be more careful. Thanks for sharing your story about this.

Good see you @sumit1998. It's important that we share our experiences so that other people do not have to go through unpleasant situations. Have a great Sunday

Thank you sir, it’s an pleasure that you read our comments.

Nice post! In fact, its not a post its a Truth!! People are losing values and morals for money and status. I still remember my childhood lessons on Honesty is the best policy and we teach it to our children but when we do our business or work we forget these lessons and become dishonest. There are lots of people whose businesses run on the value of Dishonesty. They say big big words, make you believe in them, trust them and finally betray you...... There is no limit of the number of dishonest people around us, they exist in majority in the form of Friends, relatives, companions, colleagues, etc etc..

I understand friend what you mean but I will still write a lot about it in this community and you will see that we can make a shield of honest people. Let's go ahead and thank you for your time!

What an interesting post ;)

Trust is huge. When its taken advantage of by others it leaves one with a great distaste. You don't have to be the smartest one in the room. However, ethics matter! Thanks for sharing your story!

Thank you friend! Regards!

Thank you for sharing this... Different people has different experiences of meeting dishonest people... Your post really serves as a guide to be aware of those people.... Well it is inevitable meeting them but at least I am well aware and guided because of this article.... Thank you...

Thank you for your comment! Regards!

Hi @chbartist identify dishonest and selfish people at workplace is important as they might give loss in terms of monetary and mental harassment. Such people exist everywhere and to find them is a tough task. Not easy for everyone to find them and stay away. If we do it early then good else we realise when we are been used by them.have a great weekend ahead buddy.

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Exactly friend! Have a nice week!

Thanks sir @chnartist for sharing your story with us. Your life is full of struggles but I didn’t lossed hope and now you are teaching us to keep from that obstacle that what I like about you. As you said resteem this blog to help more people on steem but what I see that most of people doesn’t resteeming I think you make an rule to get upvote on comments that resteeming is must in that way your blog will be more spreadable. It’s an suggestion sir. But I love to resteeming this great content.

The most important thing for me is that you vote in the comments among you that comment my posts. If you do this help each other and so we build a generous community. Regards

The first chapter of this chapter was very interesting and exciting.There are no rules and regulations of dishonest people, so there is no use to argue with them.

Certainly friend, in the next I will write on the subject but within a context of a joke but that should be taken seriously and you will see exactly what you are writing in your comment. Regards

When I find dishonest person I am not run away from them I beat them😎😎😎😎

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Yes!

Sir, this is very good information. I agree with you that you can not win the debate with unscrupulous people. Because that's what happened to me.Yes, it is also true that every kind of person considers the ones who are stupid

Friend, I learned a lot of lessons from my drop on my journey. But we can not match the people who made us idiots someday. Regards

The information you give is very good, it will help us to recognize such people.

Keep your eyes open!

Siempre hay que estar al pendiente de este tipo de gentes, nunca falta algun charlatan que sw quiera pasar de la raya

Dishonest people can be identify only when you have been betrayed by them.

No friend, I have seen the passage of time if we pay attention we are becoming more alert because life teaches us and we are learning to divert from these people. But of course we are not 100% free of them.

Experience is the greatest teacher,but only if you learn from it.

Thank you for your advice. I will take the time to monitor and be careful with dishonest people.

Yes! Stay alert! Regards!

It is really important that we can identify those who are two faced person because they might stab us in the back or worst messing your life

Yes friend, always with your eyes open and pay attention to the behavior and especially what is out of their mouths. Regards

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I like my friend.

MUY BUENO, SALUDOS

Your story was good to read, however, I would love some advice on how to identify these liars. Nothing gets under my skin more than a dishonest person. It can be very difficult to identify sometimes, they are very convincing.

dishonnest peoples identify only when ur honnest and able to produce ur self

dishonnest peoples identify only when ur honnest and able to produce ur self

dishonnest peoples identify only when ur honnest and able to produce ur self

Great story as always. Thanks for sharing.

Excellent article, I love how you write and the teachings you give for a good life. Values are very important for coexistence, and dishonest people should always be unmasked. Congratulations for your post, it is very nice to read people who have a high concept of human values.