Hey citizens of Jville
In the game of life, you gotta play dirty to win right? Nice guys finish last, no one appreciates honesty and its all a carefully placed game of House of Cards we often don't care to admit. There's coercion, manipulation or good old forcing to get your way. Because life is about having things and people act your way. Why not? LIfe is one bug 1974 Burger King, have it your way!
Pander your way
Pandering is the act of expressing one's views in accordance with the likes of a group to which one is attempting to appeal. It sounds harmless enough just like a panda behind bars. But try going up against a panda in the wild, see how that works out for you.
No, seriously, go pet a wild Panda, don't worry I'll wait.....for your video to show up on liveleak.
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We love to seek the approval of our circles, of society or those we see as decision-makers and people of influence and power and since being honest is so excruciatingly painful and being yourself is so awkward pandering is a great option.
I see it all the time, nothing wrong with being friendly, sweet, nice and likeable but when its clearly being done as a trade-off for something or for favours of some kind it's so blatantly disingenuous. Is it really better than being forceful? Isn't it just a polite way of lying? I guess its seen as a victimless crime in a sense.
In a world where we are walking on eggshells trying not to trigger one another, pandering looks like the favourable route to take when engaging with others but is this the best way to foster relationships of any sort of deep meaning? Is what things are perceived as better than what they actually are?
Pick up a panda
Pandering comes across quite obvious but we like to give people the benefit of the doubt because we want to see the good in people. Me I'm like Diisigner and pointing it out as it happens like Panda, Panda, Panda, oh another Panda.
Have your say
Do you find yourself pandering to others? Do others pander to you?
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So, I just got trolled today and I feel like there's a huge difference between being kind and lying. Because it is possible to express your opinion in a non-hurtful way. If it still offends the other person than it is the information that hurts and they need to work on it. However, most people aren't good at respectfully disagreeing. Something I think is very sad. And as long as your comment holds any possible trigger whatsoever, you take away both:
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How do you always find yourself in this situations online? You’re always up to something or getting into some sort of situation
I do agree people don’t have the tools to communicate properly but I also think people have selfish and sometimes malicious intent and they will get their way one way or another! Pandering is just one tactic
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@chekohler Jessie here.. 😉 Love this post. I find sometimes I pander and I don't really want to and often times I'm being pandered to... And not sure whether the pandering is genuine. Good food for thought thank you
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Welcome! Glad to have a new Jessie face paying me a visit! I think there a distinct difference between tact and sparing ones feelings and pandering and it’s all in the intent of behind the action
I think we’ve all tried to pander our way to a favourable situation and found a way to justify it somehow lol
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Panda panda panda. You don't have to be mean, but people don't always have to agree. Does it not make interesting convo and spark an ongoing discord instead of hey the sky is most definitely green. Yes it is Bob, yes it is...
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Snowflake syndrome has people thinking being disagreeable is being combative! I also think as we becoming a more integrated society cultural norms are misinterpreted!
But one things for sure I don’t think I can live in a place where I can’t call someone a poephol when they are a poephol! Sometimes you need to hear it
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For sure or give them honest feedback. When did being real turn into a soft skill.
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It's to the point now that people expect to be pandered and get all triggered when they're not.
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I am starting to see it too, honesty, reality and facts play second to not being triggered! We’ve really made communication such a complex situation
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But actually also sometimes nice guys finish first and it does it need to play dirty to win in this life
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Oh I don’t discount that they do there’s always evidence of it, but is it common place or the exception? I’m leaning towards it being an exception
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So should we stop being honest since majority of people don't value and appreciate honest people?
On the other hand, I dont care when people panda at me. I just do it my way if I make up my mind provided it is the right thing to do.
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On the contrary I think this behaviour only shows how important honesty is and the lengths we go of trying avoid it and how much we need it in the world
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