It is amazing to think that we all have the power to change what we do and how we do it, but often we fail to use this power because of fear or laziness. The fact of the matter is that many of the things that we do on a daily basis to rely on the efforts of others and our own efforts, we can do better.
Many people tend to rely on other people's opinions. There is nothing wrong with this per se, it is very human nature, but when you are starting something new there is a certain amount of trust involved. You need to feel confident in your ability to carry out tasks, and if your self-worth depends on other people's opinions then this can be very limiting. Trust me it happens all the time.
Instead, look at what you do instead. Instead of looking for help, try to do it all on your own. Learn from those who have gone before you, and listen to what they say. Look at your life and think about what you are accomplishing and what you might be doing to improve it. If you don't take time to think about these things then you may never find the time to do them, but if you do then you will have a better idea of what you want to accomplish and how you are going to achieve it.
Once you have taken the time to reflect upon yourself and think about your life, take the next step and ask others what they think. This is important because it can be hard to ask other people and their opinions, but it is vital that you ask them. It may be something as simple as someone you admire being your teacher or someone that you respect your coaching.
Once you have asked someone to give you their opinion then start making plans. When you are faced with obstacles such as lack of money or resources, it is important that you stay focused and persistent. This way you won't get discouraged, and this will keep you motivated. When you are faced with obstacles don't fall back on your own strengths; you must use the skills that others possess and apply them to your own situation.
By using the skills of others, you are creating a new habit, and a new set of habits is not something that you should rely on others for. You need to learn from what you learn and use your own talents and experience. It is always best to look at problems as an opportunity to learn. When you realize that you are doing something better than someone else do not let yourself be discouraged, instead focus on how you can improve upon what you already know.
You also need to keep in mind that if you can do a little something to make a problem smaller and easier then you will gain more confidence and you will be able to solve more problems. As your confidence increases you will be less likely to fear that you are alone, and you will be able to do more. As you become more confident you will be able to tackle harder and bigger problems.
If you want to become a more successful person, it is important that you stop relying on others to take care of you. If you don't trust yourself then you will never learn and you will continue to make the same mistakes and put yourself in the same situations.
