Defense Mechanisms

I am finished on my second subject to the online course I enrolled in. It talked about defense mechanisms. I sometimes blamed the father and daughter, Sigmund and Anna Freud for making so many theories regarding human personality and behavior. Imagine, they created so many words in this world like the id, ego and superego and oh add catharsis and cathexis. Freud created the words oedipus and electra complex and gave meaning to them. Freud also started the idea that we have conscious, preconscious and subconscious. Anna Freud further enhance these ideas by saying that we act upon our defense mechanisms which is what I was thinking up to now.

I am just having difficulty naming people but to my experience, I have seen people acting based on their defense mechanisms. One person would think inferior to another person and would make things grand just to feel happy. He shows off a lot and acts as if he knows a lot of things. Maybe he was thinking, this is just nothing about others, and that he does things according to what he thinks is just right. But he is actually envious of that other person. So he does things that would negatively affect the other person. Is that the evil working on his personality?

Then the other person might be feeling that that person is doing things, everything actually, against them. He might feel bad, react negatively or just let them be. His every actions is actually affected. Even though he is not saying that he considers the way of thinking of the other man, but in reality he really is. He feels good when this man fails to do things against them. He thinks bad for the person, but he does no bad to him. Does that make him a good person?

My conclusion is that, most of the times, we act upon our defenses. We do not react on the head cause. But sometimes, admit it, we react based on the reactions of another person. It is like car collision in a road. One car lose its control, so he bumped the post, another car did not notice that so he bumped that first car. The next car was fast and could not slow down so he bumped on the third car and everything, so on. Who should be blamed for all this? Is one person enough to blame, or if the second car could have been careful, and the third could have not been driving fast , and the many more cars affected, accident could have been prevented? Therefore in our every action, we should be responsible for it as other might react to it positively or differently. =)