Perspective Shifts and Clarity Gifts

clayboyn (70) in life • 7 years ago (edited)

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cali-girl (59) · 7 years ago

Somehow, I felt myself speaking through your writing. I've spent years trying to let go of somone who had no right to continue being in my life anyway. Sometimes, love is letting go.

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cali-girl (59) · 7 years ago

Another curious thing:

Don't take this as that I'm trying to promote my post, and in fact, don't read it if you don't want to, but... we both posted at almost the exact same time and used the word "clarity" in our titles. Hmm.

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

Synchronicity :P

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

I am just reading your replies and mine now, speaking to some of the same things here actually!

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cali-girl (59) · 7 years ago

Great minds think alike! :)

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

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cali-girl (59) · 7 years ago

You know, @barrydutton, I think you need to have a weekly Poetry Slam post.

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

Lots of others doing that stuff, I already have so many things I write on / series I do etc.

Plus some of them are my friends and I will not regularly write on things they do, it would appear like I am copying their content or stepping on their toes.

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chelsea88 (64) · 7 years ago

"I've come to is that hope never has to die. Love doesn't work like that. Love isn't being hopelessly committed someone that isn't speaking to me, it's about being hopeless devoted to becoming the best person that I can possible be and my ability to share that with the world."

You are correct sir, one who loses hope is in a bad situation. Your comment about love. ...Here's my persoective on that:

can't make someone love you back (which you said)
You have to love yourself before you can truly love someone else. You may think, oh, well i do love myself. Okay, then, let me ask you:

Do you find fault in almost everything you do?
feel like no matter what you do you are not good enough
someone compliments you "great job! "....you think to yourself "well, thanks but it wasn't that great "
you're a harsh critic of yourself i.e. (that was such a stupid thing to do! !), etc

If you answered yes to any of those questions then you are engaged in some self loathing. These are things that I struggle with. Usually are deep rooted. But you can't really fully love and care for someone else if you don't love and care for yourself

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

Very true. I am certainly my own worst critic, but I don't criticize myself at all like I used to, getting rid of negative self talk was the first thing I had to figure out. Thanks for sharing!

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chelsea88 (64) · 7 years ago

To an extent being you own worst critic is okay because it means you strive to be better. It is all about that balance

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girlbeforemirror (66) · 7 years ago

As always insightful and generously sharing of yourself.

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

:) Thanks for the support! I used to worry about "oversharing," but I stopped caring about that when I stopped putting on masks. I don't feel the need to be or try to be anything other than who and what I am anymore. We are all just perpetual works in progress after all.

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

Drive by voting completed of all your posts, it would not let me vote for this, a few hours before payout but I am caught up:

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

I found this insightful and interesting, the last few days I am finding myself thinking of my Grade 9 GF named Nicole.

We have always had a strong (very strong) connection that neither of us can explain, her mom knows all about it and her dad just rolls his eyes at me, he is a typical dude LOL.

All the 7's in your post in the Christian realm point to 7 being the number of completion if people care about that stuff, I know where you are with this stuff but that also stuck out to me today.

I was so stoked about your trip and what you might find inside and outside along the way, maybe you were apprehensive about it, so I might have actually been the most excited person out of all of us you know incl. you for it!

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

I don't really get anxiety anymore. It's odd, but after giving up the need to control anything and just starting to "accept things as they are," I don't ever feel like there is anything to be apprehensive about. I jut have faith that it's all working out as intended. :)

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

You are one of my best finds on this platform, and likely a pile of others feel the same too.

I am personally glad I know you.

BroHug

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

I try to do my best to explain this to everyone, and I certainly appreciate the kind words, but I feel like this community has been so supportive of me that I owe my best my self to everyone here. My whole mindset has changed and I'm just a different person than who I used to be in general and aside from a few bumps in the road... steemit has been the community that supported me through all of these changes. We all help each other A-Bro-ham.

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barrydutton (74) · 7 years ago

Come and visit me and bring that drawl

LOL

If we time it right, we can head to one of the big Blockchain meetups in my province.

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