NEW YEAR, NEW RESOLUTIONS. DO THEY WORK?

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111.jpgLet me just start this post by wishing all Steemit users and followers a LATE very Happy New Year! May 2019 be YOUR year! Your year to improve one’s self, to earn more, to achieve more and to love more too!

INTRODUCTION

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Why am I late with my New Year’s wish and post you may ask? New Year’s was about two weeks ago! Well, let’s just say “to procrastinate less” is MY new year’s resolution!

So, back to the topic at hand. We’ve all heard the same old mantra before that roughly goes “new year, new me” or something similar along the lines. A brand new year to “renew” oneself, to “reevaluate” one’s life choices, goals, and etc. With a simple Google search, you’ll find tons of online articles that offer solutions on how to achieve or rather, “maintain” your resolutions for the new year ahead.

AM I MISSING SOMETHING?

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With all those resources at one’s finger tips though, I’m curious to know if they actually do work? How many of us can honestly say without a shadow of a doubt that “yes! I did keep my resolutions, and I did follow through on them”. Not many I think, myself included of course. Why is this however? Why aren’t we able to keep our resolutions, though we tell ourselves that we can and we will! Hell, even those online articles are telling you that “you can and you will!”

Maybe I’m missing something? Maybe I’ve been doing it wrong? If anyone has any positive experience on keeping their resolutions and following through on it, please do share in the comments below. Im curious to know!

MOTIVATION

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In my humble opinion, I don’t think making and keeping new year’s resolution work mainly because it happens due to “extrinsic motivation” as oppose to it being an “intrinsic motivation” instead.

An extrinsic motivation is basically a motivation that is mainly driven by external rewards such as money, fame or one’s psychical appearance to name a few. Example: trying to achieve a certain goal based on the fact that the end goal would bring you more money or more fame.

Now, in the long run, we are bound to “burn out” as all these are not ‘real’ values that would bring us true happiness would it? And after awhile, you just stop doing it.

Now, maybe if we tried to achieve these resolutions or goals based on an “intrinsic motivation”, it might just work instead. Why? An intrinsic motivation is based on a motivation that derives from the individual itself. Doing something out of internal passion or desire for instance, without thinking of the “reward” at the very end of it. The reward is the fact that you are enjoying “reading that book for the storytelling part of it, or working out because you enjoy working out and you know that it is good for your overall mental and psychical health and not just to look good”.

MY OWN TWO CENTS

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I’m in no way an expert in psychology, I’m just trying to share my two cents worth regarding this topic as the new year just rolled around the corner. And I think intrinsic and extrinsic motivations are so fascinating as we can apply this type of “motivation” to almost everything we do in our daily life.

At the end of the day though, regardless of the type of motivation is used to achieve your goal, we can always try to better ourselves in on way or another. To achieve more, to do more, to love more. And in my personal opinion, I don’t think we need 365 days as an EXACT measure. Start with micro goals and resolutions, and slowly work your way up to macro goals. Another sure fire way to at least achieve something you’ve written on your list.

RESOLUTIONS, GOALS or TARGETS?

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(pic source: http://teaching.monster.com)And I would like to ask each one of you one final question. What does work for you and how do you personally understand the meaning of those 3 words?

Based on my current life experience and observations I would say that the majority of people are sticking to resolutions and almost automatically they treat them as "wishes".

I strongly believe that setting up goals and targets is more efficient. What would be your opinion on that issue? I would seriously love to know how other people function, what motivates them and if they focus on following their resolutions or setting up goals and targets?

Please do share your thoughts with me. Would love to know what you think about this topic :)

I read and reply to ALL comments. Always.

Yours
Piotr

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I have one resolution that I renew each year. My resolution is: get through the year without murdering anybody. 100% success rate … so far.

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I've taken on my friends new years resolution to no longer have new years resolutions, thus granting me a 100% success rate moving forward. I'm glad that others are thinking up 100% success rate resolutions. This one is perfect.

Your Anti-Resolution resolution wins the paradox award.

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That's very unique resolution @bitfiend :)

Thx for dropping by buddy
Piotr

@bitfriend.....🤣🤣🤣What more can I say? Great resolution and no waste of time as well!

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People must really perturb you if that is your resolution each year... lol, thanks for the laugh.

People I like, resolutions not so much ;)

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same ;)

Indeed @futuremind :)

@eturnerx

My resolution is: get through the year without murdering anybody. 100% success rate … so far.

Congratulations ... but how much have you really challenged yourself? Have you, for example, ever met a STEEM Whale or Witness in person. Your constraint in such circumstance would be indeed worthy of praise. :-)

Quill

Dear @quillfire

Have you, for example, ever met a STEEM Whale or Witness in person

What about you? I dont think most of those people would bother to even talk to someone with small SP. That's how I see "big players" here.

Cheers
Piotr

@crypto.piotr,

I have had a couple of superficial communications with a couple of Whales and a Hell of a dust-up with a Witness Group (4 members) regarding proposed reforms to the blockchain ... they DO NOT want Rules of Conduct that would prevent vote selling/buying.

The value of an idea is independent of the pedigree of its author ... and that is one of the huge dangers of the STEEM/Steemit model. The big players are big players (with perhaps a small number of exceptions) because they were miners or early adopters ... essentially, they were in the right place at the right time. Hence ... techies.

Being able to write Python is but a fraction of the knowledge required to effectively manage a cryptocurrency. The knowledge-base amongst Whales and Witnesses is EXTREMELY skewed towards IT and noticeably deficient in basic business management skills. I used to manage of couple of hedge funds (one a currency-trading fund) and am very familiar with the financial, economic and legal issues that will effect STEEM but which have nothing to do with 'coding.' These issues are every bit as important, if not more so, than DApps ... and yet they are being largely ignored.

For example, SMT's will ABSOLUTELY be considered securities by the SEC and other world securities agencies. And yet, people still think that they'll just pay a dollar, start a SMT and do an ICO. The utterly ignorant think that they won't be subject to SEC jurisdiction just because they don't want to be ... as if, somehow, it will be "their choice" (ignorant Anarchist ideological baloney). This is off-the-scale amateurishness. It costs tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees to set up even the simplest of non-US offshore structures and once you involve securities, that amount increases exponentially.

The US government has a plethora of ways to "establish jurisdiction" and has an extremely long and successful history of doing so. All of the US-based Witnesses, nodes and users .... not to mention Steemit Inc.'s US residence ... will be more than enough to establish a nexus.

I'm not being mean for the sake of being mean. I love Steemit and desperately want it to succeed. But a level of professionalism (and realism), that is at present wholly absent, will be required if it is to survive.

Quill

You are exactly right. Basically the saving grace for Steem right now is that it is such a small bit player that it is under the radar of SEC / fed or at least is not any kind of priority in comparison to scam ICOs and exchanges playing fast and loose with the rules.

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That's a good point @carlgnash

I also was wondering if this is not Blessing for Steemit that it's just so very small ((still)

@Quill Sir

Extensively covered all the problems that were being faced by Steemit.

"....a level of professionalism (and realism), that is at present wholly absent, will be required if it is to survive."

My opinion is if all the whales would have taken a New Year Resolution to become DOLPHINS, then the Steemit will become FAMEit!

LIVE AND LET LIVE sort of situation must come in Steemit or else anything may happen......

@Quill Sir, with this commanding comment, you've just went in for the Kill!

Hats off!

@marvyinnovation,

It's nice to see that there are some fellow travelers out there. Thank you for this most generous commentary.

Drop by my blog anytime ... it's a hotbed of smart folks ... and, we could always use one more. Steel sharpens steel.

Speaking of "could use one more" ... (time is short).

https://steemit.com/powerhousecreatives/@quillfire/measured-our-mettle-vote-10-000-steem-delegation

(And never mind about calling me, "Sir." My friends call me, "Quill.")

Quill

Dear @quillfire

I would like to thank you for another amazing comment. I appreciate all the time you invested into replying to me.

Yours
Piotr

I've met worse. Why in particular the whales and witnesses though?

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@eturnerx,

Venting.

85% of SP (limited upvoting capital) is owned by Whales & Orcas. Most of such SP is being delegated to bidbots and other game-rigging mechanisms in an effort to generate Passive Income (interest) instead of Curation Awards. This, of course, destroys the entire concept upon which Steemit is predicated ... that there will be a correlation between the production of Quality Content and Compensation.

And so, Steemit slowly dies. The people who could change this, the Whales and Witnesses, are, of course, the very people who own the bidbots. Ironically, they are also the ones who have the most to lose ... but as long as someone else is doing it, so too will they.

And hence, they all sit around watching the price of STEEM spiral downward, in direct correlation with the number of declining active users. As STEEM is an inflationary currency (the Reward Pool increases the Monetary Supply, thereby decreasing the price of STEEM), an increasing user-base is the fundamental condition upon which all else depends (new users are required to sop up the newly issued currency to negate the inflationary effect).

What is the only thing that sets Steemit apart from the multitude of other competing social media platforms ... and hence, the magnet that attracts new users? Compensation for Content. But such compensation is entirely dependent upon how the Whale/Orca SP (85% of the total) is deployed. Such massive SP diversion away from its intended purpose prevents authors (and professional curators) from earning anything substantial based up Quality Content creation/curation. Either cheat, work for next to nothing ... or leave.

This is not a winning formula.

And yet, instead of enacting the obvious remedy ... killing the vote-buying/selling mechanisms ... all we hear from Whales and Witnesses is stupid Anarchist ideological mantras: "No Rulers, No Rules;" "Decentralization;" "Everyone Gets To Vote Their Stake" ... as if mouthing such ideological pablum does anything to address the underlying problem.

STEEM/Steemit is a Killer App ... that is being killed off by the very people who have the most to gain from it living ... all in the service of short-term self-interest and 'ideological purity' ... Satoshi's Dream. Adoption of common sense "Rules of Conduct" ... to stop the flagrant cheating ... would be akin, it is argued, to communism, fascism and totalitarian control.

Quill

Hi @quillfire

And so, Steemit slowly dies.

Steemit only dies in eyes of those who are interested in monetary rewards. It's still the best platform to build influence within crypto space out there.

Plus communities here and high level of engagement are the reason why this platform will not die anytime soon. There is simply nothing better that could replace Steemit and push it into "shadows".

What is the only thing that sets Steemit apart from the multitude of other competing social media platforms ... and hence, the magnet that attracts new users? Compensation for Content.

Absolutely not.

Steemit allows me to target audience better than any platform out there. Mostly because I can scan STEEM blockchain and easily find content creators that are valuable for me.

More and more people and businesses seem to slowly realize that this is the only platform (currently) out there which still enjoys good traffic and is allowing people to engage with each other.

Those who are here because of "compensation" and rewards will never last very long.

Yours
Piotr

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  ·  6 years ago (edited)

@quillfire You might be interested in projects like @steembasicincome, curation efforts like @curie and the various communities that often include curation and mutual support as part of them.
I've written before that there is no objective measures of quality that a blockchain can enforce. That leaves judgement of quality to somebody's audience. A mutual co-audience is roughly what I'd call a community. It's the communities that need to gain in power.
To that end, I support community builders via sponsorship to @msp-makeaminnow and I also am working on @we-are (see @we-are-one for the blog) to help communities get technical tools and access to SP. @we-are is in closed trial and currently supports around 1500 members.
That's mostly what I'm involved in. Can't say I'm innocent on the bidbot front myself - I do need to make an income until I can build my audience enough to earn from posting alone. So, I can somewhat sympathise with people who go that way. But, a big chunk of my steem networth is in community building because community is everything.
I might need some help too.

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Hi again @eturnerx

I've noticed that many people downvoted your comment. Strange. Are you having some flag war going on here on Steemit? Just curious

Yours
Piotr

I seem to have disturbed an insect nest. Unless I'm told, no way to know for sure. On the plus side, it means I'm finally famous enough to have enemies.

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Hahaha @eturnerx

I'm not sure if you're for real or if it kind of joke, but you made me laugh quite bad :)

Hope you will keep 100% rate until end of your days,
Piotr

You're self discipline is an inspiration to all!

Hi, i receive your internal message.
I believe that target and goals works better. Also i agree wirh you that inteinsec and extrinsec are fascibatibg, but i also believe that the social scenery have a strong influence too. That is conditionated.
Great post, i give you mt support

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Dear @reinaldoverdu

I believe that target and goals works bette

Definetly we're on the same page my friend. Im very goal orientated person and I believe this is more efficient way of achieving anything.

Yours
Piotr

Hey there! We’ve always thought that there’s no need for a new year to set new goals, resolutions, targets or anything in between. Each new day is a chance to change for better! ❤️

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I dont think we ever had a chance to get to know each other. Great comment @travellit

We’ve always thought that there’s no need for a new year to set new goals, resolutions, targets or anything in between

So you never set goals and targets for new year? At all? :)

Cheers
Piotr

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Resolutions are worthless IMO. They have nothing behind them other then empty words with plan for action on how to achieve them. To achieve anything worth achieving in life you need written goals with a plan of action on how you will achieve the goals.

The plan of action should be broken down to what you will do daily, weekly, and monthly to achieve your goal.

The goal also needs to be realistic or you will easily justify why you give up..."oh I wasn't ever going to actually be able to loose 50 pounds, what was I thinking". But if you have a goal of loosing 24 pounds this year and 2 per month which is 1/2 pound a week you have something that is easily tracked and very realistic (assuming you need to loose that much weight). From there you need to know how many calories that means you need to remove from your diet or to burn each day that you currently aren't. 3500 calories is about 1 pound, or 1750 calories for 1/2 pound, or removing 250 calories per day from your current diet.

Wait, 250 calories a day isn't that bad right? A 12oz can of Coke is 150 calories and walking 1 mile for an 180 pound person and you have that. So skip 1 soda and walk 1 mile per day and in a year it's 24 pounds lost.

This is a real Goal with a Real Action Plan. It's also something that easily can become a habit. Once you see the changes to your body in a few weeks you will start walking a little further and likely make a few other good decisions each day for your diet.

This all applies to any part of your life, but since so many people think about their weight at this time of year I figured it was a good example.


Ok that turned into way to long of a comment, going to need to reuse some of that for a post...lol.


BTW, I think below is a quick edit for you.

Based on my current life experience and observations I would say that the majority of people are sticking to resolutions and almost automatically they treat them as "wishes".

I'm guessing you meant aren't

Resolutions are worthless IMO.

It seem that we're on the same page.

The goal also needs to be realistic or you will easily justify why you give up

You nailed it!

BIG thx for your great comment thedarkhorse. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Getting stressed about things isn't really my thing. Life is way to short to allow little things to stress me out and short of major events in life not much will put me in a stress mode. Pressure is something I work really well under as I don't get stressed about it, but rather get a laser like focus on the task at hand.

But most people can avoid these reactions just by understanding how an action plan to reach their goal is to work.

By having clear written goals with an action plan that what needs to be done daily, weekly, and monthly with checkpoints along the way for your goal you will know long before your goal date that you need to either adjust your goal or your effort.

Just using the weight loss goal above as an example if you are honest with yourself and realize 3 days into your week that you've missed your 250 calorie reduction goal each day by 75 calories then you know you need to make it up. You need to either adjust the next 4 days and spread that 75 calories out or find a way to add an extra workout into 1 day to burn those calories.

If after a few weeks you still are always coming in under the required calorie reduction you need to either adjust all of the future weeks higher which likely isn't realistic at this point in time, or figure out how many calories you are over and how many weeks that will take on the back end to make up then adjust your target date. If you aren't targeting a date for a specific reason this is easy, but if you are targeting a date for a wedding or something you need to then decide how important that exact weight is to you and actually step up your effort or accept you will be say 2 pounds short of your goal. Don't be stupid and starve yourself, stay on a healthy path and reach the goal that you can without doing harm to your body.

Business goals are the same, if you plan to have a project done by a set date you can break up the work over the period of time before your deadline. If you start falling behind you know that more effort is needed to catch up. If there just aren't enough hours in the day to achieve your goal then you need to be honest with yourself earlier then later and see if the date can be backed up or find some help with the project. Waiting until the last minute and missing a deadline that was set weeks or months ago just isn't acceptable. Personally business goals should be achieved early in the eyes of the boss or customer, that is if it's a 4 week deadline make your plans for 3 weeks and 3 days. This allows you to deliver early (under promise and over deliver) or if needed back up your planned goal date by a day if you aren't finding it possible to stick to the plan.

Wow. Thank you for this amazing comment @thedarkhorse

RESPECT :)
Piotr

I don't think I've ever made a New Years resolution. I haven't needed to. I'm a very disciplined person so whatever I resolve to do on any day of the year I tend to stick to.
Perhaps there are people who need New Year as an excuse to set goals for themselves but I've never met one who actually managed to stick to one. I've been attending the gym continuously in several different countries since I was about 17 and every year come January there's a huge influx of new members most of whom last about 6 weeks. Seems human nature is the same the world over.

Hi @deirdyweirdy

Thx for your comment

I'm a very disciplined person so whatever I resolve to do on any day of the year I tend to stick to.

It seem to me that you're very self-awared. That's a great advantage.

I've been attending the gym continuously in several different countries since I was about 17

Wow. That's impressive. What sort of workout do you stick to? I'm crazy about muay thai and western boxing (Im actually coaching boxing as a passion).

Cheers,
Piotr

I did try kickboxing and then karate many moons ago but it just wasn't for me. I train 5-6 days a week with a mixture of high-Intensity circuits and weight training using kettlebells, dumbbells, and TRX. I just love exercise!

Wow. That's fantastic. Do you mind sharing with me from which part of Holland are you @deirdyweirdy?

Yours
Piotr

I'm actually Irish, living in Dublin at the moment but lived in Amsterdam for almost 15 years.

I loved Dublin. Used to live there in 2005 for some time :)

Are you still based in Amsterdam? I was actually thinking about visiting it sometime this year :)

Let's keep in touch and hopefully we can meet each other one day.

Yours
Piotr

No, I'm in Dublin for the last 4 years. My father got sick and I had to leave Amsterdam and come home. I love Dublin too but it's changed so much in the last few years with the huge influx of foreigners that I hardly recognise it anymore.

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I suppose the only reason many craft out their resolutions for the new year is with hopes of giving themselves another chance at whatever it is they are hoping for or battling against. There's a thing for a new leaf, a new chapter, a new beginning, hence beginning the year anew is kinda akin to giving ourselves a 'clean slate' so to speak. I know it's not easy following through with whatever that's set, but it's not impossible. I think we've somehow also have bought into the perception that if we fall through in the beginning or in the process, then we can't continue. Or, it doesn't feel right starting in September. Sometimes it's really is playing tricks in our mind. To be honest, I have not really had a 'resolution' for some years now. Can't even recall what I wanted the last few years, except for family planning 😂 I think my goal in general every year is to live happily and grow in every aspect of life. The specifics? We can work it out along the way. 😊

Hi @alimamasstory

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

ps. would you consider using enter sometimes to separate blocks of text? it would make reading much easier :)

Yours
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr,
I think the end of the year has a different meaning for everyone of us. For me for example the end of the year has quite a big meaning because my business is closing an economical cycle. On 1st of january a new cycle starts and it is quite important to start with some targets that we want to achieve in this cycle.

For my employees it is motivating when they feel that there is a plan for the new year. So I always try to come up with some "resolutions" but most of the time they are related to work and business.

On a personal level I tend to take new resolutions whenever I feel that it is necessary. I don't wait for a new year to do so. You don't have to wait for the end of the year to stop smoking or start to do some sport I believe ;-).

Best regards,
Achim

Hi @achim03

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr,
Thanks for your reply. I believe that

handling the stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets

Is an important part of a learning process. When you realize that you will not manage to reach your goals it is important not to question everything you do. It should however give you a hint about the goals that you set. It is often a good idea to revise the goals and maybe to bring them down a bit. When I set my goals I often listen to my instinct. When the goals I set scare me then they are too high. When I feel a good mix between anxiety and challenge then they are ok.

To follow resolutions should always be a work in progress. When you give up because you set the goals too high then your resolutions were for nothing and you have a negative experience. When you see that you cannot succeed, then it is worth to adapt the goals and not considering the whole project a failure but rather a process.

Best regards,

Achim

I love how mature each of your comment is @achim03

Always. Love lit.

Personally I don't take very seriously all this kind of new year's wishes, as you I consider them fake illusions that people often forgets in the first opportunity they have.

Is more like a tradition than real targets that the people want to archieve, or maybe they want but don't make it real because of the difficulty on our routines.

The goals that I oftenly want to archieve are at a long range of time, trying to get to them everyday as part of my routine, that way doesn't suppose an extra effort to me, is only another step in the direction I want to go.

I'm not a traditional person, as an example of this I don't even celebrate christmas or birthdays with presents, so I suppose that this isn't so valid for everyone.

Of course I respect the people that establishes this kind of new year's goals, as I said is in their traditions and way to be.

Nice article @crypto.piotr I like the way you write and the issues that you take into debate. Cheers.

Hi @palasatenea

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

Personally I don't take very seriously all this kind of new year's wishes, as you I consider them fake illusions that people often forgets in the first opportunity they have.

It seem that we're on the same page.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

I like the way you write and the issues that you take into debate. Cheers.

Thank you :)

Yours
Piotr

Of course it feels sensible. Sometimes the goals are too indistinct. We should make them operational.

Also, any motivation that relies on a push start once a year... would work if we were exactly a push start away from reaching those goals.

The wisest thing I heard on setting goals up was...

Think of the smallest possible accomplishment that would make a difference and start with it.

A random guy on a random conference I had to cover by photos.

Thank you @manoldonchev for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

Thank you for your post. For some years I had been doing something about the new year resolutions. I hear about "The secret" or attraction law documentary. In that documentary someone talk about a dream board or wishes board or something like that... I really don't remember the name. The point is that if you want something and you want to attract it you could put it like an image over the board and then you will start to attract it.

It has work to me.I started cutting magazines, and recently for this year I made a digital image that you can see here https://steemit.com/introduceyourself/@yacobh/purposes-of-new-year

I think that is a trick, to make the intrinsical motivation become extrinsical, is like do your own publicity.

And why in new year? Well, why not? It is fun. I hope this trick will be useful to you.

Regards

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I would like to thank you @yacobh for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

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I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

When I started to do the boards I put big things into it. Now this year I put very achievable things. This allow me more focus over it.

To manage frustration and stress I make an exercise. I think what would be passed if I didn't make the dashboard. And I see what I did with the dashboard.

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Thank you for your kind comment @yacobh and for being so responsive.

To manage frustration and stress I make an exercise. I think what would be passed if I didn't make the dashboard. And I see what I did with the dashboard.

And does it help?

I really appreciate it a lot.
Yours, Piotr

I myself do not really believe in New Years resolutions, I always try to make the upcoming year a better year than the previous year. I grew so weary of people at work asking me what my new years resolution was that I actually finally made one while working and it was a simple one to keep. Of course no one thought that I would really keep it, but for two years in a row I kept it. No one else at work had kept any of their "resolutions". They were more of like you said wishes and dreams on their part.

Going into the third year of their constant triad of new years resolutions and pointing out to them their failures to keep their own I made two resolutions one so that I would never have to make another work new years resolution again, and that was easy to keep, one of the two was not to make any more new years resolutions at work. I stuck with that until I retired, so for 5 years no work new years resolutions.

I think people do not take new years resolutions serious, it is simply a herd mentality, everyone else is making them maybe I should too thing.

I would like to thank you @bashadow for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

ps.
I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

If you do not set unrealistic goals and targets, they can almost always be achieved. No stress that way, but if your goal or target is not reached, and it was a reasonable goal, then you look at why, what caused the failure, was it internal or external or something you had no control over. Not reaching a goal or a target should not be a stressful thing, it should be a learning thing. I do not understand why people stress over not reaching a goal or target, if a person is stressing out over not reaching a goal perhaps it is because they can not look objectively anymore as to why they set the goal in the first place.

So I do not stress over missing a goal or a target, just how I am I guess.

Thank you for your kind comment @bashadow and for being so responsive.

I really appreciate it a lot.
Yours, Piotr

I wonder who started this tradition. Was it their New year resolution? I don't really see the point in waiting till January the first each year to make an advancement in your life. If you want something just go for it there and then.
To procrastinate is to aim to fail. Tomorrow never comes. The Spanish are great at it. "Mañana" they cry and then go and sit under a tree in the shade.

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Thank you andyjem for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

Yours
Piotr

That's perfectly OK. @crypto.piotr Just looking at the volume of replys it doesn't surprise me at all. Keep up the good work 😎

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Dream on... never made new years resolutions in my life, set some goals, never too far ahead, get to the first quickly then able to make the next.

Achieving small bites of life, on day at a time is easier to cope with and enjoy the results, then move on.

Resolutions are like putting yourself in jail, then having to work out how long you want to stay there.

Life is too short, plan ahead, never too far ahead! Enjoy accomplishing in small steps they soon become bigger, growing in confidence to accomplish more.

Thank you @joanstewart for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

Yours
Piotr

@crypto.piotr
Happy New Year and Very Prosperous 2019.
My new year resolution is always the same. To look after my family, help them in everyway and to strive to be positive and happy always.

Thank you for your comment @cosmophobia :)

No worries I am glad to help.

Omg I just saw your memo now! lol...I am sorry!!!

I rarely even make them to be honest as I always fall short. Ha!

I am going to kick ass this year and make strides financially. I guess if I were to have a resolution, it would be that.

Dear @blewitt

Omg I just saw your memo now! lol...I am sorry!!!

Don't be sorry. Im glad you decided to drop by :)

I am going to kick ass this year and make strides financially.

Fingers crossed :)

Yours
Piotr

  ·  6 years ago (edited)

For me this is year #7 without dating, companionship or the touch of a woman - it's been brutal but one more year my heart won't be crushed-to-dust again by a H.O.T. lady!
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Congratulations @crypto.piotr! for your @steemitboard success and thank you for your kind courtesy always - a true asset to tha Steemit!

  ·  6 years ago (edited)

I think I am part of that majority that treat their resolutions as wishes.

I am terrible at setting up realistic goals for me, and I think that is why I usually have lack of motivation and I do my work just before the deadline.

Dear @ropaga

Thank you for your kind comment.

I think I am part of that majority that treat their resolutions as wishes.

So we're clearly on the same page here :)

I am terrible at setting up realistic goals for me, and I think that is why I usually have lack of motivation and I do my work just before the deadline.

OMG. That's awful hahaha :) How does it work for you?

Cheers,
Piotr

Friend. @crypto.piotr

I particularly think that there are goals, what one proposes, however, those goals are maintained but in the course of achieving those goals many times the plans change. But not the goal. I believe in opportunities, but those opportunities must be accompanied with the tools you need to be able to face those plans that change and continue with your proposed goal.

Dear @lanzjoseg

Thank you for your kind comment.

I believe in opportunities, but those opportunities must be accompanied with the tools you need to be able to face those plans that change and continue with your proposed goal.

I absolutely love your approach buddy. So great to have a chance to get to know you closer.

Yours
Piotr

I don't really have new year resolution, but I have things I want to accomplish.

Thank you for your comment @putu300

And how o you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot accomplish your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

  ·  6 years ago 

Awesome @crypto.piotr bro.

Hope my 2019 resolution will work out at least 80%, if not 100% :)

All the best to you :D

What was your resolution @wilhb81? :) Was it a long list?

Yours
Piotr

  ·  6 years ago 

Hi @crypto.piotr bro :)

There are 6 of them:

  1. Wishing my parents in good health condition
  2. Seeking for a double storey house at Kuala Lumpur/Selangor area
  3. Finish my 2nd magical storybook in this year
  4. Looking for the local publishing company to publish my magical storybook
  5. Try to make the peakmonsters.cn platform as good as possible
  6. Create a new CN based website for Steemmonsters

That is some serious list @wilhb81

ps. what is peakmonsters.cn about? I checked it out but it's all in chinese.

Yours
Piotr

  ·  6 years ago 

Ah, glad that you asked @crypto.piotr :D

Peakmonsters.cn is a CN website of the main Peakmonsters.com - it's mainly about the Steemmonsters cards trading platform :)

PS: If you haven't join Steemmonsters yet, you might want to have a look here: https://steemmonsters.com?ref=wilhb81

Thx @wilhb81 for your explanation.

I tried steemmonsters and I figured that I may not have time for it :(

Yours
Piotr

  ·  6 years ago 

No problem, just wanted to let you know about it @crypto.piotr 😁

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Great topic, and it's not too late to consider these topics! I set goals all year round, but New Year's Resolutions seem special.

But not because I am especially good at sticking to them! No, my experience has shown that one's life must be changed starting at the habit level, and working upward, not starting superficially. I have gotten some good deals on online courses at New Years time, but I have to put in the self discipline to study all year round.

Putting in effort is a prerequisite to just about everything in this life - no matter what time of year we decide to make the changes! I try to consciously analyze where my efforts are being used, and how I can improve, every day!

New Years for me has always been a good time to take introspection and see the growth over the last year!

Thank you for being such an interesting steemian Piotr!

Hi. I would like to thank you @ecoinstant for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

Also I'm very sorry for such a late reply. I just noticed that somehow I've missed your comment.

ps.
I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Thank you for being such an interesting steemian Piotr!

hahahaha you're welcome. We're all rock and roll buddy ;)

Yours
Piotr

I've never really kept up on a new years resolution. If/when I started one, by June I surely had already forgotten about it, so whether or not I succeeded is beyond me. Other times, clearly I failed. Last year I had a resolution to quit smoking. It worked for 2 months, but I started up again.

A friend of mine once said "I have fulfilled my new years resolution for 10 years now" and when I questioned how he managed that, he said his new years resolution 10 years ago was to no longer have new years resolutions, thus, fulfilling his original new years resolution to no longer have them, every year.

I like this approach, so I'm going to run with it this year. That way I never "fail" at fulfilling a new years resolution again.

On a more serious note, I've chosen to just be more goal oriented and my goals and deadlines have nothing to do with the new year. Goals tend to change for me quite often. There's not enough time in the day for me to do everything that I would like to do in a day, so it's hard to stick to any specific set of goals throughout the entire year.

Hi @bitfiend

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I like this approach, so I'm going to run with it this year. That way I never "fail" at fulfilling a new years resolution again.

I hope it will work well for you.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Every intelligent person will set goals and start immediately rather than wait until a certain date is reached.
These people are called achievers.
And then, there are the others that need excuses to delay tasks that might be inconvenient and not effortless. Many of those will not follow through with their New Year resolutions.

Dear @brokernaples

Thank you for your mature and kind comment. Appreciate.

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I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

What are you new year's resolutions?

That's the question I have recently been asked on my English lesson. I have noticed with amazement that almost no one had any resolution! It seems this practice is not very popular among younger generations.

If it comes to my personal point of view, I think that they just don't make any sense. First of all they usually don't work, but also I don't see any reason to change your life on the first January instead of any other day.

When I see an area in my life that I want to improve, I am trying to do immediately. Motivation that is given by the phrase 'new year, new me' is often fictional and doesn't have an impact on my life in a long term.

Thank you for inviting me to this interesting post @crypto.piotr :)

Amazing comment @neavvy. thank you for taking the time to reply. LOVE IT!

ps.
I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Hi @neavvy

I'll consider your approach. It sounds good to go for something whenever there is an opportunity, specially something you enjoy.

I think we should avoid making new year resolutions because we should start the thing when we realize to do it. Some people think that they will learn a thing from the first day of next year or start doing exercise from that day but they should do it right from the day when they realize that they should do it. Every day of our life is precious. We should not waste it.

Hi @akdx

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

I have developed a carefree attitude. Stress and frustrations are part of life. I handle them accordingly.

Dear @akdx

Thank you for your kind comment and never ending support :)

Appreciate it a lot.

ps.
Friend of mine is looking for crypto writers and social media marketers. Perhaps you or someone you know would be interested in such a position (check out my latest post).

Yours, Piotr

I just muted that ignorant woman, I can feel her bad energy here.. I do support you 💯 and not because of the help but because I know you are an unique human beign

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So did I @jenina619 :)

I use to be a "list " girl forever, and on occasion use one, so the resolution would be a list long of various stuffs. Now, I meditate and attempt to empty all that out of the mind and enter the quantum energy field, there lies the motivation, calmness of mind and focus on the future journey, that might include resolutions more like intentions of future me.... I think the main issue at hand, why resolutions fail is folks speak, I want to lose weight, or I want to be more active, and the frequency of want, attracts "want" instead of I AM Active, I Move my body, it's 2 completely different frequencies... Intention is a call to action, while want, or need is a frequency of lack.... how about them apples.?

Dear @kimmysomelove42

Thank you for your kind comment and never ending support :)

Appreciate it a lot.

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Friend of mine is looking for crypto writers and social media marketers. Perhaps you or someone you know would be interested in such a position (check out my latest post).

Yours, Piotr

In more recent years, I have begun to use the word "goals" instead of "resolutions". Whether one considers it the same thing or not, is not of much importance to me. The only reason why I have made that small change in name is because of the stereotypes of my, and others, attempts at starting something new, only to stop relatively quickly afterward.

I love the new year in that it provides me something to look forward to beginning - a hard date to look towards and start it strongly in mind. All of my focus and energy waits like a bull getting ready to be released at a rodeo from his gate. This helps me launch out strong. Here is where most get tripped up. They start strong, but do not have a plan to sustain the new goal they have stepped out towards. A plan is needed. Not just a plan, but something in writing and with a gathered circle of accountability to help stay the course.

Ultimately, the motivation, desire, and actual work must come from within - the new goal cannot merely be a wish, but a genuine heart that aches to see change and the willingness to do whatever and go through whatever to see that new goal come to fruition.

Hi @gabemunozoc

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

I handle stress by working out everyday. That is becoming my time alone to focus on me. While I workout, I am able to let my mind wonder and sort of get lost. One challenge however, is sometimes, if being honest, I can also drift my thoughts into thinking about problems. So I have to put focused energy into allowing my mind to drift positively. I think about where I'm at in life, what maybe I've fallen short on, how to rebound, and how can I improve.

If I begin to realize I am falling short on my goals and targets, I regroup my mind, cast out negativity, and figure out a game plan to get back on track. If I simply don't meet my goals, I always try and figure out why. Once I pinpoint the why, I can figure out how to reconfigure my plan.

Hi @gabemunozoc

I handle stress by working out everyday. That is becoming my time alone to focus on me.

Excellent solution. Is there any particular sport you do? I love western boxing.

Thanks for replying to my previous comment. I always appreciate people who engage back.

ps.
Friend of mine is looking for crypto writers and social media marketers. Perhaps you or someone you know would be interested in such a position (check out my latest post).

Yours
Piotr

And I would like to ask each one a final question. What works for you and how do you personally understand the meaning of those 3 words?

Woo my dear friend, I believe that the vast majority of us function in that way, make resolutions, set goals or set goals to achieve every year that begins, but I fear that most of us end up "recycling" the same resolutions or goals because we can not fulfill them fully.

Personally I think similar to you, in that we must set goals that have more to do with the personal, the family, try to improve as a person etc.

This does not mean that considering material objectives to achieve is bad, but I think that is part of your daily obligation for your sustenance and economic growth.

My personal opinion, I do not pretend to be right but that is what I think.

Blessings dear @crypto.piotr

Pr Euclides Villegas

BIG thx for your great comment @fucho80. I appreciate it a lot.

Thanks, I really like to read what you write, I've really learned a lot from you.

I believe that God allowed us to relate to help me grow and it is happening.

Hi sorry for the inconvenience, do you think that you can please share this information? is a gofundme campaign to help a child with hydrocephalus and epilepsy from venezuela, I made two post in both English and Spanish to spread the information also all the money that manages to raise in both post will be donated apologize for the inconvenience caused

https://www.gofundme.com/raising-funds-for-medical-expenses-for-11y-old-boy

Dear @diego01798

I'm sorry but I've been involved in few charities lately and I cannot afford (moneywise and timewise) to get involved in another one.

Yours
Piotr

Great writeup @crypto.piotr

My view on this is:
believe it or not, we all make resolutions and we keep to it, but must times we think we didn't or we never achieved it

Example

John said "this year i will not make any resolution because i didnt achieve the last on, but goes back and counts the many success he made during the year, the new degree, new job with better pay, finding love, getting married, making mistakes and learning from them (i sure made more mistakes than ever last year, and i was angry at it, but i also made a resolution to learn, so i did learn hehe)

We sure achieve most of our resolution but sometimes not in the way we wanted

Here are a few examples

  1. Your resolution was to make more money 💰 💰 💰, but you ended up spending more money than ever befor you did made more, you also spent itso if you do a check you achieve success
  2. Your resolution was to improve on your life and education, you ended up knowing much about the cryptocurrency, blochchain madness
  3. Your resolution is to be a great singer, engineer, web developer etc you never took time to learn anything on how to
  4. Your resolution is to stay fit or slim down loss weight, so you walkout daily, you dont eat right, you eat everything

The Problem

The problem is not the resolution, the problem is you. You get what you want, most times what we write down as our resolutions aren't, our resolution are writen in our heart 💞

Happy new year from Benin City Edo State , Nigeria

@crypto.piotr thanks for your concern, i appreciate.
Best wishes

Brilliant comment @ogt. thank you for taking the time to reply. LOVE IT.

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I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

No, they don’t work. The reason is simple because we don’t work. If you work for something then you will surely get something.
We make high resolutions which are difficult to achieve so we give up. Instead we should make little resolutions which can be completed easily and then they make a bigger resolution.

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Hi, I just found this Post of a new Steemian very interesting. I would like ti know your opinion? And probably you could help to bring more attention into the discussion. Thank you @masterthematrix
https://steemit.com/globalgoalsfeed/@impactn/world-economic-and-social-survey-2020-how-to-secure-a-prominent-place-for-steem

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Dear @masterthematrix

Thank you for sharing this link with me. I will read it right before bedtime.

And probably you could help to bring more attention into the discussion

Each weekend I'm trying to help and promote 1-2 posts I found interesting (related to my interests: blockchain technology, crypto, AI, psychology, economy etc).

This way Im supporting people I consider valuable, supportive and active here on Steemit. I'm also trying to resteem one post a week.

Whenever you publish something around thursday/friday then send me memo with link. I will read it, drop some comment and upvote and if I will have a chance then I will bring some traffic to your publication or resteem it.

The thing is that this weekend I already schedulled some work and I will promote 2 other people content.

ps. would you mind sharing with me where're you from? just curious. I noticed that I don't know pretty much anything about you :)

Also perhaps you could consider dropping me an email: [email protected] -> that would allow us to keep in touch closer. I will surely be happy to support you in the future.

Yours
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr I am Partiko mentor for 2 week and working to on-board Steemian to partiko app. Hope you know about it. I would invite you to start using this app. Please confirm if you're interested and i will share android or ios link to download. This is superfast app with clean UI. Waiting for your reply dear friend. Thanks

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Thanks for thinking of me @alokkumar121 but I do not really use mobile devices at all :P

I got rid of my cellphone over 3 years ago and I love it. Once I close my laptop - Im 100% offline. Noone, including my own wife can reach me hehehe :P

Yours
Piotr

Haha. It's funny but hats off to you because leaving mobile phone is too difficult though I can't do it. Thanks for response bro.

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I've seen it postulated that process oriented benchmarks are more effective than quantitative goals. For instance, if you're a writer, instead of "my goal is to finish one chapter every week", "my goal is to spend 3 hours every day writing". This sounds to me like a more human approach

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BIG thx for your great comment @bennettitalia. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

I honestly don't believe in New Year resolutions but I do believe immediate resolutions when my performances and health go down not specifically new year or so. For example I had exams on Jan 5 but I started studying way back and I started exercising in my local ground when I realised my weight had gone up. I believe in immediate response to sudden stimulus

Dear @n1hal

I honestly don't believe in New Year resolutions but I do believe immediate resolutions when my performances and health go down not specifically new year or so.

That is such an interesting point of view. So immediate resoultions works fine for you? Is that because they are instant and have a short life-span?

And what do you think about setting up targets and goals? I believe mostly in setting up targets, as Im very goal orientated person and I believe this is more efficient way of achieving anything.

Yours
Piotr

It has worked fine for me till now and I have achieved the short term goals. However there are some long term goals like planning to take what course, how and when to start studying for JEE and stuff but these resolutions are not necessarily made during new year. One thing I do is talk with a bunch of friends when I am not able accomplish these goals. In all of them there will be atleast one geek who is going to act like he is giving me enlightenment and actually it works. Second thing that works well with keeping up resolutions is competitiveness. Find people who have similar goals to yours and tease them when they give up and you get teased when you give up. Don't go enemies just competitiveness. These are the principles I believe in. Hope it helps.

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Thank you for your kind comment @n1hal and for being so responsive.

I really appreciate it a lot.
Yours, Piotr

ps. would you consider using enter sometimes to separate blocks of text? it would make reading much easier :)

Great post @crypto.piotr. It certainly is all about setting goals, planning, working at it every day, and having the willpower to consistently keep at it. Best of luck in the New Year!

Thank you for your kind comment @ebargains :)

It's great to see that you're still around,
Yours
Piotr

You've already said what I wanted to say. We really should not be caught up with the hype of this new year's resolution. If we want to start something new, no better time than now. Start with small goals and stick to it and then do more. Yes we can shoot for the stars and hit the moon but sometimes that might be a negative thing for it would end up disappointing ourselves. Do more and be better at our own pace. Don't give in to the pressure of what you see blasted by the media especially social media.

Hi @leeart

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

I am more of an accepting kind of guy of what is. I have learned not to stress myself from things that can't be. If it is meant to be, then so be it. For things I really want, I take a break sort of try to do things in a different way or find ways to do things to achieve a goal. If I cannot do it now, then I try again and do it better next time.

Hi @crypto,piotr thanks for the invitation. On this subject could debate but it saddens me not to have a decent English, is within my goals and objectives, achieve it. On the approach I would say roughly that I totally agree with you. Do not achieve all the goals and objectives indicates that we depend on extraneous, imagine our situation in Venezuela, where every day we change the plan.

It may be an advantage to work short term goals although even that is effective today. Of the three concepts, for me, they function as a cycle.
Resolution: involves handle tools to solve problems of the day-to-day basis therefore it is essential. Goals refers to the arrival, the final point, to achievement. Objective Path to carry out a project.
When we solve a problem, we have reached the goal and we return to the objectives. So we took the cycle of life. In conclusion the three concepts are important. Thanks

Hi @belkisa758

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply. And thank you for your comment.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

I think it was Solon who said that better than any pact or oath is good habits. Personally I don't make New Year's resolutions or anything like that. Why should we wait until the end of the year (or to the start) to make changes? I've noticed that we usually put these dates to postpone doing what we know we should do, and we just push it away. The best time to start is always now, at least I think so.

The only thing that has worked for me is what you say about "intrinsic motivation", working out for the tiredness sake? Damn no, I would prefer every time to be sleeping or doing many other things. However, I know I need to do it and I mentally force myself to do it, because the only thing that matters to create a habit is perseverance. After a while doing it, it is simply natural.

Start with micro goals and resolutions, and slowly work your way up to macro goals.

Absolutely.

But that's what works for me. Does something else work for you?

Greetings and Happy New Year!

BIG thx for your great comment @vieira. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

I would like to know how to answer that question but I don't know. Especially because I don't have goals or targets, I have only one, and it is life in itself, everything else I do in relation to improving myself, as if I prepared all the time just to live.

Thank you for your comment @vieira

Super post @crypto.piotr, I have upvoted and resteemed! I like to adopt the SMART method for new years resolutions. Smart, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time, failing one of these usually indicates you won't maintain your new years resolution. Thank you for the motivation! Question for you: How do you stay motivated? Do you track your progress with a new year's resolution?

Hi @blockshine

Question for you: How do you stay motivated? Do you track your progress with a new year's resolution?

Most of all: I'm sorry for such a late reply.

That's a good question. I've been doing martial arts for half of my life so I've learned to be very well organized and disciplined.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

P.S. please feel free to drop me a comment when you post something new to remind me to check it out. Thanks a lot.

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greetings, in my opinion I believe that everything is in the mentality in terms of achieving motivations or year goals, simply adapting the mentality allows to achieve what one is mostly motivated to do

thx for your great comment @ljmm. I appreciate it a lot.

Hello @crypto.piotr! I'm running late for this post because only today I was able to retrieve the computer from my house. But I've done well all these days.

Regarding the focus of the post, I can say that this is true of the motivations to undertake, above all, new things. It takes a lot more than just thinking about money to be determined to act. With respect to me, the truth is that I've never been as excited to follow the traditions of the letter as others do, I really like Christmas and everything it means, but I do not like all that work to make unrealizable resolutions for the new Year. I prefer to be aware that I have to do things differently every year and keep up with world events so I do not get left behind.

Regards!!!

Thx for your kind reply @juanmanuellopez1. I appreciate it a lot. Always.

Saludos @crypto.piotr! Vivimos en sociedades que imponen estereotipos, los cuales de muchas maneras dan la pauta a resoluciones que terminamos adoptando, pero al tiempo abandonando, porque en realidad no nacen de nuestras necesidades personales.

Lo anterior puede suceder por la gran cantidad de informacion propagandística que recibimos, algo necesario en "economía de consumo", pero y en base a, ser eficientes con recursos de dinero y de tiempo, debemos tener claro cuales son nuestras necesidades.

Para ser efectivos con nuestros alcances, primero necesitamos tener claro nuestros objetivos, como vamos a cumplir ellos, desarrollando y aplicando las estrategias previamente diseñadas para nuestro proyecto, debemos ser estrategas en estos aspectos, lo cual nos permitirá cumplir con nuestras metas, consumiendo los recursos necesarios y por ende eficientes, pudiendo así generar el menor impacto ambiental posible.

Todo lo anterior, es una cuestión de perspectiva, planteada desde mi humilde criterio.

Feliz día.

Hola @tramelibre

Gracias por este punto de vista. A veces pienso que otra pregunta importante es saber que objetivos valen la pena. Incluso puede salir oportunidades no previstas que requieren algo de improvisación para tomarlas. A la final, es todo un arte hacer que las cosas sucedan

Saludos!!

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Saludos @caribehub! preguntas cuales serán los objetivos que valgan la pena? serán los que te indiquen tu esencia espiritual y que ademas estén alineados con tus expectativas profesionales y económicas.

La vida y como lo indicas es un arte, el cual con las técnicas que aprendemos, la visión de las cosas que mejoramos, y el respeto a la vida que desarrollamos, hacemos que la obra resultante desde la humildad del individuo sea majestuosa para el colectivo.

Feliz día!

Personally if new years resolutions work for people then yes go for it but for if I want to do something or change for the better I do my best to do it asap not once a year lol. Another great post mate keep up the great work @crypto.piotr thanks!

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BIG thx for your great comment @steemingmark. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

No problem I try an set suitable achievable goals. If it's out of my hands no point to worry about not being able to change it.

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Hi @crypto.piotr, a happy late new year to you too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on a topic very dear to me. You have touched on something very interesting and unconventional by mentioning extrinsic motivation” and “intrinsic motivation.

A few times a year or less I sit down and go over the areas of my life and makes goals and plans, but rarely with a calendar

My goal is a free Venezuela, health to see it and enjoy a healthy and happy energetic life. On the other hand raise my voting power in Steemit. It's one of my big dreams.
Thank you for sharing a good article.

Nice goals you have. Hope you manage the part about Venezuela ;-)

Hi. I would like to thank you @surika for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

My goal is a free Venezuela

Good bless Venezuela. There is so much happening there lately again. I wonder in Maduro will stay in power through entire 2019.

Also I'm very sorry for such a late reply. I just noticed that somehow I've missed your comment.

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I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Thanks for the post. For me, I 'resolve' to improve my life every day, rather than every year, to keep the process ongoing rather than episodic. Improvement for me happens when I make decisions, because I always carry out my decisions flawlessly. Once I decide, I succeed if success is possible. The passing of calendar pages has very little to do with the process for me, but I understand why many people prefer to make changes on January 1st.

Thank you @drutter for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

Yours
Piotr

Thank you too. And the steem bounties are always fun and surprising :)

  ·  6 years ago (edited)

My goal is earn lot of money and healthy life

I love your goal @csharma :) Be reach and healthy. way to go. Now ... how would you like to achieve your goal?

Yours
Piotr

Hard wark. Convection, determination & mind set

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Hi, @crypto.piotr

I believe in setting goals and breaking the goals into simpler goals and endeavour with plan to achieve those simpler and cumulative goals to achieve the actual goal.
I believe since everyone has a different life and different upbringing, they need to find out for themselves what works and they JUST DO IT! just attend to their plans. I currently am not in the stage of setting year long goals. I get saturated at month long goals. So I set my routine daily, which are directed towards daily necessities and the long term goal.

Thanks
@questionthetrend

Excellent comment @questionthetrend

I believe in setting goals and breaking the goals into simpler goals and endeavour with plan to achieve those simpler and cumulative goals to achieve the actual goal.

Thank you for sharing your approach towards this issue.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

yours
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr a very happy new year 2019 to you too. It's okay if you're a bit late to wish but that's okay. Now talking about the new year resolutions, i believe on 1st jan we get 365 days to work on something we target or plan for. It's important to set few targets every year in the beginning and must work to achieve that targets as per schedule.
Thanks for the nice post

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Thank you @alokkumar121 for being always so responsive :)

Now talking about the new year resolutions, i believe on 1st jan we get 365 days to work on something we target or plan for. It's important to set few targets every year in the beginning and must work to achieve that targets as per schedule.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr greetings for the day.

Yes I feel frustrated when things doesn't go as planned and in that case I put more efforts to complete it and if in case it's stills not possible then I replan. I also try to stay cool because taking more stress is not going to help. Have a great day.

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If you spam my wallet and expect a vote on your article, please send bigger amounts.

Dear @heimindanger

I do not expect your upvote.

I'm actually spending my own resources each time to reward those who drop valuable comments with my own upvote and also I'm investing some STEEM each single time to set up steem-bounty (this is my little extra way to reward curators).

I would definitely like to hear your opinion on the discussed topic.

If you do not like receiving my memos (Im sending them not more often than once a week and only to those that I follow/following me) then please let me know. I will respect your decision.

Yours
Piotr

Your own ressources? Like 3 STEEM total to spam the whole network? Are you fucking kidding me?

I will show you how real badass people spam, ok?

Theres nothing badass about spamming but i dont understand why you are so upset about this. Are you saying you are a real badass and will retaliate by spamming him back? Cause that wouldnt make you a badass. Seems like a waste of time. I hope you have a better day. Take care. Your Badassery is your contribtions to the platform, and I wouldnt say he is spamming the blockchain any more than bidbots do when they tell me to promote myself over and over. God forbid someone does it to promote their posts, apparently thats a big no-no.

Thank you for this supportive comment @bitfiend

Dear @heimindanger

Please accept my apology. Obviously I will remove unfollow you and remove from my contact list in a minute.

Hope I didnt upset you with those memos. Im doing my best to support quality content and help some valuable Steemit users.

Unfortunately memos are one of the very few tools us (users) were provided. Have a great day.

I promise you won't hear from me ever again.

ps. Thank you @bitfiend for your support.

Regards, Piotr

LOL

Hi @crypto.piotr sorry for the late reply. It has been quite a busy year to start in the real world and I finally have some quiet time to read this through.

I don't set new year's resolutions anymore as I feel this is more of a change your mind, change your habits mindset that you can actually do so whenever necessary. That's called metanoya (μετάνοια) in Greek and simply explained as repentance from what is not working for you into what that works for you.

That, is intentional living and it can start from anytime of the year.

And pointing at external change vs internal change I would agree that internal change lasts compared to external that can temporarily last maybe for a time and for a season.

This is always a good topic to discuss. 😊

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Dear @littlenewthings

sorry for the late reply. It has been quite a busy year to start in the real world and I finally have some quiet time to read this through.

I fully understand that we all have our real lifes. Thank you for finding time to share your opinion.

I feel this is more of a change your mind, change your habits mindset that you can actually do so whenever necessary

Very interesting point of view. So it's all about mindset?

Yours
Piotr

Yes. The change of thought.
Every habit and action first come from thought.

The only problem is human tend to dwell off from the initial thought and often times allowing distractions to intercept that thought.

Hence... Most of the time new year's resolution does not work. Haha.

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Hi @littlenewthings

Thanks for replying to my previous comment. I always appreciate people who engage back.

Will follow you closely.

Yours
Piotr

I apologize for my tardy response.

"Based on my current life experience and observations I would say that the majority of people are sticking to resolutions and almost automatically they treat them as "wishes".
I strongly believe that setting up goals and targets is more efficient. ..."

I have always listened to people who make statements to themselves and use the expression "I Decree that ...". They feel that by using strong words the decision they are making will crystallize positively.
Personally I consider that doing this is a total and true "self deceive".
The resolutions of life can not be taken ipso facto.

I think that every action must be preceded by a plan. A plan is the product of the study of variables. And the most feasible option should be taken.

When we learn programming in some code language, we must learn the "logic", make flowcharts. I raise a hypothesis, if a condition is met then I do an action. If it is not fulfilled then I make another one.

This must be the method to be implemented.

On the other hand, there is the goal setting. For this we must apply the "criterion". It is true that we must be ambitious and aspire for the best, but we must also be sensible with ourselves. "I can not set impossible goals." Or at least impossible to meet in a finite period of time, or under extreme conditions.

I think I stretched too much. I hope I have expressed myself well.

Warm greetings to you, dear friend @crypto Piotr.

Dear @juanmolina

I think that every action must be preceded by a plan. A plan is the product of the study of variables. And the most feasible option should be taken.

Thank you for your amazing comment and very interesting point of view my dear friend.

I think I stretched too much. I hope I have expressed myself well.

Oh yeas, you did.

And what do you think about setting up targets and goals? I believe mostly in setting up targets, as Im very goal orientated person and I believe this is more efficient way of achieving anything.

Yours
Piotr

Almost implicitly we would be talking about the same ... almost.

The GOALS are the stages or small steps that we must take to reach the TARGETS. So, there is a coexistence of both terms.

Once the target has been defined, I must strategically establish my goals and meet each of them.

I agree to develop the necessary goals that will lead me to reach my targets.

Hugs for you my dear friend Piotr.

For me it is alway difficult to succeed with my New Year's resolutions because I am too optimistic and at some time point I notice that I can't achieve my goal.

Dear @btcsam

Thank you for your comment.

I've noticed that we both share some common interests towards blockchain and crypto.

Will definetly follow you closely. Keep up with good work :)

Have a great week ahead,
Yours,
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr,

Thanks. I try to post high quality content onn a regularly basis, so I really appreciate that you like my content. I absolutely enjoy your content as well, I'm excited to read more from you in the future.

All the best
Samuel

Hi @btcsam

Thanks for replying to my previous comment. I always appreciate people who engage back.

Will follow you closely.

ps. what do you study? and why name BTCscam?

Yours
Piotr

I am studying economics. And my name is not BTCscam, but BTCSam which is a combination of BTC and Sam (my name) haha

Omg. I feel so stupid @v hahaha :)

Such a silly mistake. I'm pleased meeting you Sam.

Yours
Piotr

I don't do new year resolutions. I've never been a big fan of that. However, I do believe in setting goals for the year and such, so that you may gauge how well you've performed at the very end. I mean tangible goals, such as reaching a certain level in certain courses or writing so and so number of books. Plus, since I 'm the kind of person who believes achieving goals is a journey, I never really expect 100% success. In fact, I think goals for the year should derive from previous goals and, ultimately, whatever you want to achieve in the next five/ten years.

Thanks for sharing!

Dear @petermarie

I don't do new year resolutions. I've never been a big fan of that.

Clearly, we're on the same page. Thanks for sharing and your great comment buddy.

Plus, since I 'm the kind of person who believes achieving goals is a journey, I never really expect 100% success

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Hey, Piotr.

Maybe I should rephrase. I don't mean I don't ever expect to achieve my goals. That would negate the need to make them in the first place. I mean I expect incremental growth. When I don't achieve 100% at my targeted date, I merely check my current percentage, set a new target and continue working towards it. Having the belief that I'll get there someday works perfectly in dealing with stress and preventing frustration.

Hi @petermarie

Thanks for replying to my previous comment. I always appreciate people who engage back.

Will follow you closely.

Yours
Piotr

New year's resolutions are great when we have the grit! Willpower ain't enough, we need someone. But my goal for this year is to have a financial and editorial writing breakthrough.

Dear @johncrisologo

But my goal for this year is to have a financial and editorial writing breakthrough.

That is noble goal. Do you mind sharing with me how old are you? Just curious.

ps. I've noticed that you're blogging about topic related to blockchain. I could help you get some exposure and bring traffic to your publications in the future. Keep in touch.

Yours
Piotr

Hello @crypto.piotr!

I'm nearly on my mid twenties.

I became so enthusiastic about blockchain when a friend introduced me to it during my college days. I did a research and the technology is so promising when it comes to health for record keeping, business like in payments and inventory management and etc.

I have started with Medium but a newbie in the platform so I also tried steemit and seems like it's a vast ocean for starters. I'm still doing my best to curate more meaningful contents and other topics no just with blockchain but it includes general economy, stock market and the other disciplines.

I really love writing my friend.

Dear @johncrisologo

I've noticed that you have very little SP. Do you struggle often with lack of resource credit?

Did you ever consider powering up?

I can delegate 40SP to you for several weeks, but I would need to make sure that you will be active here and also supporting other people content? Im trying to build healthy crypto community here on Steemit.

Yours
Piotr

Yes sir, I encounter 'lack of resource credit' most of the time when I wanted to express opinions on different posts.

I wanted too but I'm still finding ways to get resources to invest with Steem.

I would really appreciate the delegation, it will help me a lot in the platform. I will do my best to curate more posts and be more active in the community. I still need guidance in my steemit journey, realized recently that it really is vast ocean.

Thank you @crypto.piotr!

Hi @johncrisologo

Just delegated 40SP to you. Cheers buddy
Piotr

Goals are good. I am working on a few myself. Hoping to get a post up this week about a few of them. Have you taken a look at @heyhaveyamet? You might find some great new people who are interested in the crypto subject like you are.
Ren

dear @xcountytravelers

Hoping to get a post up this week about a few of them

perhaps you could send me memo with link to your new post once you publish it? this way i wont miss it :)

I've never seen @heyhaveyamet. Thx for introducing me to this profile. Will check it out right away.

Cheers, Piotr

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One of my goal for 2019 is be healthy and create something using blockchain.

Hi @r1s2g3

create something using blockchain.

That's very interesting goal. Do you know what would you LIKE to create?

Yours
Piotr

I am in learning phase, reading some technical stuff every week.

I have always taken the same approach in that goals should follow some guidelines in order to really make a difference. Even though it is based on Corporate HR “mumbo jumbo” I like goals to be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound). These small steps will encourage and motivate one to succeed within the “bigger picture.”. While it could be done at any point in time, I think that the mind is always fooled into believing in the importance of starting and finish lines with even numbers or dates. So while it doesn’t really matter when you start to execute these objectives, a level set or benchmark is always great for monitoring progress which is why I like the first day of the year to “check in” with goals.

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BIG THX @newageinv for being always so supportive and responsive :)

So while it doesn’t really matter when you start to execute these objectives, a level set or benchmark is always great for monitoring progress which is why I like the first day of the year to “check in” with goals.

Good point.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

I agree with you. Motivations are important but we need the right motivations. But even if one didn't reach one's goal or targets, we shouldn't be stress out about it but try to think where went wrong and try to reach it once more.

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Hi @kadishakho

Thanks for replying to my previous comment. I always appreciate people who engage back.

Will follow you closely.

Yours
Piotr

I make resolutions all the time, irrespective of whether it is New Year or not. :D

Thank you @hatu for being always so responsive :)

Short but right to the point.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

And what do you think about setting up targets and goals?

I believe mostly in setting up targets, as Im very goal orientated person and I believe this is more efficient way of achieving anything.

Yours
Piotr

I strongly believe that setting up goals and targets is more efficient.

On another level, goals, tasks and strict resolutions narrow the field of potentials. Isn't it better to co-create your reality with your Master self?

I dont think we ever had a chance to get to know each other. Great comment @nomad-magus

Isn't it better to co-create your reality with your Master self?

What do you mean? Do you mind sharing?

Cheers
Piotr

We are used to create life through the mind, setting goals, thinking about them, praying they will manifest, and in general walk through life from the rational point of view.

A Master focuses their attention in the now moment and allow. They release agenda, release goals or plans and surrender to Framework 2, where abundant universe, full of potentials is ready to manifest as a physical reality.

Hi @nomad-magus

Thanks for replying to my previous comment. I always appreciate people who engage back.

Will follow you closely.

Yours
Piotr

That's exactly how Steemit works🤔 steemians who success are usually moved by an intrinsic motivation just after they realizes that this is not a place to make easy money and start loving community and growing as persons and accomplishes goals I think.. btw great article you wrote here, I liked it!

BIG THX @jenina619 for being always so supportive and responsive :)

  ·  6 years ago 

My resolution is Let the body return to health and Reduce work time.
Because the boss said: Please do your work well, please finish your work, say that, will help you raise your salary, it is a lie, you are willing to work overtime for 4 hours (no salary) for the sake of responsibility, the result is wrong .
Do not work overtime, and change to sport.

BIG THX @cloudblade for being always so supportive and responsive :)

Hope you can reach your resolutions and get healthier again :)

Yours
Piotr

Shame on you being so late on your New Years post . Lol just joking I’m no better.
I find my self that procrastination comes too easy especially in the world we live in today . Their are so many distractions making it all too late easy to make excuses. I feel the biggest reason we don’t achieve our New Years resolution is as you say we are attempting to become something we are not. I have not made a New Years resolution in awhile as I believe that we always have the choice to change ourselves so New Years or not we have the ability to do this. The biggest issue with change is we have to want with all our heart to change or we will most likely fail . Why is this? Not only do most of us procrastinate , we also like routine. We find ourselves doing the same thing daily as we find comfort in it. It’s like we feel if we do the same thing daily then somehow everything will be ok and we can become upset if our day does not go to plan.
Another reason is peer pressure. For example, you decide to quit drinking as it is affecting your life. Trouble is the people you hang around with drink and they are used to you drinking. They say to you one won’t hurt, trouble is when your trying to stop it will. They mean no harm they just don’t want to change and don’t understand why you want to. As a result changing ourselves can result in losing friends. This kind of pressure can result in us failing also.
So how do we achieve a New Years resolution?
Make it something you are passionate about make it your main priority , take time to plan how you will achieve your goal. To change yourself it takes a lot of time and effort. It’s hard and you have to want it . Will you achieve it? Maybe if you want it bad enough.
Before I go this is a big generalisation and you may well be different. As we are all different in our own way. I’m only speaking from personal experience and conversations I’ve had with others.
I wish you all the best with your New Years resolution. I hope you have an awesome year!

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Excellent comment @mickvir

Shame on you being so late on your New Years post . Lol just joking I’m no better.

Indeed shame on me hahaha :)

Another reason is peer pressure.

That's very true. I was actually wondering how peopledo handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

ps. would you consider using enter sometimes to separate blocks of text? it would make reading much easier :)

Thank you for sharing your opionon.

yours
Piotr

I don't make new years' resolution.
It doesn't make sense to me. I see the future as small decision of the present, and making good decisions at present is better that declaring a promise in the air, and yet not backed it up by discipline and perseverance.

Although, swearing is more like an attitude towards the self rather than to others person, the more you swear and not fulfilled it, it means you failed yourself.

Better not promise anything, and yet do it with all your capacity throughout the year.

-guruvaj

BIG THX @guruvaj for being always so supportive and responsive :)

I don't make new years' resolution. It doesn't make sense to me.

And what do you think about setting up targets and goals?

I believe mostly in setting up targets, as Im very goal orientated person and I believe this is more efficient way of achieving anything.

Yours
Piotr

Hi Piotr,

Read your message. I am really very fortunate to get your support right from the beginning. I will surely visit those accounts. Bye for now, my dear well wisher.

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We're both lucky. Getting to know such a supportive and responsive person as you are @marvyinnovation is a great achievement :)

Yours
Piotr

Hi Piotr Sir,

I visited kryptarion's and reverseacid's articles upvoted, resteemed and commented Sir. This is for your kind info.

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Dear @marvyinnovation

Thank you for your never ending support :)

ps.
Friend of mine is looking for crypto writers and social media marketers. Perhaps you or someone you know would be interested in such a position (check out my latest post).

Yours, Piotr

Dear Piotr Sir,

Always welcome Sir.

I have also read that post Sir. But am not that much strong in the language and hence didn't apply Sir.

Thanks for your concern and support Sir.

Yours
SrinivasanT

Dear @marvyinnovation

But am not that much strong in the language and hence didn't apply Sir.

Make sense.

ps.
Good fiend of mine posted lately interesting publication: "Bitcoin was NOT in a bubble ...". I got to know him personally and Im doing my best to help him get some exposure and promote his quality work.

Perhaps you could show your support and drop some valuable comment? :) I would appreciate.

Link: https://steemit.com/bitcoin/@majes.tytyty/bitcoin-was-not-in-a-bubble-the-2017-rise-and-the-2018-consolidation-chaos-monitaur-34

Yours
Piotr

Hi Piotr Sir,

In your blog post "goals, targets and resolutions"

I read the sentence given below as "physical appearance"

"......or one’s psychical appearance to....

And I continued to read, but all of sudden, when I read it again, I was shocked because that word " psychical " is out of the context and understood that this typo creeped in somehow.

Am I right Piotr Sir?

If there is any mistake in this msg, please pardon me Piotr Sir.

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Hi!👋 ahah no worries if you sent a wrong memo I voted and commented anyway!😀 its always a pleasure to read users you reccomend!

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You're an angel @jenina619 :)

👼😊That's sweet, thanks!!

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I'm not a believer in new years resolutions. Things that are important to me don't need a date. I'm used to being reflected in most aspects. If something changes I'll try to get to it asap.

Thx for your kind reply @doifeellucky. I appreciate it a lot. Alwa

Lol. I never make resolutions, in fact I feel I'm always dragged into the new year like a child refusing to go to school.

When I finally get into the new year, I just keep riding my goal from the previous year. The long-term goal is resolution.

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BIG thx for your great comment @naijauser. I appreciate it a lot.

crypto.piotr I would agree. I never make resolutions. In fact, what I do is make gaols within something I am already doing. I think the reason why resolutions often do not work, is because change often has to involve lifestyle ...and that is way more difficult than making a resolution.

BIG thx for your great comment @melbookermusic. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Hey my friend,

Happy New Year to you and your family!! Great post! My resolution is to write a book! I'll let you know this time next year if I've managed to achieve it. :)

My resolution is to write a book! I'll let you know this time next year if I've managed to achieve it

Wow. What this book would be about?

BIG thx for your great comment @perceptualflaws. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Hello how are you, I think you are one of the best users, I discovered you today, I hope not to take your time with my greeting ..

I think you are the person who can help me in my business project launch within steemit

I studied you and I think your personality goes according to my dream, if you are interested just give me the opportunity to send you my proposal by mail, I assure you that this will be one of the most innovative projects of steemit...

Dear @abgrobert5

I'm sorry for such a late reply.

I think you are one of the best users, I discovered you today, I hope not to take your time with my greeting ..

Very kind words :) Thank you.

I think you are the person who can help me in my business project launch within steemit

Can you tell me more about your project? Would like to hear some details :) You already got my attention.

Drop me an email: [email protected]

Yours
Piotr

Great .. Thanks for answering I already send all the information to the mail

Both must be taken into account, both the extrinsic and the intrinsic must go hand in hand and condition us to achieve what we really want.

As for the question of resolutions, goals or objectives, it is good to clarify that these purposes must be linked to what fills us most as people.

I firmly believe that those who dedicate themselves for life to doing and/or achieving what they most yearn for and make them feel better, are doing well. You have to be faithful to yourself, to what you want. But above all you have to make an effort, nothing falls from heaven.

Greetings!

Thank you @psi1826 for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

ps.
I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Very good question.

That's when a serious problem arises because we're told about success from a young age, but no one tells us about failure and how much we run into it along the way.

When this happens and we reach a point where hope is lost, aware that no matter what we do because we will fail, there are usually two options. One of them is to resign yourself and live a life that you have not wanted to live, either because you have family and candles for them, or because it does not seem wise to throw yourself to die and surrender without more, so you choose to continue with the life you lead and leave aside what you most wanted to achieve.

The other option is suicide. Sounds strong, I know. But we must be honest, living a life like the one mentioned above is to live empty and frustrated. Probably thinking like that will not be of any benefit to me, but I think that he who comes into this world with goals and purposes, does the impossible to achieve them. And if, as usually happens, he fails and fails, then he will have to choose how he prefers to die. It seems to me that it is a right that everyone has.

On the other hand, whoever is really attached to these goals and purposes, will not give in to the frustration of not having achieved them. He will have, first of all, the satisfaction of being able to say that he tried. And for me, I think it's better to be able to say those words than to talk about how sorry I am for not having done this or that.

I honestly don't know what someone else would do in that position, but in my case, either I do what I set out to do, or I die trying. There is no way out.

Hi @psi1826

Thank you for your kind and mature replies. I really appreciate and value your comments a lot.

Yours
Piotr

well said friend .. learn much from
it

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Thanks for dropping by @tommyl33 :)

I have never made a new year's resolution. Like most holidays, these are dates set by OTHERS and I don't necessarily follow others like a sheep, but rather follow my own path at my own pace. If there is something that I wish to achieve, then I set a goal immediately and don't need to wait for the new year to make a resolution. If that goal is important, then that is what motivates me to keep working on it to ensure success. If it is something un-important, then it is more wishful thinking and was never really set as a goal.

As far as I can remember, this has always been the way I do things and it has worked quite well for me. I'm rarely disappointed because I don't set trivial goals and the ones I do set, I research to make sure it is something I could reasonably expect to achieve.

Thank you @happyme for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

And I'm sorry for such a late reply. Just noticed that I've missed your comment somehow.

ps.
I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Let's take Steem as an example:
When I began here, I thought that if I worked hard that I would gain more followers and that I would eventually grow into a dolphin. I set my goal to reach 1,000 SP and was hoping to reach that by the end of my 2nd year. That didn't happen.

It is kind of frustrating, but at the same time I realize that growth here is extremely dependent on others, so I have no real control over that aspect. No point getting all worked up over something I have no control over.

Then the price of Steem dropped and made it worth buying. Instant dolphin status! WOOT!!!! AND I far surpassed my original goal. Double woot!!!

I believe patience and perseverance overcomes almost all situations. One must also be flexible and willing to adapt to change. I had not planned to ever buy Steem; but then I also never thought that Steem would ever go below $1. The situation changed and I changed my plans to match.

In life, there are no absolutes; everything is relative. As long as we can change our perspective, we can never really lose. Instead, it becomes that you may not have gained as much as you had wished for.

Back in the days of chat rooms, I picked up a tag-line that I really love:
When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at are different!

In other words, you can look at the same objects or situations but see something very different simply by altering your perspective.

Wow. Thank you for this amazing comment @happyme

RESPECT :)

Indeed growing on Steemit is not as easy and fast as one would hope it will be.

WOOT!!!! AND I far surpassed my original goal. Double woot!!!

Love it! :)
Piotr

Dear @crypto.piotr this is a great post in order to reflection and evaluation of our life purposes. From my point of view each day can be a new year but each day can’t have a different purpose. Is important be constant and persistent and our purposes and to finish projects in order to open new purposes. Is important to think retrospectively when a year ends and prospect your new year based on your previous performance. Now I want to wish to you happy new beginning and a great development of new and previous goals. Cheers

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BIG thx for your great comment royer94. I appreciate it a lot.

I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

Yours
Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr , I am very sloppy person. I often set some goal and if I finish it's over the deadline. For the year 2019 my resolution is to find a better job. Wishing you good luck in fulfilling your resolutions.

Thank you @hairyfairy for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

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Hi @crypto.piotr, a happy late new year to you too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on a topic very dear to me. You have touched on something very interesting and unconventional by mentioning “extrinsic motivation” and “intrinsic motivation”.

Conventional behavior modification techniques and systems put too much value and rely too much on three factors - motivation, discipline and willpower. These are the things that you can expect the least from persons who are struggling to put some order and calmness in their life. I touched upon these points in one of my earlier posts:

https://steemit.com/newyearresolution/@successforall/new-year-resolutions-why-they-don-t-stick-no-not-for-the-reason-you-think

We need to look at the root cause of what is preventing us from bringing about a behavior modification naturally and effortlessly, confront them and come to terms with them without expecting too much help from motivation, discipline and willpower.

It all boils down to our belief system, in particular, the part of the belief system that is preventing us from creating a new behavior. When we take care of that part of the belief system, everything will fall into place.

Wish you all success who have made a new year resolution.

Success is our birthright.

Big thx @successforall for your comment and for sharing link to your previous post. Appreciate it a lot.

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Dear friend
Our purposes are an impulse for us to try every day to do things in the best manner possible, there is no need to strive because every moment in life has its own sense. So it doesn't really matter if you begin to want to do everything better now or in June. My personal resolution this year is focused in happiness, so I can tell you I will maintain it for life.
Your notes don't bother me at all, I like being able to share with you.
I love you

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Not long go I wrote a note in Spanish named "Control ante situaciones difíciles" (Control when facing harsh situations). There is the answer to your question.
With appreciation
Luisa

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Thx @slwzl

Some research says that "By the 15th of January every year, over 70% of New year resolutions have been broken"

I usually make up my new year resolutions immediately after the 15th, so today i wrote down somethings i would like to follow through on as my new year resolutions, i pray and hope i achieve them, BTW Wonderful piece @crypto.piotr.
Happy New Year.
Cheers.

IT's so great to hear from you again @iamchijamz :)

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Hello @crypto.piotr, I do not make resolutions for the new year.
there is no time like the present. All I can see is good things ahead.
I have some routines and I schedule my assignments one day at a time.
I go for a day or two to do whatever I want.
For example, today I stay at home and dedicate my day to study Steemit, watch videos and cryptography news and as long as love lasts. hehehe

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Hello piotr, I take any failure, as an experience, that makes me grow and mature.
So in reality for me the failure does not exist.
I just think: "If so, for something it will be". And, I keep going.
What comes will always be better.

It's easier said than done I guess. We mustn't just make new year resolutions because it's a habit but only from deep conviction and resolve within ourselves.

Ok bro, you asked for my opinion and I'll give it to you free-flowingly. It's just my opinion and I'm not a fan of NYRs :~O

My thoughts on RESOLUTIONS, GOALS, TARGETS:
If stressed over, these can be a massive consumer of energy, a massive waste of time. A spinning trap of fear-based thinking that tries to control the future in the image of the past and wants to ensure that "I know wtf is gona happen coz I'm scared of the unknown!!". 'Trying' to do something is an indication of 'not knowing how to do it', for otherwise one would be doing it. 'Planning', for me anyway, has been a superb substitute for action in my life - talking and thinking about doing but never really doing. In any case, any 'results' I got were always different enough to render the type of planning in resolutions, goals and targets pretty useless beyond a basic consideration of possibilities/probabilities. These results/outcomes I ended up with were also superior to anything I might have imagined or 'planned' for lol.

One can have an intention to improve oneself and 'plan' the practicalities (without stressing over other stuff like what one is going to wear at the gym or whether girls prefer six packs or seven packs on tuffguys ;), but why wait for a specific date to execute? Gym memberships skyrocket in January and by Feb the enthusiasm and motivation is gone.....poof! Extrinsic/Intrinsic motivation is a great way of looking at this - why is the action being undertaken in the first place? As you say, is it "good for your overall mental and psychical health and not just to look good”? And if one feels that one's mental health depends upon looking good, one is simply caught up in an extrinsic cycle which seeks external approval, even if one thinks it may be intrinsic...these mindgames can be pretty subtle!

There is of course a lot of social conditioning, MSM marketing and bullshit-peddling around resolutions, goal-setting, hard work blah blah. Perhaps NY resolutions are low-hanging carrots that people consume in order to feel good and psychologically offset the debauchery of the festive season!? Also the new year is a new start, a clean slate (at the time of NYR setting anyway) and this may give rise to grandiose statements of intent. But if a big drama is made about setting NYRs with plenty of blah blah, the fall, when it comes and one finally accepts that the gym membership was a waste of money and stops going, simply leads to more guilt and depressive states, encouraging yet further debilitating self flagellation.

It's like gifts.....why wait for an occasion if you have something for someone? Just do it without fuss, without drama, without expectation of return. Otherwise one is disguising the real motivation (even from self) and is just playing the same old shitty game of fuck yawl, I'm the only one here!


Cheers Piotr 🔆

Brilliant comment @barge. thank you for taking the time to reply. LOVE IT.

I'm not a fan of NYRs :~O

It seem that we're on the same page.

Perhaps NY resolutions are low-hanging carrots that people consume in order to feel good and psychologically offset the debauchery of the festive season!?

It's hard not to agree with your logic.

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I was also wondering how do you handle stress and frustration once you realize that you cannot reach your goals and targets?

He he, well I guess the frustration is the realisation that things are not going according to plan. So why plan in ultra detail? Lots of detail on a plan for the future means lots of disappointments coz details will be different and they cannot be controlled. A similar outcome to the planned/desired outcome can be achieved through a flexible approach that doesn't get bogged down in detail.

Fewer details of micro-planning for the future = greater flexibility = less stress/frustration over changing details.

Planning can be a BIG control issue - trying to control exactly what the future looks like, how others will react etc. This can be emotional rather than rational, and often is. The emotional swirling is where stress and frustration lie. A flexible approach just sways with the breeze, like bamboo - bending and adjusting but not snapping!

The plan, the idea, the intent - they can all be kept fairly simple. They will work out in unexpected ways and the results may be 'better' than the 'heavily planned' outcome.

Thank you for your kind comment @barge and for being so responsive.

I really appreciate it a lot.
Yours, Piotr

Hi @crypto.piotr I wish you a happy new year, maybe everyone has a lot of plans in this new year, and every plan, goal and resolution must be different, it all depends on and returns to each of them, and if I think I don't exist personally all my goals, targets or resolutions are run like flowing and maybe if on this platform my target is how to be able to progress and develop again because as we know the steem days are getting down and maybe the users of this platform are getting more and more days the more lost, in my opinion, because they are increasingly lazy to work, maybe that's according to my perception😄

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Happy new year @crypto.piotr

It is hard for me to keep up to my new years resolution to the fact that, i do not really like being NOT FLEXIBLE.

I adjust things as i go along towards my goals. But usually, I have a habbit of a goal getters😊.

Having a new years resolution is a good thing as to guide me where my direction going.

Good morning from Singapore
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Hello, my goal the first days of the year, is to work hard to get the money to buy a pc or lapto to work from my home. If other people have tried and reached it, I can do it too. With the facilities of social networks I can advertise what I do daily. I have to do a lot to achieve that goal, since those teams are very expensive.
Greetings from Caracas, a kiss.

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All 3 is just word . Without affirmative action, all are just noises. To me , understanding why , determine the drive matters more than all the noises.

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Hello my friend! :D
I don't do "New Year's Resolutions" myself, but I have friends that say they have them, but most don't follow through. :D I'm not sure if its due lack of motivation, lack of time, unrealistic resolutions, or something else entirely, once the new year starts they just seem to fall to the wayside. :D
For myself, my only goals are the ones to be kinder, less judgmental or grumpy than I was the day before, and to try to remember to appreciate the little blessings as well as the big ones in my life. :D That's why I joined the #gratefulvibes family, it helps me remember to appreciate all my blessings. :D There are so many that people take for granted without even realizing it. :D
I hope you achieve your macro and micro goals, just remember to give yourself a break if you don't meet every one of them and to appreciate the ones you do reach. :D
God bless you. :D Have an awesome day my friend! :D

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It was my pleasure @crypto.piotr. :D
No worries at all, I've missed a comment or two myself, sometimes they're hard to see, it would be easier if the whole thing turned grey once you've read them, at least I think it would be for me. :D
Well, to be totally honest, there are days when I lose it for a couple minutes and shouldn't be allowed near anyone, those are usually the bad pain days, but other days I take a moment and a few deep breaths, to help me get over it, then I start to sing or hum an upbeat song and that makes it better for me. :D
I also try again the next day. :D
God bless you. :D Have an awesome day my fabulous friend! :D

Dear @frostyamber

it would be easier if the whole thing turned grey once you've read them, at least I think it would be for me. :D

Very true :)

Thank you for your mature reply.

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Piotr

Hello @crypto.piotr this is a down to earth piece of information and i must be honest i really like the amount of time you spend on producing your content. Anyway you are right intrinsic motivational factors are the best to fuel you to achieving your set goals.

Extrinsic factors would always die out and leave you wandering in the way. Anyway i use a simple to do list each and everyday in my life setting small goals and trying to achieve them.

Whatever that happens i have advised myself not to stress out myself in case i am unable to achieve some goals because at some point in time some situation would definitely be out of hand.

Unless i forgot i have replied your email message (cliff124emmra) so do well to check it out or you can reach me quickly on telegram @Archerlive

Yours Ikkelins :)

Dear @ikkelins

i really like the amount of time you spend on producing your conten

Thank you. I think I spent to much time on Steemit and sometimes Im forgetting that there is real life around us :)

Unless i forgot i have replied your email message (cliff124emmra) so do well to check it out or you can reach me quickly on telegram

I will check my email box soon.

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Hi @crypto.piotr i uderstand you perfectly you know. You have a very large audience and sometimes staying up to each of them really takes time but i really admire the idea that you take time and reply every one of them. That's great. Looking forward to hearing from you. If there is any quicker way of getting in touch with you please let me know in the email message k.

Dear @ikkelins

Hi @crypto.piotr i uderstand you perfectly you know. You have a very large audience and sometimes staying up to each of them really takes time but i really admire the idea that you take time and reply every one of them

Thank you for your mature and kind comment. Appreciate.

Is there a chance that you would re-send your email?

If there is any quicker way of getting in touch with you please let me know in the email message k.

I will be slowing down with my activity on Steemit by almost half. I realized that I cannot keep up with this tempo. So I will have more time to reply emails and also chat via telegram :)

Community and Bounty Manager. A very hardworking young man! Hire me

I love your telegram description. Did someone hired you already? :)

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Hello @crypto.piotr it was nice of you to reach out though and I have not been hired yet so in case you got any project up your sleeves you can fill me in :)
Yours Ikkelins

hi @ikkelins

Friend of mine is looking for crypto writers and social media marketers. Perhaps you or someone you know would be interested in such a position (check out my latest post).

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So far I'm 18 days with no cigarettes. I know it's silly to think that the position of the sun in relation to the earth somehow affects my self control when it comes to smoking. But I feel as though it did.

Thank you for your kind comment @deanbrown :) And Im sorry for such a late reply.

Happy New Year! (its never late to wish something good) :D

"I don’t think making and keeping new year’s resolution work mainly because it happens due to “extrinsic motivation” as oppose to it being an “intrinsic motivation” instead." - I think this is exactly the reason why most of new year's resolutions don´t work. People do them to share with others based on the "extrinsic motivation" of the occasion. Not because they are focused on doing those things, but because they wish they could have it without putting any work towards it.

Finally, those 3 concepts have similar intentions, but work in different situations.
I rarely hear the word Resolutions other than by New Year´s time.
Goals and Targets are the "same thing", but if used in the wrong situation could lead to disaster. For example, setting goals for your professional career makes complete sense, but setting goals for money betting will lead you to negative results.

Thank you @diogosantos for your comment. Appreciate it a lot.

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Hi @crypto.piotr
I would focus on a few things trying to manage emotions and sticking to my purposes.

It is easy to get distracted. The challenge is to keep focus even while feeling down.

Probably I'll have to decide whether to acomplish a specific goal or to abandon it due to convenience reasons.

This means that probably I have to evaluate things constantly and make changes along the way.

Some goals could be boring in nature, like earning money by doing boring and well paid activities. This could be manage by adding interesting goals like traveling to someplace.

I'm not a big fan of "make money with your passion". This thing is about supply and demand but this is another topic.

I hope this helps

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Hi @crypto.piotr, that's a good question.

I just let the feeling go. Once i feel calm (even after a long time), I evaluate the situation to decide what to do.

Probably I would abandon the goal and move to other one.

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According to Wikipedia:

New Year's resolution, a commitment that an individual makes at New Year's Day

A New Year's resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their life.

To shorten and simply understand it, its actually improving our lives.
I would say therefore that New Year's resolution works.
Its simply because we could change our lives, its doable.

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I handle stress and frustration by accepting them with no regret and study them why and how they came and learn from them, then move on when they disappeared. We can't be stressed and frustrated all the time, so there's nothing to worry about.

Thx @ronel for being so very responsive. appreciate it a lot.

Yours, Piotr

I am not really good at making plans or resolutions so i just try to be good everyday and do more then the day before

I am not into the whole New Years Resolution thing - but you could say that a resolution - or a setting of intentions has to come first. then, you have to believe that whatever it is you want to do is possible. After that is done, then it is time to set goals and figure out the action steps required to get there.

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No worries about a late response :)

Stress and Frustration:

First off, I try and mostly do practice self-care. Exercise, healthy food, yoga, gardening and such.
Second, I stop and breath when I get very upset. Maybe do some breathing exercises.
Third, I put things into perspective.
is it a life and death situation - No, chill out.
Will I remember not meeting this goal in 20 years?
Will I feel the impact in 20 years?

Usually, the answers to all of that is no. So, I figure tomorrow is another day.

I have had many losses and experiences in my life, including surviving cancer, that I am pretty good about not getting excited or worried.

I have an app on my phone called Access Consciousness. You can set it to remind you to stop and check how you are doing - if your mind is going round and round and such. If you find a monkey mind, there are steps to fix that.

Basically, the more you practice, the easier it is to move through times of stress and upsetness.

And getting enough sleep is huge!! Maybe the most important thing. Most people do not sleep enough (8 hours) and function poorly because of it. Lots of science is confirming this.

Be well :)

Hi @mariannewest

Thank you for your kind and mature reply. I really appreciate and value your comments a lot.

I have had many losses and experiences in my life, including surviving cancer, that I am pretty good about not getting excited or worried.

wow. That surely made you a very strong person.

And getting enough sleep is huge!! Maybe the most important thing. Most people do not sleep enough (8 hours) and function poorly because of it. Lots of science is confirming this.

Very true. I love to sleep almost 8h (I do some breathing excercises right before as it helps recover much faster). Plus afternoon power-naps. Like a baby hahaha :)

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The three words mentioned didn't work on me since I was a kid, and all just easily became a wishful thinking. What I do and works best on me is to just make a decision, a decision to do what I want or want to become. The word decision feels more personal and is like your in agreement within yourself until it is done and you make another decision. So since I learned that it became a habit now for me.

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